Should I approve a new friend who doesn't have very many posts?

Why not. Dont be choosy, those new members and wanted to make friends with you, in due time they will have the time to respond and discussed with you topics on this lot. As long as he/she is discussing on subject matters opened by you then accept her/him, however if she/he is getting over board then tell him and end your friendship with him/her. As a beginner she/he still doesnt know what to do to have more friends. I also dont have much time to discussed with some members, I am also working and most of the time I am busy but I tried to write short discussions with the subject that interest me.

I have a request in my thing also for a new member with very little posts. I don't want to be rude and not approve them, but like you said, people come and go on here and I don't want a bunch on inactive friends. So I am waiting awhile and see if they post anything that I am interested in or if they respond to my discussions. Otherwise I won't approve them, if we have nothing in common then I don't think there is a point.

I make a special point of accepting them as a friend and then welcoming them personally to mylot and wishing them luck and trusting that they will enjoy themselves and have fun here. I then go on to briefly give them a tutorial on how to use mylot ans stress that only quality posts of 50 plus words will earn anything and how the star system works after 100 posts and paid pictures after 500 posts and so on. I finally end up with an offer to answer any questions they might have - that is I can answer the question! I have worked hard to get over 1,000 new members here and each one I have invited to be a friend so that we could communicate. Most have accepted and many keep up a correspondance. Very few are still active but that is the way the internet works. OK, I make a few dollars in commission but I earn more in an hour at work than I do in a month here so I don't do it for the money. If we can all communicate in this world we are part way to world peace and welcoming someone here as a friend is one tiny step in that direction.

Why not? I approve friends instantly. Not everywhere, but only in my lot. The truth is the more friends you have here the better. It means more discussions to respond to and easily find in the "discussions your friends started", more responses to your own discussions, and it means that the new users get some friendly help from an old user. I encourage you to accept new user requests. This is not really like those networking sites, where it's best to choose your friends based on interests and common ground, here the more the merrier. If you have new users that you accept as friends, then you are more likely to respond to their discussions and then they are more likely to stay since most people leave when they get frustrated with zero responses on their discussions. Plus there is no way of knowing here, what the person is like when you add them here, unlike other sites where you can see everyone's bio. The most you can expect is a username and an avatar, so instead of choosing why not give everyone a chance?

if you want to like him/her, then aprrove his/her request. i dont' why you pay more attention to the amount of his/her posts. till now i had never refuse any request, but if he/she doesn't log in again, then i will delete him/her from my friends. thanks to my friends, they are kind to give me some responses, then i can earn money easily. so approve all your request, then you can delete some of them inactive.

by golly! if everyone has your outlook im jolly well snookered and may as well give up now! you have such a delightful picture so i am sure you will be so kind as to honour me with your friendship and i promise in return to pop by every now and then and reply to one of your discussions. Go on! lets see if i can make you break your rule!

that is toatally up to you

I go to their probile and check out what they have done. If I think they would make a good friend, I approve, if not, deny.

I have a real hard time accepting friend requests when the member doesn’t have many posts either- I wonder why do they want to be my friend?? What interests could we share? If I answered a discussion of theirs – I am more inclined to accept- but if I didn’t and haven’t seen them prior- then I don’t accept. Especially if they have few posts- I figure do your time first—get some discussions and responses under your belt- and then ask.

I find it hard to accept people to be my friend, but it is not because they do not have many posts. It is that I do not want to be any vicious arguments between differences of opinions. I do think it would be easier if I did accept everybody who requests it, but then I start to think, what if that person and I were totally at odds, and one or both of us decided to delete the other person. I do try to read some of their posts and usually I do put them on my friend's list. So someone who does not post that many finds it easier for me to accept them as there is not that many posts to go through.

I think your appraoch cannot be termed as wrong. I have also experienced that some newbies send me the request for friendship, but later on I do not see them participating in my discussions. I would very much love them to particpate in my discussions, I think, they sent the request because they were interested in me and my topics. I normally do not reject any request for friendship, but after sometime, say after one month, if I do not find the persons who are in my friends'list, participating in my discussions, or vice versa, I delete their names. Becauase I think a friendship cannot blossom, untill and unless there is some kind of interaction going on between friends. It is up to you to accept or reject them, but I think on a positive note, you can give a chance to them (new members) to become your friends. We should always remember, when we joined here, initially, we were also 'new' and we did not have many posts to our credit at that time, but some of the senior members did allow us to be their 'friends', so we should not discourage newbies altogether, but after accepting their request we should watch and observe them, if we do not find them to be 'active' enough, we always have the choice to delete their names from friends' list. p.s. - Meanwhile, I have sent you a request for 'friendship'! I have seen some of your discussions and I feel impressed with your discussions and replies. Have a nice day!

of course, even if they have little post you should still approve them if they request you to be their friends.

I always accept and approve a new friend who invites me. I think that this way we can make our friend circle bigger abd bigger with more responses when we post a new discussion. I don't worry about their not being active on mylot if they don't have the time. Besides, I think that there is no limit for us to have as many friends as we accept on the friendlist. Like the saying, "The more friends you have, the easier you find things done when help is offered by your friends."

This is your decision. But here is an important thing: not all users with many posts is good, like not all users with few posts is bad. The number of posts doesn't describe a people.

Its totally up to you..But of late, I have been going off my gut feelings, and usually I am right..If the profile dosnt look legit then I will reject them, but its unfair to just because they have only a few responses under their belt..That when I just investigate their profile see when they joined and what their responses were etc...

I tend to allow anyone who asks me as I don't figure it really matters if they stay or not , at least for the length of time that they are with MyLot they will see my posts and may take the time to answer to one or two of them and even if they don't it doesn't really bother me . You never know when someone could turn out to be a really good friend or someone who will take the time to respond to your post and I don't want anyone to feel they were not welcome because everyone felt that they should wait to see what a person was like but we all have our own way of deciding if we want to agree to someone's request so I feel you should go on what works best for you and how you feel on this because if this later means going through your list and wasting a day on getting rid of those that you don't want on your list this is going to take up a lot of your time that you wouldn't have had to do if you waited to see if they were going to stay or not or if you were interested in what they had to say . Take Care .

Hello beautyqueen26, I always approve immediately any friend requests that I received. Some of them are newbies who are still struggling to understand My Lot life here. I don't mind if they only have a few posts as long as they wish to be on my list, I will approve them.

If no one else will try them in the first because they have only very few posts, then who ever add them as a friend? We have all been a beginner here in myLot once, and someone out there helped us by adding us to their list of friends even though we very few discussions. I guess it's our turn to help out these new comers too. Who knows we might just be giving them enough incentive to stick around and become a regular myLot user. Just delete them if they don't prove to be useful members, but in the meantime, we have to trust that they too wants to stay here in myLot for good.

I am new here but I would give them a chance. Some people are looking for friendships so what have you got to lose?

Well there were tons of people who didn't think I would stick around or that I was worth it. Some still don't think as much (I'm no newbie .