Do you think I'm a bad daughter?

WHAT?? You are not obligaged to give any of your earnings to your parents. I have parents too, and they have JOBS!!! I make my own money and they make theirs. You are not your parents slave, and they should be lucky that you are so generous. I think you need to keep all of your money, and that your parents should have jobs. We don't have kids just so they will bring in the money, we have kids because we want kids. Quit being so hard on yourself!!!!

Every family is different. I have never given any of my money to my parents, except of course when I lived with them. We had a set amount that I had to pay for room and board and the rest I saved for school. I don't think it makes you a bad daughter to not give all of your money to your parents - in the end, you're going to need to support yourself and make your own home, and you're going to need money for that.

hello there fay linn.. it seems like you are doubting wether you are a good or bad daughter to your parents. is it right to say that you think you are now a bad daughter because you are not giving all of your earnings to your parents?. do they get mad at you or are they dissapointed that you do not give them all of your earnings?. see i think that your parent understands that you also have a life of your own, that you also have your own needs and wants and that you are doing all you can to be able to support yourself and support them too..

if you're bad then im badder! LOL i dont even give a part of my salary to my mother! i seldom pay the electricity/phone bill. and i seldom do the grocery. ^__^;; i do lend my mother some money when she needs some. LOL and sometimes its lending for free! ^__^;; my mother doesnt force me to give a part of my salary to her. and i dont ask money from her anymore. as in NOT ANYMORE. i think that's her only consolation. LOL

You're not a bad girl, instead you're a good girl at least you know how to share your earnings to your family, saving for your future is not bad at all. I am sure that for the savings that you have when your family need it sure you will give them any amount from your savings. So dont worry at least you shared what you have to your family and save for your future at the same time.

On the contrary your parents should enourage you to have your own savings account of which they should be proud. Children these days can be irresponsible and squander money on unnecessary things. I wish I had a daughter like you.

In India, sons were (still are) expected to hand over their entire salary to their parents once they started earning. This trend was expected to continue even after marriage when the mother would dole out whatever amount she wanted to her son, both for him and his wife. This was thought as the parents’ right for bringing up their son and the son’s way of showing respect to his parents. Needless to say, many families have broken up just because of this overpowering impulse of parents to extract their ‘pound of flesh’ from their children. Who put this idea of being a bad daughter into your head? Firstly if it was your parents, then please believe that parents can be selfish too in their own ignorant way and you will have to look after yourself alone after they are gone. So save as much as you can. Secondly, if it was your friends and relative, then just ignore them. Your parents know what is best for you and as long as they are comfortable (I didn’t say they have to live like kings), you should be comfortable too. Thirdly, if it was your own conscience, then rest in peace. There are many daughters like you (me included) who work and stay at their parents’ house before marriage without paying anything altogether. Rather I would suggest you to spend a small amount on yourself (you calculate it out) as you will see that very soon, you will be past the prime of your youth, with most of your small wishes and wants remaining unfulfilled. You will then start holding a grudge both against yourself and the world at large, which will not be healthy for your future.

Not at all. Its nice of u that u are giving something to ur parents. who says that u sud give all u earn to ur parents. Don't think u are bad daughter. U are really good.

Offcourse you are doing it rightly.since you save money in your account and dont waste it unncessarily your parents will only feel proud of you.Hope in later stages when you earn more you will surely help for familys expenditure by providing some extra money.Moreover it depends on family situation too.If our parents are finding very difficult to manage with least sum we should help them by giving some more money from our savings.Saving is for the betterment of future..so go ahead..

I don't see anything wrong with what you are doing. You are just practicing the right thing to do to save for the rainy days. Your would be very proud of you if she knows that. You will ahve your own family too and you have got to have some money for your own keeping.

hi faylinn! :) I can totally relate to you. You're not a bad daughter if you do not give EVERYTHING to your mom. You also need to have some for your self. It makes you feel that you savor the fruits of your labor. But there's also exception to it. Like if there's really a BIG emergency and there's a need to use the money you saved, you need to share it. That's just my views.. Take care and God bless! \(",)_

I don't think it's like that. Keeping some money for your future won't be so bad. I'm sure your parents understand it also so don't feel that way.

no,u r not a bad daudhter.saving money is a vary wise thing to do.u r giving a pinch of salory to ur parents,that,s good.u may buy gift for them that will make them most happy.they don,t expect money frm u.just love them.

you cannot say you are bad,because you are trying your best.i think you can try to find a jib that have more salary.in fact, parents donnot want your money,as long as all the family members are healty and happy,it is ok!

no, i don't think that you are a bad daughter at all... you have the right to keep some of your money for yourself since you are working for it... so stop blaming yourself and just enjoy your life... you are good enough for giving some of your salary to your parents...

You are not a bad daughter, unlike me, whenever, I want to give money to my parents. They will reject my offer claiming they have enough making me feel anguish. Anyway, I have used to it. I told them if they needed me to provide money, I will be there always.

No you are not a bad daughter! My daughters have all lived with me at times after they have grown and gotten full time jobs. The deal was this...when they were in school...I provided for them and did not take a dime from them. Their money was theirs. All I required from them is to help me out with chores etc. When they got done school and were working, their primary goal was to save and be on their own. I did ask them to pay a small amount of rent and whatever my utilities went up as a result of them being here. I wanted my girls to be independent and so no i would never dream of taking all of their earnings or even half. my 21 yr old just moved back in after being on her own. she broke up with her boyfriend. she helps me with meals a couple of times per week and housework and helps with utilities etc. She is not costing me. I would not feel right in benifiting from my daughter as it is my job to help her be independent. she is not mooching from me and so we don't have a problem.

you are not bad for not giving all you good for giving what you and saving not spending the rest. Keep up the good work you have a good heart accept yourself

No, you are not a bad daughter. The fact that you are giving them a part of your salary I can consider you to be one of a kind. It is not your obligation to give them but still you gave then a part of your salaray. I think that is enough. You also have to think for your future and it is good that you are saving. Dont feel guilty. You are doing the right thing.

i don't think you are a bad daughter,because everyone need money to keep a nomal life. though you don't give all your salary,you give some of it is enough.you have right to save some of your money for your future life.i do think so.