Children are duplicate from their parents behavior

Hi, it id true that childrens are duplicates of their parent behaviour. for example i have two kids. my daughter behaves like how i do and my son like his dad. i have the habit of lip biting getting angry very often and keep complaining. now my daughter does the same not only this many of her activities make my relatives say that she is like me in the behaviour and son like the father by his relatives.

Well, you can say that they are duplicate from their parents behavior since they learn from the beginning of their life about everything from their parents. Am I right? My little girl sometime copied a few things from me, for example about how she talk to her little brother. Some few words I'm sure she copied from me. So, I always try not to use bad words with the kids.

Yeah ,Now a days children are coming wiht some better intelligence then we used to be.one case here,my friends daughter 5 year operates computer her own and she has already developed individuality and always looks at others in such a way if others are looking at her for something.Amazing.

I think kids naturally mimic what they see...thats how any of us learn really but I also think that its controlable as well....for example the first time my kids started mimicing my snoking ciggie movements I put a stop to it....or the first time they copied something less than savoury that I said, I put a stop to it...So yes they do mimic but its not like it can't be stopped..I would seriously think though that your nieces parents should curb her "learning to do it her way"..not necessarily stop it but make sure they have a handle on it before it becomes a problem later on...especially when she becomes school age...

I am not a child expert, but I think that the parents toys always look a lot more interesting than the childs own toys. I would say that you should bring over another child and let that child start playing with your two year old nieces toys and see if she does not become very interested in them then.

hi ladysurvivor. you are right about children are duplicate from their parents behaviour. like my son, he always used back the words that i used with him. and definitely his mirroring me and my husband attitude. but there are certain attitude that he learn from school. maybe your niece want their parents attention, that's why she like to play with hand phones, laptop etc because by doing that she'll get all the attention. what I is always did is to pay attention to my son whenever he is playing, drawing or watching the television but not all the time because i also have to do other things. for me, the most important thing is the quality time not the time quantity.

Children are great observers. They try to imitate the parents behaviour while they are growing. There are some instances, where the children are like their grand parent in behavioural pattern. That is the reason good parenting is very important to ensure that children pick up good things. Talking vulgar language, smoking or drinking in front of children will not augur well for brining up children.

oh yes... definitely... i agree completely with what you say... children are very good in imitating their parents' behaviour... i myself is the product of both my father and my mother... but i think more to my mother...

At two years of age she is still very much in the learning process. She is not capable of learning as an adult; although she mimics behavior she has seen. Children are in constant growth but they learn according to their abilities as children. I haven't known too many 2 year olds who didn't scatter things around...They love the sound of things falling..they are getting use to all their senses:)

Is she an only child right now? My daughter did the same things because she never saw us playing with her toys but with the computer and video games and such. Children want to emulate us because we are their role models. She will eventually come out of that phase, but it might help if the parents took time out to play with her toys with her and then she would devote more time to her toys and not the laptop hahaha! Also, this displays intelligence, because if she has an understanding of how to turn it on and off as my daughter did, she is learning something from observing and she obviously understands.

Your niece could be in the exploration and curiosity stage, and to enhance her mental capacity, you can create a stimulating environment for her to explore and discover lots of things. This could be an early sign of intelligence, and you have to take advantage of that, instead of curtailing her creativity. Regarding the title of your discussion, I agree that children pattern or identify their behavior from those of their parents. If you wish your child to be obedient, parents themselves should show an example. If you don't like them to smoke, parents should lead the way. When my kids were small, we strived hard to set good examples to them with the purpose of inculcating the right and desirable values. Have we succeeded? I would like to believe so...thanks.

Well my child is 9 yrs now but she acts and talks more matured than children her age. My mother says my daughter is my mother. Sometimes she says some things that have me laughing or looking at her in amazement. If the company around her are all adults she will behave in a matured way. So all you need to do is to be careful of words and thigns you do in her presence. She is quite normal no need t worry about that little one.

Get her tested for abnormal intelligence, if you want. But above all, I notice you say she doesn't like being taught lessons and likes to learn on her own... GOOD!! This will result in lower marks at school, but will lead to success overall. THe most fantastically successful people (self-made millionaires, billionaires, etc.) are exactly like that - operating outside the box. Let her learn on her own, if she's not interested in school find something else she's interested in. Trust me, it will be better for her in the long run than an A-average :)

As a mother of a 3yr old boy I can say your niece is showing some kind of intelligence and also she needs some attention too, maybe from her parents or people around her. My son does that he also wants to play with pda phones, play station and other electrical appliances. I can see that he is trying to figure out things and also he wants my attention too.

I think this is true to an extent. We all mock the behavior we see. I have a niece who is a little over a year old, and when I shake my head and make a noise, she will do the same exact thing. This is evidence that babies, and children, mimic their parents, siblings, and whomever else happens to be in their environment. Your niece sounds like a special kid! I have a nephew who is very independent at six years old - but he also looks up to and acts somewhat like his mother, and anyone else who happens to be around him (including myself, his grandmother, grandfather, Uncles, etc). He is also very much into computers, cell phones, cameras, etc, and has been since he was a very young boy. I remember I used to to take him with me and he'd always be fascinated by the same type of stuff your niece seems to have taken a liking to. I believe that this is just a case of kids utilizing the things they see in their environment on a frequent basis. My nephew has been taking pictures of the family with my digital camera since he was two or three. As far as your niece hating to be taught lessons - perhaps she has her own unique learning style. Maybe it is more hands-on than anything else. In any case, there is nothing wrong with the behaviors she is exhibiting, and if anything, her parents and family should be proud that she is such a bright young toddler! I guess that's all I have to say for now! PEACE!