Illusion 'Love'...

ok,friend.u have put a very sesitive question for ll but i have a openion that why do u thing that if anybody is not loving you then u will not give any further time for him/herwe should first understand that we r not in one sided love\love is devine and it is made in heaven if u love anybody from your inner corner of ur heart then he/she will definetly love one day LOVE IS ANOTHER NAME OF SACRIFICATION SO IF SOMETHING WRONG HAS HAPPENED WITH U ,THEN DO NOT WORRY about it .just love him with full dedication and u will see one day that he will love u oneday.bye.have faith in love

If it's a truly one sided hopeless situation, the best thing to do is to move on and find someone else that can return that love. I have been in that kind of situation myself and ended up holding on for months before I finally gave up. It's a very painful thing to deal with, that's for sure. Good luck with your online friend.

I was once like this, as I made myself a fool. I keep on hoping that someday my partner would learn to show love like I do, but I was wrong. So I told her that I'll set her free if she really don't know the "real" score between us, because I don't want give her more worries and troubles of just wasting time on me. I got blinded for loving her, that I didn't know I was also hurting myself then realized that I have finally seen the truth. Honestly, I got hurt and I was totally devastated. But somehow, I managed to live with it since I know that there's also someone waiting for me.

While I am not the brightest light bulb in the box I can pretty well sense when some one doesn't feel about me like I feel about them, and I get out of the relationship because all it can do is cause further heart ache and frustration, as well as you feel that it is your fault that they do not love you so playing mind games constantly, for example you keep trying to do or be something that will make them fall in love with you. this can go on for years and the end result is they just do not love you, so rather than go through that pain I walk away at the start. Yes I will wonder if there was something I could have done but truly I know it was not meant to be'

I would just move on. Sure there are attempts to try and win the heart of the one you seek. But if she's not interested, don't bother. It can be hard to get over, but once its done enough times it becomes second nature. Don't get too discouraged though, nothing spectacular ever happened in just an hour or a day. It'll take time to get what you desire.

hi,my friend.heard your thing let me recognize,but can tell you according to experience of me whether love mutual,Can't even if your receive like that reluctantly,you can not be happy either.

no, i will not indulge myself in that situation when I know that the other person has not got the same feelings as me. I also think its not fruitful at all in long run You just lose your energy, time and all for someone who does not care all that about you. May be he/she is not worth of your love.

well, i was in ur shoes before.. i just keep the feelings that i feel never even attempt to say to him that i love him..co'z i don't want to lose him.. if u really love him... u can tell him how u feel.. then u will know how he feels for u..

If a man does not love me, there is no point in waiting. The time one waits is wasted time that I can put to better use.

When love is all one-sided, it is a very sad affair. When a person is no longer romantically in love with another, it is usually permanent and in my experience, the person who still has strong feelings of love is in an unfortunate situations for the feelings will not just disappear. To me this is life's lessons, that most of us have been through. I yearned for somebody for several years before my mind eventually let go. And only time will heal this. The rejected lover needs to move on as best he/she can. It nearly always happens that one day, the right person comes into his/her life at the right time. If not, it's not meant to be and life can still be enjoyed once the initial pain is over. :-)

I won't indulge in some love that I am not accepted. That is really a waste of emotion and time. I learnt this from my fisrt love who left me bitterness only. Now I think that it is better to face the reality if not loved by the other to choose a new life of yours.

Hi add_im! Fortunately for me, I am not in that kind of situation but I know someone who is so much in love with a friend of mine that he told me that he is contented with just loving her from afar. He will be just there for her if she needs a shoulder to cry on and help he in any way he can. However, my friend is avoiding him because she thinks it is unfair to him and she can't bear to see him somehow hurting. As for me, you have to let go and move on because somehow, you might be missing other love that is really for you alone. Take care and have a nice day.

How long? About 5 minutes. I'm serious because I don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me. Why should I? It's lowering and degrading. It would make me feel less valued as a person and I couldn't live like that. I'd much rather be with someone who loves me to no end than to be with someone who doesn't love me as I love him.

If this is the situation I will not force myself to somebody who doesn't love me the way I do. This will only give me heart ache, a lot of pity for myself and my self- confidence. We should be careful in choosing whom to give our hearts. We should also use our mind when we want to enter a relationship. It should be a give and take relationship and don't let other people hurt your feelings. They have no right to do that, that's why you should not let them do that to you.

I choose to remember the good memories that goes with falling in love and loving and its always what I rememeber rather the the pain of losing lossing love and getting hurt. I have a long time crush and I still about him even if already am happy with my 8 year relationship and even if he is already married. Its not about being disillussioned or what but I treasure the memeory. I have moved on and will keep those memeories in my heart even if he does not know that I ever exsited. By the way he does not know my name and he does not know me.