Falling in love at first sight, when you are already married!

marriage is a sacred relationship, married couple should respect their relationship and give value to their husband / wife. marriage relationship is a commitment to stay in that relationship with honesty in everything. Commitment is not based on feeling rather on the decision to stay in love with your husband /wife whatever the situation is.

I don't believe in love at first sight. I believe in lust at first sight. I believe in very strong physical and possibly emotional connection at first sight but not love. How can you even know who or what this person is about? I have seen men who were jaw dropping gorgeous and seemed to be really nice and polite and thought, "Wow, if I wasn't married....." Then I talked to them and ack. Not at all what I built them up to be. I think, if a woman claims to have fallen in love at first sight, she was looking to fall in love and she wanted out of her marriage or maybe wanted some excitement. I have someone very close to me who essentially fell in love at first sight with a guy she met on myspace. She is married with kids. He is single and younger. I warned her so many times but he said what she wanted to hear, he made her feel like a princess, like she was the only one in the world, like she was special. Her marriage clearly wasn't giving her that feeling and she wanted so badly to fall in love and run away with this guy (with her kids). Turns out he's a liar and a big jerk. Broke her heart after two years of whatever they did (They only met twice as he lives in another state) and she is suffering terribly. Her marriage is shot and her heart is broke. I do believe that women and men who are married CAN fall in love with someone else while married and I do believe that they leave their spouses and live happily ever after. I just don't think it is after first sight. I also believe, if that happens, there was something missing in the marriage to begin with. I think being attracted to other people is normal but going beyond that says something is wrong with the marriage and, to save it, the two need counseling and to work at staying together and finding out what is missing. I say all this because it almost happened to me. But we did the counseling thing, we learned what was going on, and we have been together for 23 years and are happier now than way back when.

Well I would say "fall "interested" at first sight". Love involves a lot of time, sharing, feelings, and commitment. It doesn't happen within a glance. I think that's not possible. How much could you love a person whom you have no information at all? It's all in the head. Well, I think it's possible to fall interested at first sight (something like chemistry) but it really depends on the person to pursue further or not. I think if a couple is really committed in a relationship, they won't let the pursuing happens. If I get married one day, I am sure I would do my part right.

I don't think that I have such a feeling now after I got married. My responsibity to my family doesn't allow me to be like that and I will never think of the feeling of falling in love with somebody else at the first sight. It happened so before I got married when I was young, but never ever after marriage. I think that it is not a good thing for a marriage person to fall in love with someone else at the first sight just because her or his appearance or sense of humor. We are human and we must be responsible for our family and value our family.

I think falling in love has a lot to do with the brain than the heart. If you want to think that you will fall in love then there is a big possibility that you will. On the other hand, if you will program your mind not to fall for another guy, then you won't. This would apply to people both single and married. Whether we like it or not, there are really married people who are irresponsible enough to still flirt with other people. Sometimes, they're not happy with they're present spouses and sometimes they're just mere selfish. People could always have excuses for their actions. We cannot do anything about that anymore. We could just hope people will start being responsible so that they're children won't suffer. As for love at first sight, its still all in the minds of the people. If they have been influenced by too much romantic stories, they might think that way, too. So the next guy who will come along will most probably sweep them off their feet.

I believe the thing of falling in love at first sight.But I think if you love your spouse,you will control yourself and not love her/him who is not your spouse.If you were married,but not have any child,and your spouse does not love you ,I think you can leave her/him and love everyone you are falling in love with.But if you have family and have children,in my opinion,you should conside seriously,because it will ruin your family if you love other people.

Well, if the guy is already married I dont think its love maybe its lust.

I think this won't happen to me. As long as I am married, I won't allow myself to love another. I may just appreciate to this one but it won't be love. I am a very faithful person.

marriage is a sacrament, when you get married you are no longer two but one. be aware of the stages of love and how to control your infatuations. communicate with your husband so you can settle things out. talk to him and say to him "honey you know i love you and i want our relationship to last a lifetime, i'm getting attracted to someone and i'm afraid of what is happening. help me hon." and lastly, pray to God and ask for his guidance and for wisdom. you know you are mature enough to make wise decisions, also avoid situations where you think you'll fall to temtations i.e being with the one your infatuated with in an isolated place if you need more clarifications and or suggestions, comments, violent reactions, pls send me a message, thank you

I really don't believe in love at first sight. I belive that love is a step by step process and you can't have that feeling towards a person instantly. Maybe the right term for that is attraction, calling it love? I don't think so...

I'm not one to push my views onto others but the way I see it, marriage is nothing more than a mutual declaration between two people that they will forever be committed to each other. And you know what, half of the time marriages don't last. I don't believe "love" at first sight exists but rather "interest" at first sight. If love were as easily created just by making eye contact, I don't think anyone would take it as seriously as they do. I have been in a situation that fits that description but it was nowhere near love. Just infatuation.

it may be possible for one to fall to another even after marriage..but that ain't love..first sight never gives love

i also agree that love at first sight will not be such a good idea. but something happen to me: i'm married women and ever trust that first sight will give happy ending.im graduated from local universities and after completed my studies i'm busy with my own life and dont have time to find true love. so my cousin introduced me with his best friend (my hubby) to me. Before i met my hubby i have many friends. Most of them of course man. I only likes to make them as friends even one of them i admire.I'm afraid to falling in love. But in few month we friends we seems that we are connected each other and my hubby ask to marry me. we engaged for 9 month and marry. now we have son 9 months old.