Why can't husbands be more considerate & sensitive.. why???
By ayu_asks
@ayu_asks (104)
United States
September 6, 2007 12:16am CST
I am a housewife, had a busy day today ~ running errands, went to the bank, returned books to library, refunded some items in 3 different places, work on my online biz, packed the house, checked the mail, by then I had to pick up my hubby who's a full time student. By the time we reached home, he asked me "have u purchased the air ticket to washington?" (he's sent by school and I am joining him) and i said "no" and he just rebutted "not yet?!? what were you doing the whole day??" I was so upsed I lashed out at him... why was he so insensitive? as if I had nothing to do and just laze around at home?? What do you think?? aarrrgghh... ayu @ myhandbaghaven.blogspot.com
3 responses
@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
6 Sep 07
Hello ayu_asks,
Ha Ha Ha! I understand how you feel! I guess men are like that*laughs* I am a working mom. I wake up early in the morning to prepare for my family and get ready to work. I always in a hurry. Anything that needs to be done, my husband will ask me to do as he is 'very busy'. Once I reach home, he always remind me to act like a 'wife and mother' and that means I have to do my house chores and take care of the family again. I don't even have time for myself. He helps me sometimes but whenever he does, he will say that, " Why you can't do it yourself? If I don't help you,you can't do it at all!" Just imagine how I feel whenever he says like that!
@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
14 Sep 07
Hello ayu_asks,
I prefer to keep quiet and don't want to argue more. My husband too, if he gets angry, he will just go to his computer room and leaves me alone to figure out what went wrong. (But he will come back and persuades me to forgive him, no matter whose fault was that..he he he)
I prefer to do everything on my own rather than asking his help cause I know that he will say the same word again and again. But if he keeps saying the things that irritate me, I will just tell him this, "try to be in my shoes and show me that you are better than me!" He will just quiet...
@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
14 Sep 07
You are partially enabling this. Stand up to him, no one should have to take this kind of garbage! Make HIM do the work for a day to see what it is like. It stinks that there are guys out there who barely do a thing for wife and family (yes there is breadwinning, but there's a little more to it than that).
@maia0129 (91)
• Philippines
14 Sep 07
Oh my! That's too bad. I would have done the same thing you did if I was in your situation. I really understand how you felt. I mean, it's really not easy to be a housewife, with all the housechores and all the stuff that you need to get done even if you are tired already you still need to do it. I really see my mother in you since sometimes my father also did that to her. Thank God my husband, don't behave that way yet. Just stretch your patience more if you still can.
