what will you do if you fallen in love with your bestfriend?

I have never experienced falling in love with my best friend who already has a lover. However, for the sake of discussion I will try to put myself in this situation. Lol. I believe it would be fun imagining what I would do if I am involved in a triangle love like this. Suppose that I have been his best friend for life. Let's say since kindergarten I have been hanging around with him. I go everywhere with him, even to the toilet sometimes. Lol. Suddenly one day I discovered that I have fallen in love with him. And I know that he already has a girlfriend. If this thing happens, I will firstly ask him what is his feeling towards her girlfriend. If he didn't say anything, it must have some hidden meaning behind it. I have to guess that maybe the girl is not his special girlfriend or sweetheart. He might just trying to learn how to date a girl. It is possible that way. Another thing I would have to consider is why he still hangs around with me when he already has a girlfriend? Usually when a guy already found his true love, he would want to be with her all the time. A person whom we love is someone whom we feel most comfortable with, isn't it? So I will start making speculative ideas about it. He is most comfortable with me, so I should ask him what is his feeling towards me. I have to be honest, if not I will live on forever not knowing. If he told me he only accepts me as his friend, it would be okay for me but after that I will limit my time being with him. I will try to be not too close to him anymore, and urge him to be with his girlfriend more. If he really loves his girlfriend, he will do as what I say. But if he actually loves me but tries to hide it, eventually the truth will come out. Love is something which couldn't be forced. I believe in that philosophy. If he really loves me, he would come to me in the end. That's how I feel if the situation really happens to me. Lol. Happy posting, sweetlady207!

You might as well tell him. His girlfriend, if she is any kind of woman, already knows and he, like any man, probably has no clue. If you two don't get the issue on the table and dealt with there will be problems between all three of you.

Definitely if I had a male best friend I know I would have been married by now. you see that person sees you for who you really are. You dont hide from that person and all your aches and pains she/he already knows. Things that please you and those which do not she/he would hav e already known and the fact that she/he loves you inspite of that! I would be in heaven long time ago.

Truthfully, I will let her know am in love with her, The reason is I believe there is no harm in trying, and maybe telling her might be the best thing you have done to her.

its hard when he or she doesnt feel the same way too. i have closed friend before, and after a year we become lovers and it was great becouse i know he feel the same. but in that case i think i will be happy for him and support him, but seing him with onather, i think i cant long with that, i think i should remain friend with him and let him know that you always there for him/her.. but i rthink i should take vacation for awhile. its hurt men.

Well when you spend so much time with a person, in this case your best friend, it can happened that you get confused and you mix your feelings. And I guess if really is your best friens and you fall in love with him or her, the best thing to to do it tell hte other person your feelings, does not mean that beacuse you are in live the other person will be in love with you, but at least you share your feelings, and make the friendship bigger... That personally fell in love with my best friend, and I told him about it, at the beggining he did not believe what I said... but we kept being friends, he had a girlfriend by that time... a few years later, we have a talk, and he asked me if I really was in love with him when I told him so... and he said that by the time he did not believe it... anyway, he is married with another women... I am still single... but we are the best friends ever, sometime we can be apart for months, but when we get together is like last time we saw each other was yesterday... It is a relly special relationship...

i have this situation in my real life. i must say i experienced this same thing. I had a so called good friend of mine.we were good as friend. After some months he proposed me. i knew he had a GF and he just broke off with her. i truied to understand him that it is rebiund relation only. he denied and kept me persuing.but recently he behaved so badly with me that i am no longer in contact with him. so its very hard when somebody you thought so near hurts you.

In my opinion,if you love him truely,and he loves another one,just be your best friend,you should keep the friendship,and wish he happy everyday.You shouldn't tell he you are falling in love with him.But if he have no girlfriend,I think you would tell him about you love to him.

this is a very difficult question to answer ,but also inevitable.i think,to their feelings,i tried on the basis of their choice should be the best. know that love,then on!