My granddaughter cries when I told her

I don't think it's you. Don't take it personally, suspenseful. Two month old babies can already express a personality, and in my experience some will like you (or in my case, tolerate me LOL!) and some will scream if I so much as looked at them! I was starting to get a complex when my son explained that one screaming kid was probably afraid of my glasses. The light bulb lit, I took off my glasses, and the wailing stopped! So, in this instance, it worked. But there were other times when the kid just won't have anything to do with me. They're OK if I interact with them while in their mom's arms or in a carrier, but if I tried to hold them they cringe! Hmmmm... Sometimes the reaction is just the opposite. They lean towards me and want me to carry them, and I have to find a chair fast or risk dropping them to the floor (had a stroke which weakened my arms). I am sure when your granddaughter gets used to you you won't be able to set her down because she will be holding on to your neck refusing to be let down! You are NOT a monster--you're a perfectly normal Gramma. {{{Hugs!}}}

Im sure it has nothing to do with your operation. If you are nervous, tense, or even worried that she will cry, she will sense that. Babies know things. My younger daughter, 9 months, went through a phase where she wouldnt even want to look at my mom. She would SCREAM. If my mom even held her she would totally flip out! My mom was nervous about her crying and that it made it worse. Ill tell you what my mom did. When we'd go any where in the car, my mom would ride in the back seat with her and talk and sing to her. If we went to store, my mom would put her in her grocery cart and push her around the store and talk to her really softly. She would try and get her to play with toys and distract her with stuffed animals. It didnt take long before the baby started loving my mom! Now, when my mom comes around, she crawls over to her really fast and puts her arms up for her to take her!

I don't think so. You just don't have experience with younger babies as you mentioned above. I don't know you personally but I just have a hard time believing a surgery can turn someone into a monster. It doesn't seem you dislike babies, you just went through painful experiences in your reproduction area and it hurt you so much. By the way you are a grandma of such a cute baby, congrats you are so blessed!

She is probably just overwhelmed! My sister's little girl just about screamed whenever she saw me, then one day we figured it out. she screamed everytime a blonde would hold her, lol. But eventually she got over it and now actually wants to be with me. Oh my blondes get the bad rap even from babies, lol! Smile and just love her to pieces.

some babies are just like that,they want to scream and cry at any reason they can,its not you,it could be they want to be held a certain way,or they have gas and need to be patted on the back or maybe just teething and want comfort by you walking around the house instead of sitting.

I, as a man who has a lot of nieces, nephews and aunts with month year old kids, find that it takes time for a baby to get used to a stranger. It also depends on what the moods of a the baby are. I do alot of talking when it comes to babies. They tend to respond in little ways as you get to talk to them more. Most of the time, they look for there mothers or are hungry or uncomfortable. Babies sometimes often stop crying when they get see or hear things that catch their interest and usually there are this are unfamiliar things to them. I read somewhere that babies understand facial expressions. Somehow, I hope you get to enjoy the company of your granddaughter. 8-)

I don't think your maternal instincts were removed...some babies are just that way. At our shop, the daughter's owner had her 1st baby and she became kind of the shop's new mascot. She would smile at every other woman in the place except me. It took her several months to warm to me, and then all of a sudden I get dimples and smiles now. Who knows...maybe my gray hair turned her off! LOL. I realize your own granddaughter is much more important to you...but maybe she just has to get to know you. Just keep loving her. All babies come with their own built-in personalities as you can remember with your sons. Congratulations on the new baby in the family!