When should you stop looking for true love and settle for what you have?

If you are intensely passionate about the one your with I can't imagine why you would think there may be something better. Some people believe in a soul mate. I have yet to see that clearly defined as we all look at that a bit different. If you are with no one then you should never give up, either on-line or off. What do you have to loose but looking. Far less than by not looking I think. No human is perfect in spite of what they may first seem. So to expect their may be a perfect person out there if only you could find them is not being realistic in and of itself. If you are with someone, married or not, and you are truly good friends, you have the best of everything. A lover that is also your best friend is the best thing that could ever happen to you. So why indeed would you think there must be more. Truly there is not.

I think my true love drove away in a big semi truck and I'm sure that I will never see him again.The guy I'm dating right now treat me well but I have no real love or anything for him.

Sometimes , people are looking for mr. perfect, or miss. perfect and no one is perfect....you have to realise that anyone and everyone will have faults and be prepared for them....many people leave one person for another and then find out that the problems are worse. Realistic expectations, is a wise way to go.....you arent perfect and you cant expect someone else to be....its being with someone who you can work with....on everything...because relationships grow like a work in progress....

I have read something before mentioning in this whole world, there are 20,000 people who is suitable for you (I mean everyone will get that 20,000 who is suitable for him/ her). But like you said, we don't find all of them. And it's only 1-2 we would meet in our lives. I don't settle for less, and I can't stand settling for less. If it's meant to be, it's meant to be. I would just date and see how things go. I am not scared to end up alone, I think that's really way better than having to compromise with a person I don't really love but kind of fulfill other qualities I set for myself.

Well, your question is not that easy to answer Beautyqueen as it differs per person for sure. Love comes whenever, and no matter how old one is, so there is no such thing as ever stopping to look for your real love. At a certain point you might settle for what you have due to many reasons, such as being lazy to keep looking and searching. The uncertainty if you'll be getting better than you already have, or fall madly in love but after awhile you found this person as not the one you were looking for, and have already lost the one you had. Other than that, if you feel the need of finding the real love of your life yet - do so, no matter how long it might take you.

Love is rather confusing nowadays especially since we now have the Internet along with other common social places. I think you should take what love you can find since there are not such people as lucky as you, remember that, trying to find the "perfect" person for you is unnecessary I think. If you can at least find someone that is kind and loves you for who you are then that itself is true love.

true love is everyone's quest both man and women ,but we should stop when you are cheated

I really feel bad about this... I just reply with your topic...and its written in a long line then when I submit it... I was logged out... Now I have to retype what I have written before. *sigh* Anyway, You could say that he/she is the one for you if after so many years in your life, you still have the feeling that he/she is the one for you. The problem is, at the present how can you tell? How can you say that you are with the right person... well, the answer is SORRY life is too tricky to give you the definite answer without playing the game. So, what ca we do? Well, the only thing that you can do is give your best shot in everything that you do, in whatever relationship you are into. If you really love him/her then you should tell him/her. If you dont, then find ways to love that person...just give it a chance. In the end, if still nothing happens then you can really say that he/she is not the one for you...and I guess you wont regret anything by being at your best. When you give your best and yet not enough to make things work,then you are in the position to say that its over. You can move on with your life. Sometimes it happens...and sometimes it should happen. Because in our journey in our life fate will teach us lots of things, will give us lots of pain and will show us new path... and we just have to be brave and wise to accept the things that we do not have control... just have faith.

I think alot of ppl spend alot of time looking for the "perfect" mate. I don't think a "perfect" mate exists. I think the goal is to find someone you can be happy with that shares alot of the same opinions, visions, views and goals as you do. I also think alot of ppl get hung up on looks and it should be about what's inside more than how a person looks. After all, in 30 years when the looks are gone...are you going to have anything to talk about or share? **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~

According to the laws of attraction it is best to not actually be "looking" to fall in love. If you are constantly looking for something better, you begin attracting people into your life who are discontent with things in their life. It is best to live in the moment, love life, love yourself, be your best, etc. It is then that you will begin attracting love into your life.

I think that I have found my true love, which is my wife. I will never give up for something new. My wife is good enough for me to love her with my life.

You are right, it is the quest for all men and women. I am 23 years old, i started dating when i was 19. I met a lot of "wrong guys"... Some hurt me, then i become used to the ideea that it can't always work, and that most men are looking just for some fun, so they lie to get what they want, and i just played along the "game", trying to do my best. But i was still lonely, so i continued looking for a special someone, boarding new relationships all the time, but never hesitating to abort the ones that were not promicing real love. I wanted something real, and i didn't hesitate to go out and get it. I even acted like it was my priority in life, that is how determined i was... So i tried and tried untill i met this guy, very cute, very sensitive, atttentive, sweet(witch is the thing most important for me in a realtionship, or was..). Our first date was so strange, he kept talking about and ex girl tht hurt him so badly, so i imagned he only wanted someone to talk to, i never imagined he was interested in me, but when we got in front of my building, he kissed me!!! So i proposed him to walk around my place some more... When it got late i asked him inside, and we didn't leave the bed for 3 days (except for eating). I didn't know why i did that, but i felt like justifing in front of him so i said to him "You know, i don't do this with all men that i meet, i felt something about you, and i want a real thing with you"... and suprisingly he didn't say "let's take it easy, we just met" but he reaplie he also wanted something serious, and here we are, 1 year later... you'd imagine i'm very happy, but i'm not! I am borred actually, even thought he is so great to me, sweet considerate, very loving... and even after working so hard for this relation to work, because it was hard! Maybe i just have some more work to do with it, or maybe i am just better off on my own. But i just feel so good and so free when he goes away!

you stop looking for love when the right time comes and i think you can figur it out in your own because you would now in the now. if you are still young then never stop looking for love. you can take as many lovers as you want because in that stage it is the right time to seek or look for your best partner until the end of your life. you settle when you think and feel that you have now the right person to be with you til the last and to have family, to share your love with and to let it grow. but just do not consider your heart all the time you must also think twice if you will take as forever or not i mean till forever and ever.

First one must know what actually true love means.Because after getting what we want our interest in it becomes receding.So instead of losing the interest, you are enjoying the association then you might be closer to what you want!!

Aww sweety..I believe with all my heart that there is someone for everyone..it just takes very minimal work,,and maximum patience..lol..I was at a point in my life..where i was going to settle..and he was ok..but that spark..those fireworks..those butterflies werent flying..ever..so it took me some time to relize i couldnt go on with it anymore..and left..ok..so its been 5 yrs..since my son was born and that long i have been single..i have been content with this..and happy and relized i didnt need a man for happiness..then lately its like my clock has started to tick..and my friend told me..Ape..(thats my nick my friends call me lol) she says..you will never find him if u dont get out and just do more things with more people around ..or he will never find you..i thought about that all night and she was right..soo..i have been doing more things...meeting new people..and i iknow..someday we will find each other..but i have to be patient..and not look too hard..or u can find the wrong one..Soo thats what im doing..i wil wait for true love..and never ever just settle for soemone..why live that life..right? u can be just as happy alone with friends..than with someone that u dont get excited when he walks threw the door after work..i want that,,i want fireworks..and the butterflies..and the stupid giddy laugh when ufirst meet him..and then as u know each other more..u may still have a corny laugh..and he still loves it..lol..

I think your question is not very easy to answer. its true there are so many people on this earth and the probability of finding true love is quite low. But still there are few people lucky enough who get it. Still there are something missing from wat ppl think their dream love. It varies from person to person how they like it.

Funny that you asked this. A friend of mine at work cried her eyes out to me becuase she is soooo lonely. I felt horrible for her. She is 50 years old and has never even had a boyfriend. I feel just awful. I didnt know what to say so I just calmly talked to her about what was going on.

Love is not going to places, finding people to make friends and leave them. Love is a feeling of the mind you have to enjoy that as it is and not search something in the fantasy of your mind. Love is the feeling to be shared among people. Though she might not be a good looking person, that doesn't mean you have to forget her or not love her, it is only the feeling and their mind status to be thought of. Only then you are going to get some love in your life otherwise you will only be fantasising your imaginations and not lead a happy life at all. Learn to love what you have with you and not tnink which is not reachable for you. If you do that you will not be getting anything in your life at all. Better lead a lovely life which you have than aspiring for what you do not have.

well firstly i think love is lost to the world, there are very few ppl who truely have love for their partners anymore, i think this is because there is presure to find someone and to marry, i think that this shouldnt be the case and that you should rather just live life and that you will meet someone to love. furthermore i dont believe there is only one person in the whole world for you to love... there is prob someone within 50km of you that you can love and be on love with for you life, so i would say the main problem is meeting that person, if the person is not in your social groups, many you should try and get into different groups, i would think the best way to do this is to start taking part in activities that interest you, and then you will find someone who is interested in he same things... i also believe that ppl over look their friends too quickly and that you should take a close look at the ppl you already no, you might think that they will never be interested in you, because of something they said, but this might not be the case... they might just be scared to tell you how they truely feel in fear of hurting the relationship. its often the case that good friends end up getting married... i think that you should decide if you have tried everything to find the one you will love, and im sure there will still be something you can do if you are truely willing to find someone...