i hate charity

Think of it as a loan, from someone who loves you. Think of this as an opportunity for your family to get closer. You will be in school and busy as heck...but go see Grandma at least once a week. COok up some spaghetti and take it there for dinner on Sunday afternoons - Grandma will enjoy the company, your daughter will get to know and love Grandma and will see how people should be treated by other people. When graduation time comes, thank Grandma - let he know that you could not have done it without her. She will feel good knowing that she could help you. Trust me..it is a win-win situation.

I don't like it either but I'm sure your MOM would appreciate helping you both out, especially with what you're going through. Just look at it as something positive and in the end when you finish your schooling and get that job you've always wanted, you can pay her back. It's a blessing in disguise and don't feel bad about it at all. I'm sure you would do the same thing if it was your daughter/granddaughter. Hug your mom and tell her how much you love her and thank her :) I do when she does things for me and my son without even asking!

Don't think of it as pathetic. It is help until you get yourself back on your feet. Just return the favor someday. If not with money, do really nice things for her. Help her with something she can no longer do for herself. You are trying to better yourself, or you would not be in college. She wants you to be safe, I am sure.

Don't feel bad at don't look at it as charity. You grandmother obviously has the cash to be able to give it to you. She will be blessed and after all none of us with money can take it with us when we "GO" I am the say way as your grandmother when I have the extra cash I give it to my son if he is broke. It makes me feel good to be able to help him out and I never ask him to pay me back. I am sure your gram felt very warm inside knowing she was able to help you like that. Be grateful you have someone close to you that is able to help out in a financial situation like that. None of my family does I always have to pay them back if I am in need of money.

You are not small or pathetic you are a Mother. Just be thankful you have someone to help you. I am a single Mom of 2 both Dad's are losers, My Grandparents are Poor, My Parents are selfish. I have no siblings, nor do I come from a large well off Family. I wish I could get some help one day.

Oh hon! Don't knock yourself down! Everybody needs help every now and then! Including hubby and I! Some day you're going to be able to help someone in need whether it be a cup of sugar to a ride to the doctor in which you'll be paying back to society. You are contributing in some way already, I'm sure and you probably don't even realize it. Have you ever seen the movie "Pay It Forward?" If you haven't, you really need to see it because it just may put things into perspective for you. You're a good person and you need to hear that or your grandmother wouldn't be helping you like she is. Hold your chin up gal!

nobody likes charity as all of us have pride... so i can understand perfectly how you feel... i myself don't like to receive help from other people unless if i really really need it... life is full of ups and downs... when we really have to receive help from other people, then we have no choice... i pray that your situation will improve soon... take care and God Bless...

I know exactly how you feel. When my boys were younger and I was a single mom, working and going to school full time, money was always really tight. Just remember those times when you do have the money to help someone else out later on down the road. You need the help now, don't be too proud to take it. And be there for the next person when you're able to help them out.

I totally feel you pop. There was a point in my life where everytime I turned around I didn't have money for something that I needed, and my in laws were always right there handing me the money. It damaged my self worth for a time being too, I can sooo identify with "appreciate the help but hate feeling pathetic." You need to remember that your grandma loves you and wouldn't be willing to help you if she didn't care or wasn't able to. I found that if I did simple things, like offering to make them dinner, or helping with things they needed done around the house that I felt better about myself, and it also showed that their efforts were appreciated. Good luck to you, and remember every struggle leaves us stronger and eventually better off than we were before.

That's good that you have a caring grandmother. If you need the money and she wants to give it to you with a good heart, you shouldn't feel bad, accept it! God bless your grandmother!

If your grandmother does not mind helping and does it without making you feel small, feel blessed. It is only family who come to help in times of need, and that to rarely. Your grandmother seems like a wonderful person to help out and dont think it as charity. I am sure the love and affection she gets from you and the kids must make up for everything. Feel blessed again and again. Not everybody is so lucky. Give her all the love she needs and deserves.

yes charity is embarassment i feel.when there is no other way yu got to take life as it is.may be you can imporve yourself in the future. dont worry all will fall in place for you.chaneg your negativ thoughts if any.the you can change yourself.

I think you should be greatful, it's not a sign of weakness or anything. They just want to help you, and you can always pay them back someday. And with paying back someday it might not be money, but help them with stuff later on, that way you've returned the money you've gotten into something they want/need.

You aren't pathetic, you should be thankful that someone is helping you out. It doesn't mean you are a charity case or anything like that. Your grandmother obviously cares for you and is trying to help.