Does heartbreak make you stronger?

Heartbreak (of any kind) is a learning curve for your spirit. It forces you to turn inward and look at yourself, at your life goals, your motivation, and exactly what it is that sets you apart from others. It honestly shows you a view of yourself that you don't often like to look at - it makes you question yourself. Heartbreak shows that there is no need for blame but that there is a need to change and to change for the better. It gives you the chance to assess your role in the relationships in your life and how you could make them suit you better. Heartbreak is a chance to change your heart for the better and put the broken pieces back in a different place to create a better you.

I have been fortunate enough, never to have had gone through a major heartbreak. I was in a dating partnership before I met the man I married, but the guy I was dating, and myself were more like friends, and we knew the relationship wasn't going to go anywhere. My husband and I have seen our fair share of heartbreak (he's been married three times before and I watched my parents divorce, and my sister break up with guys) I decided that I just didn't want to go thorugh it, and I didn't!!

I can't say both for me. I must say the heart broke I have got has made me see people from different angel. May be I will not be able to believe anybody in life after that.

It did. A few years ago I gave my heart for the first time to someone. And for four years he made me wait to fulfill his promise. One day after four long years,he came up to me and said that maybe we're not meant for each other. I was shattered. I gave him all my love without any reservation. It was like the end of the world. But God provided bridges for me to cross over the troubled water of my life. Karen Carpenter's song "the price I paid is high enough for me" from the song "I know I need to be in love" fitted my experience very well. I was emotionally bankrupt and I thought I could not afford to love again. Then men came. I have loved and lost again but I wasn't hurt so much because this time I became wiser and cautious. I told myself that I should not make the same mistake again. Yes, heartbreak made me stronger.

I take it as part of life and I learn from the experience and I move on with my life. But I did notice some scars on me brought by the heartache. I don't really trust men that much now and I tend to have a more negative view on relationship. I am sure that's not really healthy for me, but I don't want to deal with it for now *laughs*. In general I think I grow stronger in the sense that I am more independent and I am more determined on not relying on other people about my life.

I've lived through it all when it comes to heart ache and heart break and I always promise myself to be smarter and not give my heart away next time. But it's a promise that I have to break! Most times it is friends who break my heart by betraying me or leaving for unexplained reasons. I usually do get over it. But it takes a very long while. Sometimes years. I think that I am a little more cynical now than years ago. But that could have come from getting older or becoming a mom and realizing that my life should not be lived like a soap opera or fairy tale!

I'll say it helps me become more stronger and helps me recognize more my strength as a person. I am the type of person who will not share my innermost feeling but rather I love to hang out with friends and enjoy life, play my favorite sports, express my feeling through writings and listen to all my favorite music. It works for me and I never allow my emotions ruin my work or daily routine.

Nice and Valid discussion. Really.. this discussion has been waiting for me for past ten months.. It was nearly 1 year ago, one such thing occurred in my life, i was so desperate and hurt by action of my Ex, when she left me. I was sunk in despair.. what had true love brought on to me.. and many questions in rage conquered my mind.. It took time for me, nearly two to three months, and slowly i started to gain grounds.. i buried all the past..deep deep with a hollow grin. And now, i look fresh, as you said with a stronger heart.. and i have stood time. Take care friend. P.S : Till this time, i was thinking you as dude , but when i looked at the beautiful photo in your " my photos" my god.. i felt that i was terribly wrong..hahaha. Take care buddy.

Hi, Heartbreaks really hurts, sometimes it make us useless doing nothing just crying all day long, but you know it also teach us to became better person and next time to be very careful to our next relationship.

it will make u very weak at first but wen u get back in the game it will only make u a stronger person i think

At the moment, it does not. But eventually I will become stronger as I heal. I also, will become a better person from the heartbreak..

I would really not just let this discussion pass me by, it have caught my attention a while ago. Moments have passed already, I guess days or even weeks and I am really trying to do my best just to have her back again in my life. The more I pursue it, it just happens that she is happy with her life already and I must totally learn to let her go. Yes, I agree that heartbreaks made me stronger, it taught us from everything from falling in love to letting go of a love. I want to merely say that we just need to be optimistic when situations like these arise. Have a great time and enjoy life to the fullest my dear friend. ^_^

Well heartbreaks are really heartaches. It slows us down. It is normal. But we need to pick ourselves up and start going forward. Use love, not rage, to keep us going. Time will heal all wounds. Experience will make us stronger.

For me it was very hard. A woman broke my heart after I devoted 7 years of my life to her and I thought that I would never love anyone again, but I got stronger and more trusting, and I met a new womean who I love even more. Now I have an idea of what to look for, if she is faithful and trustworthy or not. The lady I have in my life now is the best thing that ever happened to me.

Heatbreak is something that happens to every single person alive. If you can channel the energy from it in a positive way, that's a plus, but not everybody can. If you walk around thinking it can never happen to you, then I guess you can be really devastated and brought down by it. I try to take whatever is sent my way and ask God to help me find the best way to use it.

ofcourse yes , if my heart get broken . i would try to see and imagine the better part of that , the experiences which i can get...in this way i won't be in trouble in the same situation in the future...

For me - or the heartaches I have been trough it hurt soooo bad for a while but after that I begin to heal and see that there are more to life than just this person - that there are soo many lovely people in this world and that he was not the right for me obviously =) Life goes on - but sometimes it takes a while!

No matter how strong you are you can't help but be sad, even depressed to a certain point. But then time passes and you realize it's not the end of the world. There's more to life than being a martyr for that person who broke your heart. You realize you deserve better. The depression ends and you move on with your life as a stronger and wiser person.

Well I decided that this time I would do it different and just let it go because it doesn't do any good to dwell on it of course and if it's that bad then maybe you need help.

It does make a person stronger, at least it made me stronger. I've totally gained new perspective on it, from my own heartbreaks and from the heartbreaks of my male associates. I keep the rage inside me and its a good fuel for my negative side and myself to put to so much activity. I'm working better and I can focus on my hobbies without restraint. I do not give a dam what the opposite gender thinks about it. I'm becoming a better person bit by bit and I think its great. Plus I've rethought my stance on relationships. Instead of wanting and seeking the opposite gender, the opposite gender/potential mate will have to prove to me they are worth the time. I'm worth way more than everyone thinks, so I'm gonna make that one of my absolute truths and guides to relationships. I've also adjusted my rules dramatically. I'm not taking crap, I don't take it from other sources so I'm no longer taking it from the dating scene. And finally, it feels so good to demonize my exes and harpies in general. It helps me get over it, but I never forget the hurt. I also know what to avoid and what I really should be doing, living my life to the fullest.