What do you do when you don't trust anyone anymore?

Oh my word, that is scary! Since they know it is an understanding, could they tell you who reported it? Or do you think you can figure it out by thinking of the only people who knew about it? I would be paranoid too. I'm going to pray about this when I finish my post to you. This is something very hurtful, and I want you to know I'll be praying for the whole situation to be handled the best way for you and your children. Hopefully that will mean the one spreading false things is brought to light.

This happened to us as well but children's aid was not as friendly as my children were babies at the time but they did leave us alone when tests were run on my children to prove abuse and there was nothing to fine as we would never hurt a child let alone our own . They ran exrays on my son in the hospital when I took him in because he was sick and I was later told that if a child is abused in any way that they results will show even years later . The adminitrator of the hosptial apologized to us and wanted to know if we were going to sue them ( which we had said no , we just wanted to take our son home ) , but it didn't make me feel any better either . I knew we were not in any way hurting our children as I can't understand why anyone would have children and then hurt them as they are a part of us and my children are my life to me . My husband and I did find out who reported us and found out it was his sister in law who was mad because we were not taking her advice ( when told by a doctor not to do as she had instructed ) so she decided to report us for hurting our children for not taking her advice . We disowned her from our family and didn't have anything to do with her until years later when now she is divorced from my husbands brother because she was always causing mischief and he finally realized that all the things he was told about her were true . He backed her up at the time as he believed the lies she told him and we understood this as she was his wife but it does make you have little faith in people . I don't have any faith or trust in doctor's anymore realizing that instead of talking with a family they are willing to run a test that goes against their policy to prove they are right and when they are wrong they are quick to get rid of any records showing they were involved in something that was done illegally . We were told at the time we could sue for what was done but we were not looking to sue anyone as we just wanted them to know that we would never hurt our children but years later when I took my son in because he was sick they called to get him medical information and wanted to know where he was born , when told he was born in their hospital , I was told this was not possible as their was no records showing that I had ever been in their hospital and neither was my son and they argued with me that I must have had him someplace else and even got nasty when I told them I had pictures to prove he was in their hospital and they had obviously misplaced their records . I know today they got rid of them out of fear that we might ever go back and sue them ( which we would never have done unless we had lost our children for no reason ) . I sympatize with you as I know what this feels like and the worst thing is that even if you find out who did this , it will always be hard to have trust in those around you , when you know you did nothing wrong and you would never do this to someone else as you realize how much it would hurt to ever lose your children . As much as I hated my sister in law for what she did , I was very careful about what I said as I knew she loved her children even though I didn't agree with the way she was raising them but knew she was not hurting them and it was her way of doing things and I would never hurt her children by reporting her for something that wasn't true and would hurt her children so much as they loved her the way my children love us . I wish I had something to say to make you feel better about this situation but it is never nice to be accused of something you know is not true and knowing you would never do this to someone else . Take Care and Best of Luck !! I would just like to add that moving is not always an option because you will always run into individuals in your life who can't be trusted and who are only trying to hurt others with their vicious lies . I know as I wanted to move for years as well and at times have still wanted to move but realize that moving will not solve what has already happened .

The same thing happened to a friend of mine and she was so distraught over it. I was upset by it to since I was always around and saw no reason for it. Of course they found nothing wrong but it's an experience no one wants to go through. There was only one person it could be, or so we thought. This was her child's aunt and a good friend of hers. This person is known to be very vindictive. Later down the road we found out that it wasn't the aunt, but the great grandmother. The worst part is she was temporarily living with the grandma when she found out it was her. It's a shame that people feel the need to make false claims like this. I'm sorry you had to deal with this. It does make it harder to trust anyone. It doesn't make sense why people want to stick their nose where it doesn't belong and stir up trouble like that. I could understand if the children are being abused.

Wow, thats a bit shocking...I would not trust anyone either..You would think that they would be adult enough to actually approach you with their concerns first before calling in childrens servives..

I'm sorry you had to deal with that. Some people "think" they are doing something in the childrens best interest and they really aren't. I'm sure child services contacted this person and already told them not to make calls about something that is not true. My sisters mother-in-law called child services on her, but although my sister disagreed with it, I didn't. My sister kept her house as a pigsty. There would be month old pull ups laying around the house and you couldn't walk through their whole house without stepping on something. They told them to get it clean in three days or the kids were outta there. So it was justified...but still...no parent wants child services called on them. I just can't stand when people always butt their nose into other peoples business.

If I be sure I'll give up any relationships to them as soon as posibble if it's necessary I call police or my friends for more help this has woreked in many situations before for me.

here's the thing, a person who is untrustworthy, you can be sure that he/she will be untrusworthy but a trusworthy person, you can be sure that he/she will make a move that is untrusworthy. all i am saying is that i know that i can be untrusworthy sometimes but i don't do this all the time. i do this is some occassion, when it needs to be done. there are times that we do what we have to do to get things moving ther directions that we want them to move. people make mistakes, i know i do. if you understand yourself, you will understand people. it's alright not trusting anybody because you have the knowledge that anybody would break their word or promise in some point in their life. just be prepared when they do because it might cause you some pain. just think positive. all will be alright.!!!!

taylorblue, I am so sorry this happened to you, how horrible of a thing to go through. I am glad that childrens aide could come and see you did not do what was said you did. I hope the person who called in the abuse gets hers in the end. I feel what goes around comes around. I feel if you do something to her you are stooping to her her/his level. I feel if you confront her and say something like "HO by the way childrens aide was at my home thanks for calling them, they now now I am a good parent and I would not do anything to harm my children." and just some hints like that might just piss her off. but if you confront a person like that it might start a war you do not want to be in. I feel by holding your head up and acting like it did not happen will be the the best to do. I feel people like her will get hers one of these days.

Taylorblue, What a sad situation you are in. I live on quite a few acres and the closest neighbors are a good distance away. I can't imagine living cose to someone I can't trust. My first suggestion would be to file a report with your local PD about this neighbor harrassing you. That way it is on record. I have head too many neighbor horror stories. Protect yourslef and your kids and just stay as far away as you can from these mean hateful people. I wish you all the very best with this.

I guess you should get rid of those false prestages and move forward with cofidence and pride.they do it again for just one more time or two or three and then????they will stop...So life is about how much you can get hit to keep moving forward...A own motivational sentence from me :)

If you don't trust anyone,you should try your best to trust yourself.In all,you will do good to yourself.

I agree with you, i think you should move. or atleast talk to the people who blackmailed you, i'm sure they had a good reason. :)

:/ What did they report? And.. someone is watching you?

I'll make test for him to be sure that he/she is swindler or not ,If he succeeded . These may be some rumors . Thanks for your discussions' Mahmoud

Well, I am sorry to hear that but sometimes people just don't know how to keep their noses out of everyone's business. I think they do not have anything better to do with their lives. If I don't trust anyone anymore, I just get away from those people as far way as I can.

Reported falsely about YOU?? OH HELL NO!! someone would get a serious beat down for that one! Hell no!! nope nope nope....wouldnt be letting that one go for a ny second!...What would I do? Probably something totally not in my best interest like knockin on doors of the ppl I suspect and raising all bloody murder! I'm hotheaded like that....That aside though, I'd be keepin a close eye on how ppl react to you over the next couple days....Whoever pulled this stunt WILL make it known (unknowningly) that it was them in how they react to you, your kids still being with you and so on....Once you figure it out..THEN go knock the crap outta them!...no dont do that...Then I would seriously consider confronting them on it in a really rational, calm way with a glimmer in your eye that makes them REAL uncomfortable ;-)

Years ago I got turned in to Division of Aging for abusing my Hubby. They found out it was a load of cr*p and threw the whole report away. We found out later that it was his ex-wife that called and she was trying to cause trouble for me. Some ppl will turn ppl in that they are mad at. Have a great day!! AT PEACE WITHIN

hopefully it won't happen to me. because if it would, this world would be much worse, would not worth living any more.

i have never been really reach into the point of distrusting anyone. Is good or not? But I think fate is just so good to me and blest me a lot. Well maybe if this happens to me,(hope not) maybe i would go after the one responsible in giving false information that has affect me a lot and ask him why he did that! And from there i would start to make course of action! heheheh sounded like a pro. But kidding aside, i wish you'll overcome this situation. Just view it as your learning experienced. So the next time you will be more responsible of your actions.