Is there an age limit on finding happiness?
By ESKARENA1
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
September 9, 2007 5:06pm CST
This was stimulated by a friend of mine who has recently turned sixty. He shyly introduced myself to his twenty one year old girl friend. Now he has been single for twenty years and said he had problems with her parents. Well I think he does right as long as they are both happy, you?
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18 responses
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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11 Sep 07
yes, idealy it is true. Unfortunately, i have to ask, is love enough?
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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10 Sep 07
i have just returned from visiting them and they are happy
blessedf be
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
10 Sep 07
Just so I understand....He is 60 and dating a 21 yr old? but her parents are having issues with it?
Well I can understand the parents having issues with it...lets face it its not really common ya know so I could see a parent being tripped out by it.....Secondly I see NO PROBLEM with may/dec relationships MY ONLY concern would be if the older person had money and the younger person came across as shady....otherwise though I think it fabulous....Happiness DOESN'T IMO have an age limit and if they are both being genuine and are happy with each other then all the power to them!!
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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10 Sep 07
well, they have moved in together so i guess they are happy. I think its great
blessed be
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
10 Sep 07
I think there is no age limit when it comes to happiness. happiness will start with you and your heart so if you want to be happy at any age you will do it.
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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10 Sep 07
for sure you are right. Its the knobbing i find interesting, hob or otherwise
@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
9 Sep 07
For me, happiness is not determined by how old one is, it by what one has inwardly embraced..and inward acceptance and peace.
Doesn't matter how old you are...some people can be young and cranky and old and jovial;)
@amit8sinha (836)
• India
10 Sep 07
You are absolutely right. If both are happy then there nothing wrong. The main theme of life is to be happy and to make happy. But if there is some one who becomes sad due to your work then first thing that can you make them also happy. If it is possible some how then try to make them happy too beside self satisfaction. Because if you distribute love then only you can get love. If a rose gives fragrance then it is only happening because the rose is having fragrance. So you can got only that thing which you distribute to others.
So, distribute love if you want love.
@Ohara_1983 (4117)
• Kuwait
20 Nov 07
for me no age limit if you love someone specially if their both happy, just we wish them a goodlife & have a long relationship.
@stella1989 (2274)
• India
10 Sep 07
In my oppinion its totaly OK as long as both of them are comfortable and the most important thing "HAPPy"..!!
Love has no age bars and any thing like that.YOu are just free to love as free as you have the right to live you life..!!
but when you are thing of making a family at your sixties....can make an issue!!
But there is one thing I would like to say is...
"I can find millions of reasons that why I shouldn't be with you, but one thing I would like to say is I DON'T CARE"...!!
This is LOVE and it has no such age boundaries...you can fall at any age.
BE HAppy and fall in love.
:)
@highflyingxangel (9225)
• United States
9 Sep 07
I don't see why there should be an age limit on finding happiness. This guy seems like he's in great shape, especially to be dating at 60! He's got a chance to continue living his life, to continue enjoying his life, so why should he not be able to please himself and be happy with the time he's got left? Everyone deserves to be happy, no matter how old you are or what your life situation is.
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@derek_a (10874)
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10 Sep 07
I don't see age difference as a problem in a relationship. However, as I near 60, I would be concerned of my partner being left alone after say 20/30 years with me unless I would feel like or able to start a family at 60 - but that is a personal concern I would have. Love is love I guess and until faced with such a situation, I don't think anyone could give an opinion.
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@thefortunes (2367)
• Netherlands
10 Sep 07
Well Escarena1, this might last less than your friend expects or hopes for, but if they both are happy, and willing to give their relationship a try - they should.
You see, my partner is 20 years older than I am, and he is in his 60's now, while I am in my 40's, and I definitely see that he is growing older and tired over time. He doesn't have the energy to keep up with the life style we had before. Even though he looks way younger than he really is, and is very fit physically, he isn't young any more. No going out, just maybe once a month in the evenings and that's it. A girl of 20 would be able to live without it for not longer than a few months, but after that - I see them going apart.
My parents were very much against us being together, because he is of their age, and they kept telling me, youneed a guy from your own age or you would end alone while still young, and most probably without even a child, and they were right about the children as we have none, but I don't care as I love him, and he is my mate, and I care for him and know we will be together for many years to come :) Wish your friend good luck with his young GF whatever they chose to do :)
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@Malyck (3425)
• Australia
10 Sep 07
I agree, I think that if they are both happy and they truly want to be together, then it is not for anyone else to judge.
I definitely believe that you can have a wonderful and true relationship with someone when there is a large age-gap, the attraction is to the person after all.
If there is no manipulation or 'funny stuff' going on, they are both adults, they are both happy and there is no problem in my mind whatsoever.
Everyone deserves to be happy and to be with who they wish.
=D
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
11 Sep 07
As long as he is happy and the Girl is genuine it is no ones Business not even her Parents
Ok I can see their point and maybe I would be a bit sceptical but they have to realize it is their Daughters Life and they have to let her decide and be happy for her no matter what they think
@nmhschic2004 (1238)
• United States
10 Sep 07
I dont think there should be an age limit on finding happiness. And i dont understand why people make such a big deal about age difference. What does age matter if you are both really happy? Honestly her parents should just get over it. Shes 21 and she is fully capable of making her own decisions. I completely agree with you.
@hanyixin (67)
• China
10 Sep 07
i think there is an age limit on finding happpiness in china. beacuse you aren't living lonly and the parents always tell you what you should to do and not to do .sometimes the parents allow you to do something that they think it is good ,but something like marrriage and work,you may have to listen to them