Why Abortion? When does it become the only choice left?

Since ur friend's daughter is too young to have a baby of her own, abortion seems the only way out to take her out of trouble which she might face in her future... Also the father of her child is married, so there's no point of commitment from his side.. But I don't seem to understand, how did it all happen?? How can a married man have an affair with such a young girl?? Was she forced into it or what??

Sometimes a woman might feel stuck or totally helpless in the situation. They might have no money, no job, or be unable to finish school while pregnant (depending on the social mores of the country), or not be ready to parent.

I personally believe that any women should have the right to choose whether to carry an unwanted pregnancy to term. It is my belief that a first trimester pregnancy is not a living thing, but merely a cluster of cells. There is no heart, no brain, and no form and a woman who does not wish for it to grow into a living baby should have the option of having it removed from her body, regardless of her reasoning. However, since abortion in your country is illegal, I would be afraid. when abortion was illegal in the US women were dying after going to back alley butchers to rid themselves of unwanted pregnancies. I don't know if it is as dangerous in your country. If it is, I don't know if the risk of losing her life is greater than the risk to her career if she has the child.

I do not believe in Abortion. It kills an innocent life and will ruin the 17 year old who will regret it later. She should have the baby, and either keep her or him or give the baby up for adoption. There are thousands of couples wanting children who are unable to conceive, more now since in many countries, the supply of newborns is diminishing. Besides what about the father. He committed the sin of adultery. He cheated on his wife and deceived this young lady by not telling her of his marriage. If the girl keeps the baby, he should be responsible for the financial upkeep of the child.

What concerns me most of all, and hasn't really been addressed here amongst all the very caring responses, is the illegal abortion. These are very dangerous and can be deadly - to the mother. In this country, at least for now, women have the right to choose. I respect a woman's right to choose, even when the choice is different from the one I might make. As a matter of fact, the agruments made before the Supreme Court centered on a woman's right to privacy, the right to govern her own body. I do not feel that abortion is birth control. Rather it is a solution for an intolerable situation. It is not for me to decide what is, or is not, intolerable for the next person. Personally, if it were my dilemma, I would move heaven and earth to keep my grandchild but I would not sacrifice my daughter or her future in order to do so. I would not insist that my daughter give up an education that I could not otherwise provide for her. Mainly, as I said earlier, I would keep my daughter safe from "back-alley" abortionists. Untold numbers of women have been permenantly injured or even killed by unsanctioned abortions. Your friend stands the risk of losing both her child AND her unborn grandchild from such a desperate measure. You mentioned the pregnant girl's father and that he lives in the US. Perhaps, he can bring her here for a safe, legal, medical procedure. I realize that the expense could be prohibitive but when you consider the danger to this girl's life as well as her future, what price is too much? Abortion does not have to leave an emotional scar on the woman who chooses to have one. It can actually be felt as a relief and a near avoidance of disaster. I have worked with children who were born by parents who did not want them, there are few things sadder and more damaging to society. It is a beautiful thing that you are supporting your friend, in spite of your personal beliefs. Perhaps that is a true test of friendship. I wish you all peace and health.

I think she chose abortion is right. Although I do not agree, but we are often the only frustration we do not wish to make the choice to avoid these helpless in fact very simple, it is responsible for their own, not lightly to the forbidden fruit.

Well, abortion it's not always the only choice left. I know it's a difficult situation but she can always have the other choice of having the baby.

Well, there was this one case that my mother told me about, a 13 year old girl got pregnant by her uncle, and the only way to rid herself of the inbred child was to abort, in a case like that, I do not judge, and she was in a truly horrible situation, so for her to abort the child was of no shock, honestly, would you keep your uncle's child, a child that may not survive because it is inbred? I do not think that I would.

I think your friend's daughter is making a choice based on her situation as of right now, there are no guarantees in life. Sure she could go on and raise the child and be quite happy or she could raise the child hate it and abuse it. We don't know. So when does abortion become the only choice? I think it's when the female feels it is. Only she knows what she can and can not handle.

I am really against this abortion, everyone knows that it very dangerous and have to be careful and control up to some limit. I was a teenage once and i could avoid such circumstances and anyone can do that, untill and unless its a case of rape and if so we get justice. I see many friends stuck in such troubles and they end up in an very ugly manner. Teenagers are old enough to understand this burden and they should try to avoid getting into such situations. We are the ones who control ourself and we can make things happen and we can stop things happen. So, how many teens are here in mylot you should try to maintain your prestiage/status and avoid such situations.

I completely agree with you about abortion. I dont believe in it either (also unless its a rape victim.) The daughter should have a choice about what she wants to do. And having an abortion isnt going to "save her daughter." What about taking an innocent life? The decision should be left up to the daughter. And of course the mother isnt to blame, im sure shes a great mother. And you are such a great friend for being there.

Is the pregnancy going to harm her daughter? Or is she just looking to avoid the social stigma of an unwed, teen mom? I was 16 when I got pg with my first and my mom supported my decision to go through with the pregnancy. (Abortion did cross my mind but I knew I wouldn't get any support going that route and I decided not to). I did have my moms help the first year while I finished high school but after that I was pretty much on my own. It wasn't easy but at this point I'm very glad I made the choice I did. I can't imagine my life minus my oldest child.

It's quite a situation you posed. For once I'm kind of at a loss for words. I would try to raise the child, but I can clearly see how it will cause immeasurable difficulty in the future. There is also adoption if that is a possibility, but I don't want her giving up something she loves or doing something else she may regret. One thing I'll say Euphro. Stay with her and make sure to support her and that her family supports her. She will need all the strength she can. My thoughts are with you both.

To begin with, I am glad that you are there for your friend, good on you. Secondly, I am against abortion (unless it is a rape victim). My opinion on the situation is, if the daughter was "adult" enough to have a relationship (especially with a married man), the she is "adult" enough to care for the child that she brought into this world (for even though it is yet to be born, it is still part of this world inside its mother) - and the married man, regardless of the effect on his relationship is also responsible and capable of caring for the child. He should also have some input into what becomes of the child. I think that your friend should consider putting the baby up for adoption after birth, there is an ENORMOUS amount of people out there that are unable to conceive children of their own and would do just about anything to get their hands on a little one. What is the sense in killing a child when you could carry it for nine months and give it to someone that would love and cherish that child as their own?? Also, if abortion is illegal in your country, doesn't that indicate to some extent that it is not the right course of action?? If they chose to go ahead with the abortion, could your friend and her daughter live with the fact that they are murderers?? I know I couldn't

oh your friend is so lucky to have you for support. i think your friend needs to sit down and talk to her daughter and find out if the daughter wants to keep the baby. i dont believe in abortion unless e.g rape etc. its really the daughter choice i think if she wants the baby or not and the mother needs to accept the decision her daughter makes and be the support for her as either way she will need heaps of support. good luck to your friend and her daughter.

Just tell your friend that don't try abort the baby of her daughter. Like her, as a single mother, I think her daughter can be a good single mother like your friend. Abortion is an absolutely wrong and it is a crime of murder. And absolutely I am not favor for this. And I think the fetus have life and like us she/he have a right to see this wonderful world.

Abortion has always been the issue to early pregnancy. Voluntary expulsion of a fetus is a crime in my country too and it's agianst God's rule for me. The baby inside her is innocent to their mistakes. For me, give the baby a chance to see what for him in this world. God may plans for him and he maybe the key for their survival. For the case of the girl. She had learned her lesson well now I guess. There are other options aside form abortion and it is keeping the baby.