Be Quiet!!!
By Rozie37
@Rozie37 (15499)
Turkmenistan
August 31, 2007 3:14pm CST
I got a new room mate yesterday. She was previously living on the third floor, but because of her arthritis, she is now on the first floor with me. We were already aquaintances and we got along just fine and I am sure that we will continue to get along.
But, when I am on Mylot, trying to sleep, or read, she asks questions and wants to talk. It is impossible to concentrate and do both at the same time. Since she is new to my area, I have been stooping and chatting with her, but today, I need to get back to work.
I get interuptions all the time and that is okay. But usually, I am able to decide whether or not I want to communicate with them. With her in my room, as soon as she starts talking, the concentration is broken. I am the type of person who will turn off my phone, just to get some time of peace and quiet. Having a roommate makes that next to impossible.
Do you ever have this problem? Where you are around someone and they are not able to sense that you need for them to be quiet. How do you handle that without offended them? This is an area that I struggle with a lot. I am either extremely nice or a monster. I need to find a middle ground, where I can be nice, yet firm.
It is easy to help others who are dealing with this, but when it comes to my own situations, it is very hard for me.
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7 responses
@laurika (4532)
• United States
1 Sep 07
I have been in similar situation like you.i was sleeping over in my friend house and she talk and talk and talk, she would not stop even, when I told her.It very annoying to me, when I cannot sleep and I am very stress out.After few hours she just quit and I could sleep.
New mate has maybe so much to tell you know, but I think after few days there would be not so many news, so she would probably quit.I am sorry, if i do not gave you good option how to handle her.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
1 Sep 07
That is just the point, she is not really saying much at all. She will comment, I answer. Then later, she'll comment again, I answer. It is never anything important or pressing. Just enough to break my concentration. The thing about it is, if one of us were a man, we would be the exact opposite in every way. We have very little in common, at least so far.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
1 Sep 07
Oh, that would be a good solution, but unfortunately I have a desktop. Today she was talking to me and causing me to go in and out of sleep. I am use to talking in my sleep. I hope I nicely told her to leave me alone. When I woke up, she was gone.
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@laurika (4532)
• United States
1 Sep 07
Oh, so si is just commenting everything.That's bad.Do you have laptop or just regular Pc?I mean if you have laptop, you can take it somewhere elsa and be alone...What about try to talk her, you have something really importnat to do, if you could talk later?Would it help or she would just comment more?
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@sweetgirl_k1 (3972)
• United States
1 Sep 07
My husband will sometimes come in here and try to talk to me when I am on here or on another online formum that I am a member of. I just tell him I'm doing something right that minute and for him to hang on and then I'll listen to what he has to say. Just tell your roommate this is how you make money and you need to try to concentrate on what you are doing and maybe she'll leave you along for a while.
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@Shaun72 (15959)
• Palatka, Florida
31 Aug 07
I have the problem when I am online and I am trying to think how to answer a disscussion or how to reply to one and someone messages me. Like right now I have my yahoo messanger cut off. So I can get more done faster.I guess some of my friends think I am being rude. I would tell her you need time to yourself to get things you need done. I am the same way I enjoy my time alone that is why I think it didn't work out when I had room mates myself.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
31 Aug 07
I stopped with the instant message thing shortly after I found out how it worked. I tried it again recently and it does not work for me at all. Like the telephone, I do not like to be suddenly interrupted. I will lose my train of thought and sometimes, I am never able to recall it.
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
2 Sep 07
Not easy to deal with at all I'm sure. It would be hard to tell her nicely but if its getting to you I would before it gets worse. You may need to let her know that during a certain time of the day or night you would like some peace and quiet, maybe say to her from this time to that time I am working on a few things online and I need some space and it needs to be very quiet for you to concentrate on whatever your doing. Is it ok if she went off and did something during that time? or is there anything else she can occupy herself with while you concentrate on your own things? I don't know how nice to say it to her but I would sooner rather than later because then the nice might turn into nasty LOL
Good luck my friends HUGS!
@Flight84 (3048)
• United States
31 Aug 07
Gah! I can't stand trying to concentrate on something, and you have someone babbling in your ear. It gets on my nerves. My mom and sister can both be like that sometimes and it's never until I am trying to concentrate on doing something. My mom and sister hate it too, so I don't know why they do it to me! I write, and my husband is also bad for having the television turned up loud when he knows I'm trying to work. I usually just tell my family to shut up, but it's my family and I know they won't be too offended. You have to find a happy medium for a roommate. Does she know you need concentration? The best approach may just be to be blunt and tell her you have to have quiet so you can concentrate. Many people need that, so she shouldn't think of it as being rude.:)
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
31 Aug 07
Yeah, I may have to do that. I only made five cent on Mylot yesterday. Everytime she spoke, I would just stop completely to keep from getting frustrated. I know people with children will be able to relate. But, I don't have any, she is older than I am. That is the smallest amount I have ever made on Mylot and I have never missed a day of posting.
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@lisa_wxy2 (19)
• China
1 Sep 07
well,Rozie,i feel sorry for that.i can totally understand your conditions.once i met the same person just as you met now.my advice is that you can talk to her very sincerely that you have your work rest schedule,would she please respect yours? or just give her some hints.
good luck!
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@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
1 Sep 07
well, for me honesty is the best policy... i will tell her directly in a nice manner that i need some quiet time... if she is really my friend, then she should not get offended... instead, she should respect my privacy... try to have a talk with her and see her reactions... good luck...
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