Hatred doesn't get you nowhere
@ifinallyfoundmybaby (1742)
Philippines
September 9, 2007 7:27pm CST
I was thinking back then while watching a movie, and i saw somebody plotting everyday just get back at somebody who's life is much better than his and it made me think. Hating somebody doesn't really get you nowhere but rather it makes you look bad and you find yourself trying to put somebody down just because you envy the life of others.
On a different basis one example would be my little sister who hates my mom so much just because my mom is acting quite unfair these days and she kept on hating my mom for the rest of the day, she locked herself in the room and just plainly hated going downstairs because she could see our mom when she goes down and i said to her "its pointless hating somebody, you can't hate her and during the process you make yourself suffer. If you really hate her so much just hate her and yet live your own life and try to make it better so that you won't end up like her with so much pain in the a**"
I dont know if anybody aggrees with me that hating somebody is pointless, but it would be nice if you could give your own opinion about the whole thing
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@drannhh (15219)
• United States
10 Sep 07
I don't think you can really hate someone unless you love them, or at very least want them to love you. Therefore, hating someone will not only not get you anywhere, but it is rather pointless.
In any case, since violent emotions such as hatred only end up hurting the person who does the hating in the long run, it is better to disassociate people's actions from the people themselves. Your sister would be better off to hate what your mom did and hate that she did it, but she should not hate your mom. I do hope your mom is not unwell or under some sort of insurmountable stress, as usually moms try to be fair, don't you think?
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@ifinallyfoundmybaby (1742)
• Philippines
10 Sep 07
Yes they really are trying to be fair, the fact is she's just letting the stress get the most of her and i dont feel comfortable with it, i find it rather disturbing and it could damage the psychological environment of my youner brothers, they might grow up being scared and all.
I think we cannot hate an act but the person who did the action.
@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
10 Sep 07
In the examples you posted and my belief at large, intense and repeated hatred can be so counter productive. Does that mean I hate nothing? No. I hate several things, but I do not let it dominate my life in the least bit. Plus I have enough responsibilities and positive things in my life I have no time for intense or focused hatred.
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@ifinallyfoundmybaby (1742)
• Philippines
10 Sep 07
thats a nice point of view kind of like the one im looking for. Yes indeed we hate a lot of things but we dont let it get in our way
@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
24 Sep 07
Some awesome points you shared here. I as a Christian feel the best thing we can do to the people we may not always like, or get along with is to kill them with kindness. Treat them with respect, let them know you care, and be there if they need you. Also never hurts to Pray for them as well.
@ddnj2006 (652)
• Philippines
11 Jan 08
It's not that bad to hate something, it's really natural. It mostly appear when we demand more than things that can be given to us. Though, hating something means to have something important or really precious to you but in result, things came in opposite of what we want. And so, hatred comes out. Maybe your sister really love your mother much that his affection turns to negative when something is done without her expectation. Or maybe so much disappointed enough of something where your mom is involve? Anyway.. the one who made the hurting is the most effective one to bring back the fondness..(,")
@25th_Stargazer (887)
• Philippines
2 Oct 07
Hate is a strong word. Actually I don't hate anyone that I will go out of my way to harm them. The best word for me is RESENT. There's this person I resent because she has been saying nasty things about me when I'm not looking and treat me nicely when we're together or in a group. She's even nicer when she needs something from me like when she wants to borrow money, my things and any favor that she needs.
If she doesn't need anything from me, she gives me cold treatment. I don't mind. Like I said I will not do anything to get back. But I will not pass up the opportunity if I get the CHANCE. One day she really needed money and that's the time she remembers me again. Guess what I did.
@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
18 Sep 07
Hello ifinallyfoundmybaby,
I agree with you on this. It is just a waste of time when you get angry and hate someone so much and you spend your time cursing and hoping for the bad things to happen to that someone. Life is too short for all of this. I bet it is better if we just enjoy our life to the fullest and forget about that someone whom we hate so much. I had my own experience before related to this. I hated my ex brother-in-law so much after what he had done to my sister. After they got divorced, I kept hoping that he won't find happiness at all. But my sister who had to go through all this, accept it as a fate and always advice me to forgive and forget. What makes me realized was that, he lives happily with his new wife and family and terrible things always find the way to reach my life! So after that incident, I always remember what my mom and sis told me before. To forgive and forget, live your life as you wish and do not ever wish bad things to others even if you hate them so so much!
