Sad passing of valued Mylot member--tmlnmr

This is the beautiful thing about the Mylot community. People who don't know each other in real life reach out and genuinely show their love, care and compassion for others. In my view this is a spiritual express of unconditional giving towards others. Thank you for caring enough to respond to this post. I wanted to honor her memory because she loved the Mylot community and wouldn't want people not to know where she went. We were on-line and personal friends...and she will be missed in both dimensions by all who knew her and her hubby.

I am sorry to hear about this too. we all are like Family here. I didn't know her, and I don't think she was one of my friends, but I just want to expess my deepest sympathy. May god give the rest of her family strengh.

Thank you for caring...and for your willingness to offer prayer support to their loved ones. 'Tams' will be missed at Mylot...and their presence in our lives will leave a void until the wounds heal. However, the love and support of friends in Mylot Land in our regular life will assist all of us to the loss.

See...this is the magnificence of who you are sweet, precious Lakota..even though you have your own challenges right now...here you are offering love and support to others. We all know you will overcome...because we need Earth Angels like you here! See those Angel Wings of yours are always being put to good use. Thank you for your thoughts...the one thing that I draw comfort from is she and her husband were going through rough times...and now they are at peace. It will take friends and family awhile to reach that place...but they will eventually. Wishing you lots of hugs and blessings too! We will keep in touch. Raia

your welcome and I do hope the family comes to terms with this soon so hard when they go together like that for families to adjust. HUgs and blessings to them. Maybe they need some wings wrapped around them too.

Thank you for that. It is hard for the mother of our friends husband...she was the one who found them..and call the R.C.M.P. Another friend of ours was there and had to identify the bodies...so yes, it is a very difficult time for family, friends and the rural community they left behind. Yes, I am sure they do need those angel wings..hopefully they will have them soon. Blessings, love and light to you...my candle is lit for you as I post this. Raia

Thank you for your kind words...if you want to check out her site it is listed in response to some of the other comments. Pyewacket suggested that we post some parting comments to her as a tribute. If you'd care to the one I posted was on her discussion on Life...rather ironic...but seemed appropriate somehow. Best regards..and thanks for stopping by.

I'm so sorry to hear this sad news. I think I remember her, but I'm not sure; I will visit her site after I post this. I just wanted to say although I didn't know this young couple they are certainly in my prayers now. My daughter is also 37 years old, to me that's just a baby! I'm 55, and I still feel I have alot of life yet ahead of me. myLot really is a wonderful site with even more wonderful members! I fell like I know so many of you so well and it's nice to know you have friends like this! I'm so sorry, and thank you for passing this horrible news on to the rest of us. Annie

Hi Annie...thank you for your care and concern. Yes it is difficult news to hear...and I appreciate you checking out Tammy's site. I some odd way it seems that we are honoring her presence here...even those who had no contact with her before. Thank you for offering prayer support to family and friends. We are not sure when the memorial for them will be...but it will provide a measure of closure for us to get together and celebrate their lives and the special imprint they made on our heats. It seems very important because without Tammy encouraging me to participate here I would never have met all of you and forged the on-line friendships I have here. So I will always feel deeply appreciative that she facilitated it...and that is why I wanted people to know so they can understand why she is not longer keeping in touch as she once did.

Thank you...it is very sad that it happened. She was an avid Mylotter...and was the one who encouraged me to become a member. I would never have thought that choice would lead me to posting a discussion about her and her husband's sad and sudden departure. Thank you for offering prayers to her family and friends...I know prayer makes a difference. News like this gives us all reason to pause and count our blessings. During times like this we all appreciate the connections we have..on-line and in our regular lives. If you want to check out her site it is: htt;://mylot.com/tmlnmr. When you read her posts I know you would have like her...she had a gentle nature...and a very good heart. She was only 37 and had a heart attack in May of this year...it really turned her life...and her hubby's upside down. She talks about it in some of her earlier discussions. So yes, please keep the prayers coming...everyone will embrace them...they are appreciated, as is your caring attitude. Warm regards, Raia

Thank you pendragon...it is somewhat challenging. They were young...with many who loved them. Sadly, they were unable to allow that support them enough to stay...but I honor their right to chose the path they felt they had to take. We will chat soon...thanks for caring. Raia

Oh dear one..here you are again...reaching out...across the 'pond'...so far...and yet so very near in spiritual terms. I feel your love, warmth, care and compassion encircling me and I feel blessed and very grateful. And yes, your intuitive knowing and our SoulSister bond is allowing you to feel the sadness and sense of loss I am feeling. Tam led me to Mylot...how strange it is to go back to her site and know she will never make another post. Also that without my willingness to become a member...I would have had no way of sharing her passing with you and others. The ripple effect of our choices never ceases to astound me. My hubby and I went through some rough times at the beginning of the year and Tams and her hubby Rob were a great support to me..and my Sweetie. My sadness comes because they were unable to reach out and take the hands of those of us who were offering and encouraging them...but they obviously were not in a place to receive it. There is such a bittersweet feel to this because my hubby and I are in a good place now...and I wish that Tams and Rob could have stayed long enough to discover what we know...that everything has a beginning, middle and end...and that the sun can and does shine again after the darkness of uncertainly leaves. However, I also accept their right of free will...and this was their choice. So like you within my metaphysical spiritual framework..I believe that they are at peace...and much happier than they have been lately. With all the prayer support they are receiving I truly do believe that they are...as you say, "Resting in peace and eternal light." I have also been lighting my candle for Lakota since reading your post yesterday and I am similarly joining you and others in turning up the resonances around her as she moves into, through and beyond the current challenges she is facing. The wonderful thing about Lakoata is her innate strength, positive attitude..and the choice she made to ALLOW all of us to be there rather than taking the other route that Tams and Rob did. Choices...we all have a right to choose...and accept the consequences. So with all the love, light and unified energies we are sending the world is bound to feel brighter...at least for now. So thank you again...for adding your wise woman wisdom and loving light here. You know how much it touches my heart and nourishes my spirit and I love you for it. May all the good you send out towards others continue to richly enhance your life. We will chat soon...and until we do...hugs and many light filled blessings. Raia

Thank you susnshinecup...yes it is tragic. Her site is still up...so if you want to touch back in and see more of who she was...I am not sure where to go with that right now. It seems appropriate to leave it up for awhile...she loved Mylot and was the one who led me here. I was thinking how strange it is...if I hann't followed her...I would not have been able to make Mylotters aware of her passing. When I checked into her site it feels so hollow without her presence within it. Thank you for your prayers for the family...and please include ones for Tams and Rob too. I know now I can put her real name up...it is all a way of saying goodbye to her...because she and her hubby will be missed here...and within our community here where they lived. Thanks for always being here...and continuing to be your bright...beautiful Self!

Thank you...they were going through some rough times and we thought they would find a way to get through it with the love and support we offered. I guess this was the way they chose to get through it...and I also pray that their souls will rest in peace now.

Thanks lecanis...I would like to share more about the circumstances...because you and a few others truly feel like soul sisters. In the meantime just knowing you are willing to offer your love, light and energetic support to her...her hubby and the family means a lot to me. The really eerie part for me in this is her website is still up there. I will contact Mylot...but it seems so strange to know she logged on 3 days ago. I was re-reading some of her discussions now there will be no more. You are so right...life works in strange and mysterious ways. Take care of yourself and your son..as I know you are working so hard to do. Love and light blessings are coming your way too. Raia

Thank you for honoring her memory by checking out her site..and posting it here. I also noticed she had not been on-line for 3 days...that is not like her. She and her husband were facing a lot of personal challenges and that led to this. Thank you for offering your prayers to loved ones and friends...we all welcome them.

Thank you...and I do. It is ironic that she referred me to Mylot...and here I am a few months later presenting the news that she is no longer with us. Life is strange...and mysterious...but the support of friends makes everything more meaningful. To have condolences from others members, even though we may never have crossed each other's paths before truly shows how connected we can be...when we allow it to occur.

Yes it is very sad...and there is a hollow eerie feeling when I log back on to her site and see her discussions that share the happenings in her life. If you want to check it out you can find her sit at http://mylot.com/tmlnmr. What you said about the many beautiful, caring, compassionate people on Mylot...I could not agree with you more. This is my first and only discussion forum. I am so happy to be a part of Mylot Land I have no reason to go anywhere else. Thank you for caring enough to drop by and add send your BIG HUGS my way...I got them...and I will take all of them I can get. Hugs and warm wishes always nourish the spirit! Much appreciated.

Thank you for honoring her memory by checking out her site and taking a few moments to get to know her. She was a very good person...and so was her hubby. They loved animals and always took in strays. They had chickens, rabbits, a ferret, cats, and hamsters. Their care for others was always felt...and they would help anyone whenever they could. Our whole community will miss them...as will fellow Mylotters. The service is this Wednesday...and my hubby and I will be attending. Your words of support are appreciated.

Yes...those of us who knew them...loved them and valued their presence in our lives will miss them. Something strange has happened because I noticed she is no longer within my friends list. I tried to keyword her site by: htt://mylot.com/tmlnmr and it didn't work. Before leaving she did not seem to want to open up to friends as to what was going on. The last time she logged on was 3 days ago...so I am not sure how to post her site...other than it is tmlnmr. Her other hompage is : prairiedogmarkeiting.com. If you try those and you are not successful you could log on to thowell's site because he is in her friend's list. He is also on mine as is, LuckyWitch, Curvy Chick. Tam's should be listed under their friends list if these other links do not work. Hope you are feeling better dear friend...I have been reading your posts and leaving messages of support for you too. Continue to nourish your weary spirit...and take care of yourself through these challenging times. Big hugs and many light filled blessings to you too! Your on-line gal pal, Raia

Hi again...here is 'Tam's' site: http://mylot.com/tmlnmr When you read her discussions and responses you will see that she was a sweet person, with a caring approach. She did a good job with weathering a lot of storms in the last few months. She talks about her heart attack...the ceiling of her house falling down...and yet she tried to keep things light. Her light will be missed by all who knew here...and even with those who did not because she was one of God's own...and now is no longer here. Take care of yourself and your family...my thoughts and prayers are with you as well. Raia

Thank you perspectives. This is very hard for me. I will PM you when I'm ready to talk.

It is a sad time for all who loved her and her hubby Rob. She was a kind and good hearted person...as he was. They gave a lot of themselves and were always there offering help when they could. It is still hard for all of us in this community to accept that they are here. Their memorial service will be held this Wednesday. It has been a sad and confusing time for all who loved them. If you wish to chat more when you come back...feel free to contact me. In the meantime your prayers for their spiritual path will join with others.

You're welcome. My thoughts and prayers are still with you and their families, and other friends. Take Care.

Thank you for caring enough to comment and offer your prayers and kind words. Yes, both of them were young. They were loving, kind, generous people who gave of themselves in very caring and unconditional ways. Those of us who loved them feel sadness that they could not allow us to be be there for them as they always were for us. However, our Creator gave us the right of free will...and my hubby and I are doing our best to accept their choices...it is our way of honoring them.

That means so much...thank you for your sincere response.

Nice to hear back from you...I enjoy carrying discussions a little farther than just only reply...and one response. Discussions and sharing ideas are my life's calling and I do it as a professional writer, public speaker and life coach..so for me Mylot is a great fit. Tammy realized that I am very moved by your reflection as it being her gift to me...and it is very true. When she mentioned that income could be earned here I wasn't too impressed about how much. My free lance writing pays well..so I said..to her; "Why would I spend time writing for pennies when I make more in my regular work?" She reminded me that this forum does give a tremendous opportunity to create connections and let others know learn about our 'perspectives'...and that it does. The earnings have come to be a lovely little bonus for doing something that has become a meaningful experience for me. I greatly appreciate the connections I have made..and continue to make with people like you and other valued on-line friends within this community. One member and I have exchanged phone numbers and chatted on the phone yesterday...and it was a joy to hear her voice after our numerous on-line chats. She lives in a part of the U.S. my hubby and I enjoy traveling to...and who knows one day we would like to meet in person. So yes, you are right...Tammy's legacy with Mylot lives on through her gift to me...because without her I would not be here. Nor would I have the opportunity to celebrate her and be honoring her appreciation for Mylot and with all of you. So needless to say jcj...I am also glad you 'stumbled' on to me and the perspectives site. I enjoy our chats and look forward to many more.

Ahhh...here you are again...good to hear from you. I noticed the change in your Avator...that is really cute! I dropped by to your site and commended you on the great job you did in setting it up. Anyway, thank you for stopping by and offering your heartfelt words of support. How sweet of you to drop by 'Tam's' site and check it out. Yes, it does seem so strange to think she posted something three days ago...well I guess four now...and that was the last one...no more...she is gone. It does seem so hollow...and I appreciate what you said about the void. I feel as you do...the longer I am here the more I see how truly connected we can become to each other. We do not sit face to face and share tea in our gardens...but these profound energetic exchanges touch the spirit in ways that are hard to explain. However, they are there and we all know it. You are so right...we are making an impact on each other's lives...in small and large ways. The ironic thing for me in this is that Tam's encouraged me to join Mylot. Had I not said yes...I would never have met any of you...or had the chance to make others aware of her departure. Fellow mylotters would wonder why she wasn't posting...but maybe never know. The ripple effect of that choice...for her to refer...and for me to join opened doors for her...for me...and for all of us who now honor her life...and her passing. It really is sad and beautiful in a melancholy way. So thank you dear friend...for helping me to put some of this into 'perspective.' You have a way of doing that. I value our connection more than words can say...but I know you know that because you are intuitive...and compassionate. Take as good care of yourself as you do others until we chat again...and I know we will soon. Warmest regards, Raia

The boy in my avatar is my son. He wanted to try on the hat but it swallowed his whole head!^_^ You know, no one referred me to this site. I just kind of stumbled into it. I like to surf the net and found MyLot. I was curious about it and finally decided to try it. So, here I am, exchanging ideas and opinions with you and other friends I have made in this site. To tell you the truth, I never thought that I would make friends here. I was thinking that this site is just a place where you can earn extra income. But as days have passed, I look at MyLot now with new eyes. And I'm glad we "stumbled" into each other.^_^ Tam had contributed something in your life and that's she introduced you to a place where you can gain new and more friends. Friends that you can reach out to and talk with. You may have lost one friend but you have gained more and will still meet new friends. And that was her gift to you. I read some of your responses and I'm happy for you and your husband. Things can get rough and ugly when a relationship is under strain. But when you finally pass that strain, I believe love is sweeter the second time around. Your friend, Tina

Thank you for your care...concern and consideration. She was a wonderful addition to Mylot and loved it here. She will be missed.