Would you marry for money?
By gmakesmoney
@gmakesmoney (2923)
United States
21 responses
@andrejuly84 (1047)
• Romania
5 Sep 07
no,i won't i wouldn't give my life to money,i wouldn't make this sacrifice for money sake.love is more important to me than money.i also need money but waiting to get them on other way than marrying with someone i don't love,and most of this,haas other way to live the life,other plans and other menatlity.i want to be free to choose what i am gonna do,what i will dream what i will like and so on.a short time you can resist doing this but not too much and than you will certainly regret you get married that man.
@gmakesmoney (2923)
• United States
5 Sep 07
I think love is more important as well, it is tempting to marry for money but after a while it would be a regret if it was someone you did not feel affection for.
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@coolmailraj (2460)
• India
5 Sep 07
Hi.
I definitely will not do that. I think money is not everything in this world and to be in a relationship is a huge thing, which one should not opt for, if he or she is not comfortable with the other person. Something called love, should be there in between the two and then being rich or poor dose not matter, as they say.
@gmakesmoney (2923)
• United States
5 Sep 07
Yes I think love needs to be there in order for a relationship to be happy rather than for it to be a burden.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
6 Sep 07
I would marry a rich man but we had to agree on which path this marriage was going.If a rich man wanted to marry me but he wanted the total opposite out of life that I wanted, I wouldn't marry him.It would be a huge tug of war and no one would win.On second thought, I wouldn't want to marry a rich man, I would rather be his mistress. That way I could still be my casual self and still, for a time, have fun with his money.
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@gmakesmoney (2923)
• United States
6 Sep 07
lol that is surely another spin on it! Not a bad idea either.
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@wondericequeen (7876)
• Hong Kong
6 Sep 07
Nah. I don't think I would stand any crap like that. I would rather be broke and free. I used to date someone whom I found that I didn't really love, and I got annoyed throughout the relationship. I think that did kill some of my major brain cells and is not really healthy for me *laughs*. I would never do anything like that because I hate being with someone I don't really care and I hate being "not me".
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@wondericequeen (7876)
• Hong Kong
7 Sep 07
Yes if it's not love from someone, then we at least have to love ourselves *laughs*.
@gmakesmoney (2923)
• United States
6 Sep 07
I totally agree, you do feel like you can't be yourself in that situtation and you end up resenting the person. I think that in the long run it isn't fair to either person involved, everybody deserves love.
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@breakfastgirl (66)
• Philippines
6 Sep 07
i used to think that way--probably if i marry someone well-off i can have a better life...friends told me that one must be practical these days but then i come to think also if i go for this kind of mentality, will i ever be fulfilled with my life? will my conscience give me enough peace for marrying someone out of money?
i end up saying no to that reason...id rather marry someone i love than marry someone i don't love....
@gmakesmoney (2923)
• United States
6 Sep 07
I agree I think that in my mind I wouldn't be able to truly be at peace knowing that I married for money and missed out on love.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
5 Sep 07
I would have to be in love with the person. I would rather live poor then to live with someone I can't stand. I have actually dated a couple of millionairs.....they are annoying because they lose site of what is real in life. I just happened to go on a date with one and he gave me such a headache I excused myself to the bathroom and called a friend to come and get me. I had heard enough about how much he had.
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@gmakesmoney (2923)
• United States
5 Sep 07
I totally agree with you and have been in that situation as well. I also agree that they do lose site of what is important and can be a bore after some time. I had one who didn't believe in God and asked me why he should. I said you have hundreds of millions of reasons in the bank of why you should believe. It was amazing how rich he was in money but how poor he was in spirit.
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@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
6 Sep 07
Well I really don’t know coz I definitely did not marry for money. Being an only child of affluent parents, I fell in love with a very poor boy at the impressionable age of 21. At 24 I married him when he was just two years into his first job. So no money there. The house was broken-down, no basic amenities, many members to share a paltry income…generally a lot of hardship and compromise. Love made me strong and to be very frank God has been very very kind to me regarding my husband. I could not have wished for a better person and no amount of money would make me inter-change him. If I am to marry again in another life, I would still marry the same person many many times over, money be damned. But for the practical part, I did wish we had a little more money. Things are a lot better now, gradually over the years we have renovated and purchased to make the house habitable. I think this has brought us even closer. But many times while passing-by some road or locality, I saw good houses with good facilities and I would lie if I said that I did not resent my luck. I wished if only I had married someone from an affluent family or I married the same person but he belonged to a well-off family and I did not have to struggle so much. But these are only fleeing thoughts, deep in my subconscious mind. Overall I have had more than my share of happiness and peace…my cup brims over and money has nothing to do with it.
But people who are planning to get married for them I would suggest that yes, before you take the leap, arrange your finances in such a way that you don’t have to struggle a lot when you should actually be enjoying life.
And answering your original question...no inspite of everything I never had, I would still not marry for money coz peace is more important to me. I need to have a peaceful relation with my life-partner.
@gmakesmoney (2923)
• United States
6 Sep 07
Thanks for sharing your story. I agree that in the end it is the peace that is more important and that it is important to set your financials in order before you marry to avoid having problems as the result of lack of money.
@funnycole (392)
• United States
6 Sep 07
Nope, because in the end it costs too much to get out of.
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@LilyoftheThorns (12918)
• United States
6 Sep 07
No I wouldn't...because I don't want to lead a miserable life. Life without real love is no life at all. I wish that I would be lucky enough for fall for a rich guy! lol. But that would be really lucky on my part. I couldn't marry for money alone...especially since you said the guy is annoying or wants different things from you. If the guy was a good guy I'd be saying yeah! But that isn't the case so I'm going to have to say no, i would not marry for money.
@wonderful1 (2075)
• China
6 Sep 07
no, i can't.
frankly, i have no enough money for my living now, because i quit my job, and my boyfriend's salary can't afford our living. because i borrow 450 dollars from my parents, then we have to sent it back in few months. so now we live a poor life, but i believe we will live a better life in the future.
several months ago, a rich man showed love to me, but i refused him. because i can't force myself to marry a man who i don't love at all.
money is necessary for everyone, but i can't live for money.
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@bbcszone (99)
• Romania
8 Sep 07
I think all girls are married for money,and the rich boys are married for .this person was annoying or had a plan for live that was 100% the opposite of wou you eanted live me life because i'm not married for money.I'm not married for money because i have necesarry for my life.
@kat_princess (1470)
• Philippines
6 Sep 07
No because money can't buy everything.How stupid for anyone to marry just for money.
@TheGreatMaster (261)
• Romania
6 Sep 07
Never. I think this is the biggest mistake that someone could make. If you don't love the person, you shouldn't marry with him, nobodoy how much money he has...