How many times have you been in love?
By gmakesmoney
@gmakesmoney (2923)
United States
September 5, 2007 2:12am CST
Have you been in love before? How many times do you think that you have truly been in love in your lifetime so far?
I can say that I have truly and deeply been in love twice. I have loved more than twice but really only experienced being in love on two of those occassions and while I'm no longer romantically with either on I don't regret a single second of those experiences.
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13 responses
@wondericequeen (7876)
• Hong Kong
8 Sep 07
I saw this discussion a couple days ago and I never did reply because I was really thinking hard *laughs*. Ok, I am ready to reply now *coughs*. I think I am really in love for the second time right now even though it sounds crazy that my boyfriend is still faceless (I saw his pictures but you know what I meant). I loved one person a lot too (awhile) and it took me forever to get back to a good mood. Someone said there is only one deep love in life and if you have two, you are really lucky! I guess we are then! *smiles*.
@gmakesmoney (2923)
• United States
8 Sep 07
AWWWWW I'm so happy for you! I do agree that having experience two loves is really lucky. I've done the online dating thing twice and the first time was amazing and resulted in what is hands down the greatest love I've had in my life and now one of my closest friends (when he isn't busy chasing some starlet, lol). I think not being physically close in distance made us have to develop a deeper connection and know one another on deeper levels, whenever we'd travel to see each other it was as if not a day had passed between visits, so comfortable because of how well we knew one another. So I'm really glad for you that you get to experience that and I hope it lasts.
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@wondericequeen (7876)
• Hong Kong
8 Sep 07
Actually I kind of like dating online because like you said being physically not close, we know each other on a deeper level first and kind of know that if he is a good match. I will see him soon and I hope I won't get a heart attack on the plane. Well, I am not sure how things would turn out (my love life is always very dramatic, nothing normal!). I hope it lasts, but if it doesn't in the end, then I would just enjoy the moments *laughs*. That's what I learnt from the last love of my life *smiles*. I am glad that you had a really good memory about that love of your life too! *winks*. Sure something better will come along!
@gmakesmoney (2923)
• United States
17 Sep 07
A little late in response I know, lol, but... I agree I think that it is a great alternative to meeting people and getting to know each other on a deeper level. As long as one is carefull (there are a lot of liars online) then my experience has always been a posative one and the men that I've met online and dated, however briefly or long, I'm still friends with now unlike my other exes who I wish would just fall off the face of the earth, lol. I wish you a ton of luck and I hope it goes great for you!
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@exclusively_rinku (891)
• India
5 Sep 07
hello gmakesmoney,
i would say i am one of them who believes that love happens once in a lifetime.the others are just infatuation or crushes.i think love is not a feeling but rather an emotion.romance is a feeling.and feelings die out with time and then get regenerated.so sometimes we find there is no romance in our life.but love stays there with us for lifetime.if we search it we will find it right beside us.so if you love somebody deeply then it will be there with you forever.it won't die.
so for me being in love and being romantically involed are two different things.and i believe in the former.yeah i am in love with my munchkin.that is what i call my boyfriend.it wasn't love at first sight.for him it was but i gradually fell in love with him.oopss i should rather say raised in his love.its a very deep and divine emotion that i consider.and i feel lucky that i found it in y life.
@gmakesmoney (2923)
• United States
6 Sep 07
I agree that there are very different aspects of it and that some aspects do fade away over time while love is one that stays with you.
@framestone (62)
• Malaysia
5 Sep 07
maybe u really love him but at that time he didn't mean it... sometime boy not really care about anything and only concentrated for something that he really need from u
@nengs10 (3180)
• Philippines
5 Sep 07
I have been in love many times. To be exact, it was 3 times. My first encounter with being in love was during my high school. I thought it was just a puppy love. But it turned out very blooming and exciting. Wow, I really can't believe that the girl whom I fell in love with in high school was now my fiancee. I'm just so happy that I didn't let her go. And I didn't let our love pass away. I love her until now. I'm so blessed to be with her everyday.
@gmakesmoney (2923)
• United States
5 Sep 07
It's so nice to hear about someone who is happily in love. I hope your love only grows and lasts a lifetime.
@wotfpatty (2065)
• United States
5 Sep 07
I don't know. I think maybe twice. I love my husband so that is one but I think I was in love with someone else but I don't truly know if it was love or just really deep like and compatibility. Love is such a tough word to define.
I have been in lust and in like but I think I would have to say twice. My husband and the other person before that who I still think about fondly and who apparently still thinks about me from what I have heard.
The others were not love. Just like.
@gmakesmoney (2923)
• United States
6 Sep 07
I agree love really is hard to define and it's hard to really know if it's felt or just close to being felt. I think you can love without being in love and be in love without really loving.
@wonderful1 (2075)
• China
5 Sep 07
many times, but i dont' like my boyfriens, except my current boyfriend. they love me, but i can't make myself to love them,so in fact, i am only once in love.
my current boyfriend is a considerate man, he loves very much, and he remembers what i like and what i dislike. when my mom came to see me, then he respected my mom, and treat my mom, as his own mom, so i'm very happy.
besides, we are working hard for our wedding.
@eachen2002 (889)
• United States
6 Sep 07
I think I've only been in love truly twice in my life and neither one worked out.I'm sure I won't try anymore.It's too hard getting your heart broke.
@goinliveinfive (561)
• United States
5 Sep 07
I've been in love twice and the starnge part is that I never fell out of love with the first person. She figured out that she never really loved me and left me. I'm still in love with her but I'm also in love with my wife and would never go back to my ex no matter what. I don't think that if it's really love it ever goes away. You invest a lot of yourself in that other person and you invest parts of yourself that you give away freely and then just don't recoup when the relationship ends. My ex is also married with a family of her own now and part of loving her is being happy that she found someone she was able to love and wanting the best for her.
@carolinagurl (5)
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5 Sep 07
None. I have love someone, but never in love. To me being in love means loving that person so much that you feel you can't live without them.
