Valentine's Day
By Amy
@artemis432 (7474)
Abernathy, Texas
September 8, 2007 8:51pm CST
This one is for the ladies - ladies, do you feel that it should be all on the man for Valentine's day or do you spend time dreaming up special things and buy nice romantic gifts. Should it only be the guy to offer romantic things - is this his role?
Or perhaps, ladies, you don't believe in Valentine's Day.
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12 responses
@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
9 Sep 07
In Asia, especially Japan and Korea, the women are the ones who give out chocolates and gifts on Valentine's Day (guys giving them is much less common).
And in return a month later there is White Day where men return the gifting favors. If its candy, its usually marshmallows given out, but several gift ideas are possible.
Personally I don't believe in V-Day due to experiences and just how fake it feels (at least in the states), but its fine. Too bad though, I know how to make chocolates and chocolate cake. And I'm decent with a couple of marshmallow and gelatin deserts. Just saying... :)
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@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
9 Sep 07
Me too and in return - I promise NOT to make one for you - and uh, that's a good thing!
@Aurone (4755)
• United States
9 Sep 07
Not a big fan of Valentine's day. Lots of people get their feelings hurt on Valentine's day. Those who have no significant other and those who significant others don't perform as expected. But I do, do my part on Valentine's day. I buy my husband candy and a card or some other kind of gift.
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@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
9 Sep 07
How sweet - and equal of you. Did you read what programmer wrote about how, in China the women give the flowers and roses. I like that a lot. My husband wasn't aware of it but knew of some strange custom that theives perform if they find nothing to steal - he's not a thief - just Chinese - but it sounds too wierd and I think he may be putting me on.
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
9 Sep 07
I buy my husband a card and if we go out to dinner, when we come back, I often have a nice dessert for him. Or if it's a total dinner by him, then I get him a little present. Usually something cute or silly like silk heart pajamas or something.
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
9 Sep 07
We have acquantences (malyck - spelling?) on base and they trade off Valentine's Day and make it a whole special day where they do things the other person really likes.
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@writersedge (22563)
• United States
9 Sep 07
That sounds very sweet. We do that in summer. But we do take turns in winter watching one movie I like and one that he likes.
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
10 Sep 07
I couldn't agree more. Those commercials for diamond companies that claim that you don't really love her until you spend three months salary on one of our diamonds are just a travesty.
Thanks for your response -to my title that is. :) My question for this topic is - do you think it should be all on the guy to be romantic and buy the flowers and such - or should girls return the favour?
Hallie17 - welcome and I look forward to your response to my discussion questions. :)
@AeroChickie (459)
• Canada
9 Sep 07
I think the responsibility of making Valentine's day special falls on both people in the relationship. It's nice if the guy plans a nice evening, but the girl should also add in some suprises and ideas of her own too. And if a girl doesn't think her guy is being romantic enough or wants more out of valentines day, then she should step up to the plate to help make the day special!
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@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
10 Sep 07
Good for you AeroChickie - and thanks so much for answering my discussion questions directly rather then just reading the title and going from there! You bring up some good points and I hope girls who complain to their boyfriends every Valentine's Day and expect the world - read your respsonse!
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
10 Sep 07
Thanks for your response -to my title that is. :) My question for this topic is - do you think it should be all on the guy to be romantic and buy the flowers and such - or should girls return the favour?
Btw, I love that you say you stay home and cook - Together. Very nice - and I think - romantic. :) Don't fatten the purses of the greeting card companies - unless its mine! If you see any cards called jettasmark - that's me.
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
9 Sep 07
Just have my husband bring me a bunch of red roses and a box of dark chocolates on Valentines Day and I will be happy. He can give me gifts on Christmas, we will give gifts on our respective birthdays, and we will go out on Christmas, Easter, Birthdays, and Father and Mother days. Valentine's Day is just for roses and dark chocolates in a heart shaped box and sitting down and watching "Sense and Sensibility" or "Pride and Prejudice' on the Dvd.
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@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
9 Sep 07
You know suspenseful, I love roses, especially Edwardian Roses, but they give me migraines. If someone wants to give me flowers, I love Sunflowers - they're just so happy. And so under appreciated as flowers. I think I'd prefer to have a garden though. You really do like those movies, thats the second time you've brought them up in a few days. You know, I'm going to have to revisit them. :)
@wonderful1 (2075)
• China
9 Sep 07
I had never paid much attention to Valenting's day, so i dont' hope a present from my boyfriend. I just hope he can remember my birthday, and give me a special gift. it can be a cheap one, but it is lovely or speically. i don't want flowers such as roses.
when he find a goods that i will like then he will buy it at once, and send to me as a gift, but it is a common day. haha, i like the feeling, then i feel he thinks of me all the time.
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
9 Sep 07
Wonderful - that's wonderful wonderful - that he buys you gifts when he's thinking of you or when he sees things he thinks you'll like - rather than on a holiday he's forced to, this is voluntary so in my book, means a lot more. I agree too, that gifts don't have to be expensive, as long as they're lovely and chosen specially for me! :)
@Malyck (3425)
• Australia
9 Sep 07
I don't, and never have, believed in Valentine's day, although I have for the past few years taken out my best friend. Either to dinner or a movie or just some sort of 'girl's night out'.
Personally, I just see it as the one day when the slack boyfriends and girlfriends can spend money on something corny, it's just a marketing day that makes people think that appreciation can only be shown through expensive gifts and only on one day each year.
I think that those who participate, women and men, should get (buy, make, other) their partner a present - it's not just for men.
I'm all about buying gifts when I see something suiting, and giving them at any time.
I show my love and appreciation everyday, and Valentines is just another one =D
Mal.
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@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
9 Sep 07
Me either, I think its for making card companies and diamond companies rich. I hate those commercials that basically say - if you really love her buy her a diamond - or in other words - spend a month's salary or more on her so we can get richer. I hate the idea of forced romance. I also have mostly been friends with guys and know that this day makes them nervous because if they do the wrong thing - they get in trouble - ridiculous! Read, REE DIC U LOUS. Girls will say I want this diamond tennis bracelet - I've seen it happen - and the guy will get it for her. So many a day after Valentine's Day, a girl will gloat about all her guy did, and I say, what did you do for him, they tilt their heads to the side and open their mouths and look quizzical - read dumb - and say, "Huh?" I've tried to think of it as a day set aside for lovers but it doesn't over ride my other reasons against it. Oops I think I tipped my hand with my little tirade. I guess I'm like you - I love buying things or suprizing others - just not when I'm forced to. Not that, as a girl, I am. Ahem,
*steps off soap box.
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
9 Sep 07
I'm a little confused about your answer to my discsussion although I totally appreciate it. My question was, do you think it should all be on the guy for Valentines?
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
15 May 08
You mean you think its more for the girl to buy the flowers etc for the guy?
I can see it as a couples day - each doing something for the other! :)
