Pressureing a Friend's Boyfriend to Propose.....is it Immoral?

Personally, I would stay out of their romantic lives. The commitment to get married is a big decision, and no one should be pressured into proposing. Also, marriage doesn't guarantee a happy relationship - whether pressured or not. If it's right for them to be together, then they will be (married or not). And if they're not meant to be together - then a pressured proposal won't accomplish anything.

you cant just push somebody to get married. yes it is okay to be concern about your friend.... but your friend should think first before having a baby. she was wrong before with the dad of her first baby so she should be wiser now. lets put you inside hie shoe... would you like someone to pressure you t get married? i dont want to get pressured at anything.

For me, I don't think that would be the best thing to do. Because if he wants it, he will do it and he will research on things and give her a surprise. Something that big has to come from the heart, otherwise, it won't succeed for them and if it doesn't work out right later on, he would have things to blame (like "your friend got me into all these!"). I think letting them decide their path would be a much better choice.

if the guy does not want to be married in the first place AND he is just a as$hole only after one thing, then "pressuring" him to marry your friend is a grave mistake. he will be a husband that stays out all night, have girlfriendssss, beats your friend and the child, never bring money home, have no respect for your friend ("your are the one wanting to get married!!!!" he will say, treat your friend like a slave, never appreciate your friend, hates the kid, etc etc...and you are to be blame for it all.

I can see that you really care for your friend and you really want for her wish to come true. Actually I would agree that you do something abt it, but NOT sending a bunch of flowers & ring etc to their house so he'll get the hint. no no no... I think you should sit him down and talk to him ~ as a best friend to his GF ~ the mother of his child ~ that you are like a family to her and you want her to be happy and you happen to know wat exactly would make her happy ~ and talk to him and hear what he really say about the whole marriage thing. AFter the talk you would have a gauge whether he is going to make the bell ring or not. If you feel that he is really2x not going to change his mind, maybe it's time to talk to your best friend and check if getting married is REALLY what she wants. If it is; unfortunately you have to tell her it's not going to happen so she either move on or settle for no marriage with this guy. sorry for such long reply.. cheers.. .. myhandbaghaven.blogspot.com

i think it's blight.for your friend..if it would make the man dislike her ,what should she do ?? for the man ,if he know you make this thing ,what should he think of you ?i think the best way was that,you talk about it with your friend frist,you find out a way to slove this thing consistently ,and then your friend confabulate with him ,the point was the man 's attitude....

A marriage certificate never kept anyone from leaving who really wanted to leave! If he is committed to her in his heart, and treats her well, that is wonderful and maybe as much as she can expect from him right now. I knew a couple who lived together for 15 years before they got married!

I think he is probably already feeling some pressure - from her, from his family, from his friends. Someone sending him catalogues and other hints might just be too much for him. You might be better off staying out of this one. I have a friend who has been with her boyfriend for a really long time, and he still hasn't proposed. She's quite upset about it, and I really want to call him up, or find some other way to make him propose, but I know if I do, I could mess things up.

This definitely isn't something you should get involved in. You are not in the relationship. Your friend and her partner are the ones in the relationship and that's how it needs to stay. Marriage is a big commitment, and some people, regardless of how long they've been together, just never want to get married. Pressuring this guy to marry your friend because you think it's the only way to keep him around is sad, and really could end up scaring this guy away instead of keeping him around. You can't run anyone's life for them, you can't make anyone do something they don't want to do. And, for one, since you aren't the one actually involved in the relationship, you need to take a step back and mind your own business, even if you are afraid of her getting hurt. It happens, it happens to the best people, nothing, NOT even marriage can stop relationships from ending.

Hon, if I was you I would stay out of that part of their lives. I'm worried that if you pressure him into marrying her it could end up in a bad relationship or he might leave her to. Really you don't want that to happen to her or them as a couple... I would let them know what you think about it if they do ask you about their relationship.

I don't think pressuring will help your friend. This is something personal and for the two of them to decide. I do believe you want the best for your friend but meddling with their affairs will not do you any good. All you can be is a good friend and stand by her when she needs you. Cheers!

Depends on how its done, but I think it is immoral either way. Your friend can give ultimatums all she wants and sometimes he'll bite other times he'll show the door. I have seen more nasty ways to pressure a proposal (those of us who still have a brain call it extortion). One example, the girl lied to him about another man she was cheating with. With her comments added on, she thought it would get the man she wanted jealous and in a proposing mood. He gave her the boot. Another example, the girl claimed she was pregnant to her man and kept harping for a proposal. Problem is, the guy was sterile long before he met her. All he had to do was get the medical form proving he was sterile, get the legal form proving it too and the proof of the operation. He showed them to her after putting her in a false sense of security. She went through a line of emotions and finally cried. Not for deceiving him, but because her plan was ruined (that one put the exclamation mark on my anger at this). So ladies and friends, don't go crazy over this. Some men have a fear of commitment yes, but they have reasons for it. Some men just want to be very sure she's the one. And why is it that if a man doesn't propose at all or if he doesn't propose after x months or y years, why it is always "fear of commitment" like some attack order line!" On the opposite side of the coin, if a woman wants to go slow in any phase of the relationship, she is just being careful. Does anyone understand this? No of course not. I'll just keep yelling at deaf ears.

I dont think it is wrong.What you do is a good job.Your friend's boyfriend is a jerk and no responsibility because he dont want to marry her after make a baby with your friend.Pity to the child because has a stupid parent.