Do You Laugh At Ex's Failures??
By twoey68
@twoey68 (13627)
United States
August 30, 2007 8:23am CST
I was with my ex for 9 years before we split up. He always had this thing about wanting everything newer, fancier and more expensive. He wanted to be a bigshot. Over the nine years he cheated with just about every one of my friends and we finally ended the relationship. We both moved on...I met Hubby and got my life back. He met a local girl and thought he hit the jackpot b/c her parents had money, land, ect.
We both live in the same small town so of course nothing goes on that everyone doesn't know about. After spending the last few years being a bigshot around town he recently lost everything. Their house, vehicles, livestock, money...everything. They now have to live with his wifes brother and his family. It seems he managed to lose $1.3 million dollars worth of assets!! Unbelievable.
I think its funny as hell. I think it is a case of what goes around comes around. Do you think its wrong to feel this way? Would you think it was funny if it happened to your ex?
AT PEACE WITHIN
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31 responses
@wiccania (3360)
• United States
30 Aug 07
While I don't think it's funny, I do keep having "Karma's a b!tch" moments. My ex cheated on me for almost a year with someone who was supposed to be a friend. Worse, this girl is just in it to be married. The boyfriend she cheated on while she was messing around with my ex told her that he'd marry her if she never saw my ex again, she got a temporary restraining order. When he failed to deliver, she started calling my ex again (while we were still together).
Since her husband left 3 years ago, she's said nothing but "I just want to be married again, I don't care who it's to."
Well, since he started living with her, he lost a job of 5+ years -- he hated it but the pay and benefits were good. He got another job, but the contract he was assigned to was canceled, so he lost that job. Then his truck got repossessed.
Yep. Karma's a b!tch.
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
31 Aug 07
No I couldn't do that because I'm a firm believer of what goes around comes around and he's definetly gotten his. I will say this though, I was, I guess you could say, satisfied to hear about the 3 guys who raped me when I was 13 years old, got theirs in return when all three of their marriages ended and one lost his business and everything he owned. I felt bad for them but I didn't feel sorry for them. Does that make sense?
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@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
30 Aug 07
no, i don't think i have ever laugh at my exes's misfortune... once i end a relationship, i don't keep in touch anymore with them and i don't know what happen... and i don't like to keep hatred in my heart as well... it makes my life miserable...
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@mbilagan (178)
• Philippines
31 Aug 07
I think that's what we called Karma. Maybe God let that happened for him to realize all the bad things he done not only to you but to others as well. You are lucky because finally you are able to move on and have a good life without him.
I know that most of the time when someone hurt us we tend to get even so at first when we learned that something bad happened to him we immediately said to ourselves that it's good to them. But it should not always be the case. We should not laugh to other's failures even they are our Ex's because what if it happens the other way around? Would you feel good also when your Ex's laugh at your failures? Of course we dont want that.
@travellady817 (9)
• United States
31 Aug 07
Wow 1.3 million dollars! What the heck did he do? Well you sure do reap what you sow there is no doubt about that. I hope the new wife gets smart and parts ways with him too!
@Michelle662 (52)
• China
31 Aug 07
I wanna say that you are lucky to break up with such a person. And I deem it is not easy to split up with someone who you have been with for 9 long years. Your courage is admired. Wish friends around me and myself would necer encounter such guy.
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@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
30 Aug 07
I don't know. I think if I had the history you did with this guy, I would probably feel like hey, karma does work.
His current wife must be very upset with him, too.
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@sunshinecup (7871)
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30 Aug 07
Well I can’t think it’s wrong cause that would make me a hypocrite. I love hearing bad news about my ex. It’s been years since I heard any, but I can say when I did, I did a dance of joy over it. He was an abusive man that left me for another women. Well their marriage lasted 4 months when he dumped her for an 18-year-old. LOL But wait it gets better. Then the 18 year old’s Daddy whooped him good and put him in the hospital the first time he hit here. HA! I loved hearing that. So I as you do enjoying hearing bad news about my ex as well.
@scarywhitegirl (2766)
• United States
30 Aug 07
Some of my ex's, I don't wish anything bad on, and I hope that their lives go relatively well in the future. Others, however, I do take a bit of glee in hearing when things are not quite going their way. In the end, though, I know that I ended up in the right place, I just had to "kiss a lot of frogs" along the way to getting here. :)
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@raychill (6525)
• United States
30 Aug 07
I work with my ex. He cheated on me with a fellow co-worker. Nice. I was pretty happy when I heard they broke up.
I actually unfortunately in general like the dude as a person. He's a crappy boyfriend. So I still feel pretty bad if I hear something bad happening or whatever.
I don't really know much about my other ex's. I try not to laugh at misfortunes... but a few certain ones are always good to laugh at.
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@Cammeel1 (372)
• United States
30 Aug 07
First I have to say that it is sad to hear that he cheated on you so many times and that your so called friends took a part in it. Im glad that you have moved on and are happy now.
I think you have earned the right to say to yourself "haha that bum got exactly what he deserves". I would laugh and say some very rude things about him ( if my ex did to me what yours did to you). In my heart I would pray for him and ask the kids to pray for their Dad. Pray that he finally learned his lesson and starts to grow up.
I hope life continues to smile on you and that he does finally learn a lesson.
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@kitty1234 (1476)
• United States
30 Aug 07
I wouldn't laugh but I definately wouldn't cry! I would think how lucky I was that he was my ex!!!! I would feel bad for his wife, how unlucky can someone get. First she marries a fool and then loses everyting because she did, poor poor girl.
@o1happyday (16)
• United States
30 Aug 07
Oh, I would feel so good about that. He's a greedy man and he got what he deserved. He kept trying to live beyond his means even when he had everything, and now he has nothing. I hope you don't feel sorry for him.
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@Geminigirl (1909)
• United States
3 Sep 07
I would not laugh at my ex boyfriend's failures, but then again, each situation is different. When we parted ways, we realized we were not mean to be in a permanent retlationship together, and it wasn't a super angry scenario, so I don't have negative feelings about him. If he had treated me really badly, though, I may have felt a lot different about that.
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@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
30 Aug 07
Oh yes..I would enjoy that. My ex married someone who was hurt in an accident and got tons of money in a lawsuit.
When my son was with me, he screamed poverty, would not help the kid out at all. As soon as my son was on his own, the ex- added a 1500 sq foot addition to his house and a house on the outer banks of NC.
His new wife is actually a very nice person and good to my son, I would not want to see anything else bad happen to her (she married my ex and that is enough bad for anyone) but I would love to see my ex fall on his face.
Congratulations on your good luck!
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@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
4 Sep 07
I don't laugh at my exes they're nice but I'll laugh at yours - good riddance and congratulations on YOU hitting the jackpot with your new beau.
BTW, I hope you meant he slept with just about all of your friends who are now ex friends! Thats just wrong.
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@msjigga (864)
• United States
4 Sep 07
Hi tweoy68! I can truly relate with you because I do laugh at both of my ex's failures. I know it is wrong but I keep thinking is KARMA. I never wished any of my ex's any wrong however, I always told my ex's what comes around goes around KARMA IS VERY REAL. I was dumped by my 1st and 2nd childs father because I was not cool enough,not pretty enough, not like other girls, or just not good enough. Both guys moved on and they both got their trophies or mates that met their standards and they are both struggling now. I am a strong strong believe of KARMA and I never wish any harm on anyone I just know harm will happen if harm is done.
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@Laurla98 (786)
• United States
31 Aug 07
I guess for me it depends on the ex. Not all of them would I laugh at. But I had one ex that was such a drama king...he wouldn't keep a job for anything and here I was at 19, supporting him. Well, I finally got sick of it and broke up with him. He called me about a month later..after I'd already started dating again....to tell me he got a job at Kmart. Now don't get me wrong..I have nothing against anyone that works at Kmart...I love that store...but because I was so ticked at him...I made fun of him and said, DO you have any blue light specials? He hung up on me....lol
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