How long do you grieve a lost friend?

Hello, beauty queen. I think that I have experienced similar affairs like you have. Well, my first love and I had been in a very good relationship for four years before she was assigned to work in another city after graduation. She had been working there for only three months before she wrote me a letter that she had made her mind to break up the relationship with me. In her letter she said that a different surrounding can easily change someone. I was so sad and grieved that it was so difficult for me to believe that. Because we had had so good relationship for so many years. I just couldn't help trembling all over when I read this letter when it was so warm in the sun. I was completely beaten by this very letter. I was begging her not to be so cruel to me after I had put all of my heart on her. She told me that she had already had someone else and they were living together. I was so broken-hearted by this. For almost more than two years, I had no desire to look for someone else in my life. All that was in my mind was her shadow hanging around me till one day I was introduced to my present wife that helped me to get out of that terrible feeling zone. Thanks to God, I lost the ex, but I have got a much better one, who is faithful to me and loves so much. I love my wife wholeheartedly though my ex sometimes appears in my mind. She has only become part of my memory. My life will never be influenced by this terrible dream that has ever happened to me. So that's why I think that what I have experienced is somewhat the same like you have experienced. We seem to be on the same boat. Thanks for your discussion that reminds me of my past years ago. Anyway, I value my present life and I am very satisfied with my life and my family.

If this lost friend is my best friend ,i will miss a long time .But if this person betray me , i will never miss he or she .But i think if you lost your best friend .And you think it is regrettable .Please find him or her .Then say :my best friend i need you .I come from chinese .And my english is poor .Don no tmind it .Thank you .

It all depends on how close the two of you were. It takes how ever long it takes to get over a friendship. It might take up to 6 months or longer. It could take up to 2 years. It all depends.

It definitely depends on the friendship. Two dear to my heart I still mourn today and thats really expected since they were so deep and meaningful. They were really one of a kind and from time to time my thoughts drift to them. Also Queenie, it depends on how the friendship was and if there were any tragic events tied to the end of the friendship, that also has an impact on grief and future repercussions to the one who has to bear the loss. Its hard to pick up but slowly you do. I find it helpful to think of the good times and the good things about those friends. That way the heart calms and the mind does not forget how valuable things like this are. Also finding new friends and building relationships can help ease the pain of a lost friendship. A lot of the time its not easy, and yes the grief will still be there to some minute degree, but one is capable of overcoming and living their life with new friends, relationships and family.

The best way to get over a friend that's very close to you is if you make your self your best friend,to believe that you can always count on your self if you can't count on anyone.Because if you did you count on people you would notice that eventually it won't last and if it does then that's good. But to get over a special friend you need to make yourself your bestfriend, and count on your self,because when you that's when you know you will never have to wonder if it would last or not.:)

i am still grieving to a lost friend until now. same as you, he ended our friendship without giving me any warnings. it's like he just leave me hanging. until now, i am still trying my best to communicate with my friend without any luck. i have been grieving for 4 years now. if he can just give me answers as to why he ended up our friendship, probably i can move on. question of the decade, what went wrong my very best friend?

I dont think there is a right time nor do i think it will be the same for each person, but instead depends upon you and how the relationship was constructed. We can grieve the end of relationships but it is not the person we grieve but rather the interaction we had with them. Only time can be the judge of when time is right to move on blessed be

This is a good discussion and thank you for bringing this up. I think this is different for everyone. I think you should take the time you need, but at the same time you have to move on at some point, right? I recently had to severe ties with someone who I thought was a friend, but turned out not to be. I am hurt by it because of all that has followed from it. I am spending time with other friends and my husband is my best friend above everyone else, but it is still painful. I had known this person or thought I had known them for over 2 years and then I had to get them out of my life after a lot of pain happened. I know I am better off without them in my life in the long run, but it is still hard sometimes.

I don't think three years is too long to grieve over a friendship you have lost. I don't think I have ever grieved that long over one, but as an adult, I haven't had any really close friends besides my husband and my sister. If I were to lose either of them, it would be more complicated than losing a friend, and I would probably grieve for a very long time. This may sound bad, but most of my friends are replaceable. I don't get too close to anyone. I had a bad experience in high school with someone who was supposed to be my best friend. I still talk to her every once in a while, but we are definitely not close anymore. I now don't trust anyone really, except my husband and sister. Any of my other friends, I would probably be upset for a short amount of time if they ended the relationship for some reason, but it wouldn't be too bad. Jeremy might be an exception to that rule. I don't talk to him all that often anymore, but I know that if I ever need to, he's there for me. I would be more upset if he ended our friendship than anyone else I am sure.

I don't know if I would get over my best friend all of the sudden not being there any more. We have been friends for over twenty years and I can't see my life with out her.

It depends. Some people I miss a long time, others I do not. It really varies. I think it depends on how valuable a friend is, I mean in giving advice or fun or... I can spend many hours with a person and then hardly miss them at all when they are gone. Others who make quite an impressioin to me I might miss for a long time. Most people can be replaced easily.