Okay, So I'm a Terrible Wife!

in some ways i have to agree with you. i am an only child and very independant, well i guess used to having my own way. i dont compromise very well (doesnt share well with others!! lol) but we have been married almost 20 years and i imagine my hubby would like more, but i have no energy nor do i want to...i prefer to do my own thing.

It seems that you always keep the problems to yourself. I have the same behaviour as well and whenever I face a problem, I hardly discuss it with my family members and friends.

I can relate!! Sometimes I feel like the man in the relationship because I am not all touchy feely (most of the time) and I really don't like talking about feelings and emotions, it just gets on my nerves whan my husband wants to talk =) I would just rather go and cool off by myself and then get over it without talking.

Communication is so important in marriage. I wish that you would try to open up to your husband and talk to him more. If you stop the lines of communications I am afraid that you will eventually ruin your marriage. You have 2 children to think about. I would suggest that you and your husband take time away for yourselves to reconnect. With kids marriage can get overwhelming. You are not a terrible wife, the first step is admitting there is something wrong and you have done that.

Is it that you just don't WANT to talk about things? Or is it that ou feel that you CAN'T? If you are really concerned about this affecting your marriage maybe you should seek couple's counselling.

I have been married for 23 years and my husband is the one who doesn't talk or share but he's still a good husband and I love him. Dates...yeah. Like we have time with the lives we lead but it works for us for some reason. You have been married 10 years. I would say that if your husband wasn't happy, you would know it by now. Sometimes people just work around things and it looks like you have found a way to show your love and be the wife your husband is happy with. Don't put yourself down! None of us are perfect at anything. We are who we are and it looks like your husband accepts you for you. I am sure you are a good wife in many areas of life. I could say the same about me. I talk a lot and don't DO anything. But...it works! I stink as a wife but here I am with two kids and a husband. I am sure your husband is fully aware of who you are after 10 years and obviously accepts it. Be happy. You are a great Mom and a good wife.

Comnsider this, maybe you are not a terrible wife. Sounds to me like you are adevoted wife and mother. And from what I see here, you communication skill are just fine. Don't be so hard on yourself.

This has more to do with personality than with marriage. I like to talk... and I have a friend who does not like to talk. We get on each other nerves. I get annoyed by his silence... and he gets annoyed by me trying to start a conversation with him. Mind you... he does not mind talking if we are going to talk about something that he finds interesting. His problem is that he don't like to talk about everyday little petty things. Nor does he like to talk about himself. So if you are like him... perhaps you don't find anything interesting to talk about... or you don't find your husband conversation interesting. My friend prefers reading books the whole day long rather than talking to someone about nothing. In your case... it is about your husband finding a topic of conversation which will make you tick. But your husband needs to be informed of this before he can work on it.

Hey u spleak less and do not share ya feelings doesnt mean that u r a terrible wife. but u need to change in accordance to the situation which is in front of u. As per u , u have married and have two children. If human try, he/she can do anything. So try to change ya self.life is full of joy and may happiness shower every good moment in ya life .. take care.. God bless u..

You know what your problem is - fix it. Find a movie you both like so you can sit and cuddle and watch, then talk about the movie and how it made you feel etc. I recommend a sappy chick-flick. Or a... er... 'skin' flick. Your husband may/may not appreciate it, depending on what kind of guy he is. But to my understanding, most guys are interested in that sort of stuff :) A healthy love-life is biologically imperative to a good marriage... Doing it together releases chemicals that extend the feeling of love etc.

I had to say that your relationship sound just like mine. Only I have a long way to go for ten years, we have been together for 6, but only married for 4yrs. I thing there are times where we can go the entire day with out having an actual conversation. I am totally in love with my husband but I'm the same way, I'm definitly not a touchy feelly person. It's kind of funny cause he is very much a "mans man" but he is more effectionate than me. But ya know what I say, who cares what doesn't work for other people. When I look around at the difference between me and my husband relationship and some of my friends. I wouldn't want that. They might be more have more talks but alot of it's arguements, cause they just don't let each other be. Even when I was pregnant and my husband wanted to go out with the guys my girlfriend would always ask how it didn't drive me crazy. And I always thought thats the difference between your marriage and mine. We are content, in who we are as people, and who we are as a couple.