Illusion 'Love'...
By add_im
@add_im (2712)
Philippines
September 2, 2007 10:04am CST
How long will you give in loving someone though the other person you love doesn't have the same feeling like you have for him/her?
Can you still accept the fact that she/he isn't the right one for you? or you continue to be looked foolished and blinded by your own called 'Love' feeling towards one person?
I just got this kind of situation from one of my online friends as well, so I'm just looking for your opinions and advices for this sort of situation. Thanks!
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15 responses
@bubunyellow (32)
• India
2 Sep 07
ok,friend.u have put a very sesitive question for ll
but i have a openion that why do u thing that if anybody is not loving you then u will not give any further time for him/herwe should first understand that we r not in one sided love\love is devine and it is made in heaven
if u love anybody from your inner corner of ur heart then he/she will definetly love one day
LOVE IS ANOTHER NAME OF SACRIFICATION
SO IF SOMETHING WRONG HAS HAPPENED WITH U ,THEN DO NOT WORRY about it .just love him with full dedication and u will see one day that he will love u oneday.bye.have faith in love
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@add_im (2712)
• Philippines
3 Sep 07
True, love is sacrificial thing...but when one truly knows how the other person just feel about him/her, I don't think you will keep on carrying such pain in your heart though you knew it in the very first place that nothing's going to happen. But, guess each individual has just their own's perspectives and opinions in life concerning this matter. Thanks for sharing friend.
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@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
2 Sep 07
If it's a truly one sided hopeless situation, the best thing to do is to move on and find someone else that can return that love. I have been in that kind of situation myself and ended up holding on for months before I finally gave up. It's a very painful thing to deal with, that's for sure. Good luck with your online friend.
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@add_im (2712)
• Philippines
3 Sep 07
That is true Kat, I have been telling that person to do so for the sake of his right to be happy at least but he seems don't want to wake up from the truth but still clinging to his fantasy land that oneday, the lady herself will still give him a positive chance. Thanks for sharing Katlady.
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@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
2 Sep 07
I was once like this, as I made myself a fool. I keep on hoping that someday my partner would learn to show love like I do, but I was wrong. So I told her that I'll set her free if she really don't know the "real" score between us, because I don't want give her more worries and troubles of just wasting time on me. I got blinded for loving her, that I didn't know I was also hurting myself then realized that I have finally seen the truth.
Honestly, I got hurt and I was totally devastated. But somehow, I managed to live with it since I know that there's also someone waiting for me.
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@add_im (2712)
• Philippines
2 Sep 07
That is right! never give up hoping that someday you will find the one who truly loves you as you are and will give you all those desires and fill those wanting and needing that once you've been looking from your past that you tried to let go. So, keep smiling and be patient for love :-)
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@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
2 Sep 07
While I am not the brightest light bulb in the box I can pretty well sense when some one doesn't feel about me like I feel about them, and I get out of the relationship because all it can do is cause further heart ache and frustration, as well as you feel that it is your fault that they do not love you so playing mind games constantly, for example you keep trying to do or be something that will make them fall in love with you. this can go on for years and the end result is they just do not love you, so rather than go through that pain I walk away at the start. Yes I will wonder if there was something I could have done but truly I know it was not meant to be'
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@add_im (2712)
• Philippines
2 Sep 07
This is true Robin, it's a very sad truth to know but for the sake of one's self respect and dignity one should face the truth and in the end one will realized that he's doing the right thing and from that way he's saving his ownself from drowning such illusion. Thanks for sharing.
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@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
2 Sep 07
I would just move on. Sure there are attempts to try and win the heart of the one you seek. But if she's not interested, don't bother. It can be hard to get over, but once its done enough times it becomes second nature.
Don't get too discouraged though, nothing spectacular ever happened in just an hour or a day. It'll take time to get what you desire.
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@add_im (2712)
• Philippines
2 Sep 07
You are right! it's much better to just moving on than to dwell still with such an illusion mind living still in a fantasy knowing the truth yourself that nothing's gonna happened but only keep hurting oneself is all one's do. Thanks for sharing.
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
3 Sep 07
no, i will not indulge myself in that situation when I know that the other person has not got the same feelings as me.
I also think its not fruitful at all in long run
You just lose your energy, time and all for someone who does not care all that about you.
May be he/she is not worth of your love.
@Yestheypayme2dothis (7874)
• United States
3 Sep 07
If a man does not love me, there is no point in waiting. The time one waits is wasted time that I can put to better use.
@derek_a (10874)
•
3 Sep 07
When love is all one-sided, it is a very sad affair. When a person is no longer romantically in love with another, it is usually permanent and in my experience, the person who still has strong feelings of love is in an unfortunate situations for the feelings will not just disappear.
To me this is life's lessons, that most of us have been through. I yearned for somebody for several years before my mind eventually let go. And only time will heal this. The rejected lover needs to move on as best he/she can. It nearly always happens that one day, the right person comes into his/her life at the right time. If not, it's not meant to be and life can still be enjoyed once the initial pain is over. :-)
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
3 Sep 07
I won't indulge in some love that I am not accepted. That is really a waste of emotion and time. I learnt this from my fisrt love who left me bitterness only. Now I think that it is better to face the reality if not loved by the other to choose a new life of yours.
@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
3 Sep 07
Hi add_im! Fortunately for me, I am not in that kind of situation but I know someone who is so much in love with a friend of mine that he told me that he is contented with just loving her from afar. He will be just there for her if she needs a shoulder to cry on and help he in any way he can. However, my friend is avoiding him because she thinks it is unfair to him and she can't bear to see him somehow hurting. As for me, you have to let go and move on because somehow, you might be missing other love that is really for you alone. Take care and have a nice day.
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
4 Sep 07
How long? About 5 minutes. I'm serious because I don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me. Why should I? It's lowering and degrading. It would make me feel less valued as a person and I couldn't live like that. I'd much rather be with someone who loves me to no end than to be with someone who doesn't love me as I love him.
@kennedee (156)
• Philippines
3 Sep 07
If this is the situation I will not force myself to somebody who doesn't love me the way I do. This will only give me heart ache, a lot of pity for myself and my self- confidence. We should be careful in choosing whom to give our hearts. We should also use our mind when we want to enter a relationship. It should be a give and take relationship and don't let other people hurt your feelings. They have no right to do that, that's why you should not let them do that to you.
@Zelmarq (12585)
• Cebu City, Philippines
3 Sep 07
I choose to remember the good memories that goes with falling in love and loving and its always what I rememeber rather the the pain of losing lossing love and getting hurt.
I have a long time crush and I still about him even if already am happy with my 8 year relationship and even if he is already married.
Its not about being disillussioned or what but I treasure the memeory.
I have moved on and will keep those memeories in my heart even if he does not know that I ever exsited. By the way he does not know my name and he does not know me.
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