How do you deal with people who oppose your ideas?

We cannot be sure if someone tells the truth or lies on their post, so I also cannot say that someone's post has double-meaning or is written in sarcasm. I guess we have to ignore them at times, as I believe there are others here who still post in a proper way and explain in good intention.

Yeah, ignoring may be far the greatest strategy to keep our peace in this discussion. *LOL* But of course, if the person persists, then it's high time we open up our canon of thoughts. *LOL* I'd sure hope I wouldn't be tempted to go to that 'lower' level of personality. =)

Yes, it is really how we deal and interpret the topics and how we convey our ideas that makes a discussion stressful or not. Same with me, I have come to realize that it's not worth at all to respond at topics with much sensitivity and emotions and when people are starting to flare up. In the duration of your stay here in myLot, how did you react to your post being opposed by others? I have experienced that even though how 'good mannered' you put a post, someone or a number of people would take it as an insult. Well, I don't really know how that could be since in communication intonation of how words are said could help you detect an insult but here (other than cussing words) one couldn't really assume altogether that the posts were insults. Thank you for your reply and comments and the valuable tip of 'staying out of trouble by avoiding topics with too much emotions and sensitivity'. Have a great day and God Bless!

Surprisingly enough, I haven't encoutered many people like that. I've seen it on other people's posts, but I've only had a few of what could have been considered 'snide' remarks. I hate to be that way, but I feel like it's best sometimes to avoid discussions from people who I know cause trouble. I hate missing out on the opportunity to participate in what could be a good discussion, but certain people take the fun away. It's a shame. :)

Haha.. Nice post my friend. It's really sad how people don't really get the point of discussions. They even dare to open sensitive topics when they're not ready to deal with the opposing ideas. Whew! I have quite learned a valuable tip today from you. I should therefore shun away from touchy/sensitive topics specially if there are people who couldn't really handle the discussions well. Plus, as you said indeed the best way to settle our peace is for us to just voice out our point and be mature enough not to argue with childishness. Great line by the way: I am not a child and I don't expect to encounter childishness with a site that should be mostly adults. By the way, have you encountered such people/discussions here in myLot since you have been here for like 1000 plus posts already? On my side, I have decided to avoid several people, both discussion starters and posters who couldn't handle opinions. How bout you? Thanks for the comment, have a great time and hopefully the childishness would soon end in some myLotters. =)

You said it right. There are really some people who take things to the emotional level or personal level. I don't know why that is. It's no fun anymore though if it's always like that. It's ok if it's a personal topic or something but in general topics (well even for personal ones) people (as well as me) should understand that this is a discussion site and not for the weak hearted ones. They do take the fun away. Because I include them in my ignore list and I no longer participate when in their comments or in their topics. I just think I'm wasting my time with people who couldn't take opposition or couldn't set their heads and emotions right. It's really good you haven't encountered yet. I did encounter and what's weird is I never expected it. I just posted but then suddenly a person flared a defensive fist of fury. Anyways, thanks for participating. I truly appreciate your thoughts. =)

I tried to make my opinions as clear as possible. Sometimes, people might not understand what I mean or they might have interpreted differently than what I mean. I could see it from their feedbacks. Thus, I often needed to clear it out. However, if someone makes things go around and around (you know what I mean...), I don't think it is worthy to continue the debate. Then, I'll move on.

I do my fair share of clearing things out. But I do certainly agree that there are some who just couldn't handle things and go around and do the defensive tactic. Yeah, a non-worthy topic to continue.

Indeed everyone is entitled to their opinion. Yet, there will be times when people just couldn't accept others not agreeing and regardless how clear you put your opinions to be, it could be viewed differently by others. So if you where involved in an argument or heated debate. Do you share your explanation and then put it to rest? Do you insist on explaining further? or simply ignore the topic altogether?

In those cases, i try to stay away from them, because my temper could get me in trouble. I just tend to avoid people like that.

Haha.. Point taken LightninStrike. I guess the most mature way someone could really do is to avoid the person altogether. =)

"What I cannot stand is when people opposes to me with no reason at all, and even more if they don't do it with due respect." ahh.. I certainly could relate to this! I have really encountered someone who flared with my post when I didn't agree completely with what they said. Whew! That was really a tough call because I wasn't expecting for that to happen. It's different when it's pretty obvious a person would react but it's another matter if you merely suggested a better approach and they insult you for not agreeing with them! Whew! So, what do you do with people who opposes you with no reason at all? Do you open the gates of hell and fight them out? *LOL*

It's true, no one is perfect and everyone bounds to commit mistakes along the way. But you were saying that you don't believe in ignoring someone who points a finger on you, so what do you do about it? would you rather pick a fight? Defend your beliefs? I say, I'd rather let the person be if he/she isn't listening to you regardless how you explain things. As my friend used to say 'don't waste your time on someone who doesn't know how to listen'. Plus of course, there are times when we are not ready to listen as well, so I say ignore the situation when things gets out of hand, maybe the person's pride is way above his/her head that's why the argument doesn't end. About forgiving and forgetting, well, that's what I do. But it doesn't mean I'd go close to the person again. I say forgiving the person and yes forgetting but he/she belongs to the acquaintance or stranger list and no longer the 'friends list'. *LOL* Well, I'm not really that tough, I'm only hardheaded when I know perfectly well that I didn't do anything. *LOL* So what do you do if someone flares at you or your posts then, would you ignore? or you fight it out? Thanks for the post by the way, and yeah MyLot is a good venue for people to voice out their opinions and ideas, it's just sometimes people forget it here that in no way does a discussion state that everyone is to agree with what a person claims. *LOL* Again, I thank you for the comment. Have a great day here in myLot!

Oh, thanks for the correction. Yeah it's really irking if it's obvious he/she is wrong but then she would insist on debating. I guess their ego is way way beyond their head. When that happens though, I would certainly ignore the person.

Thanks for your reply pal...firstly i want to correct some statement here.. Well i mentioned that "i dont believe ignoring someone pointing finger to you is healthy" Mean i dont do that.. i dont ignore them. You are right is no point to waste your time taking with someone whom not keen to listen to you. But as for me.. i just do my part.. if ever i got an objection on my point of you.. i will wait for them to explain it.. but if i know i'm surely right on the matters, i will try to explain it to them as a statement and its up to the person to accept it or not. At times if hard for you to take it when even simple examples that proves you are right is objected by other.. due to egoness etc. well pal.. we did our best.. and its up to them to believe it.. one day they will realize it..

Nice said, friend. I agree when you said that it may be an issue of low self-esteem. The way when people would feel vulnerable and the need for people to 'agree' with them at all times. As for the conceited ones, well it's what I call an illusion of grandeur when people can't accept that not everyone would agree with them. So, how do you deal with these people in day-to-day life you are living and also here in myLot where it seems to me there are a lot of those? =) Thanks for the comment. It's really well thought and nicely conveyed. Have a great time in MyLot! =)

The different opinion in mylot is the primary reason that I stay at mylot. Without different opinion, it is useless to share the opinion with others as they are thinking in the same way. Different opinion give us more clue and help us to think in a better way. I welcome the different opinions.

I agree with you Pin. Uniformity of mindset and perception is what causes a discussion to be boring. Well, there are really times when we can't help but agree but of course, everyone is unique from the other. It's not really fighting that we are in favor of, but the ability of each to understand and open their minds into appreciating the differences. This is not about who's right and who's wrong. It's about stating the facts and sharing information and of course belief. Thanks for responding to this topic.

HAhaha.. There really are those who just disagree for the sake of disagreeing! Yeah, I guess there's a time to fight it all out and a time when the greatest thing to do is keep your mouth shut. =) Thanks for sharing your views. =)

I notice as I read the comments. Indeed it's not with what the person says but how they say it that makes us feel insulted or angered. Yeah, there's really a way for someone to really tick you off, regardless if they're agreeing or disagreeing. Thanks for posting!

Have you encountered people who couldn't accept your ideas? What did you do about them? I do agree, regardless how many times a topic is opened, there are just different ideas within each topic (Unless of course it's like those topics which surveys a type of products with explaining why). :) Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Have a nice day ahead. =)

If you cannot appreciate better tolerate, as different people has different views.

What do you mean by appreciate or tolerate? Who are we talking about here? The ones who couldn't handle an argument?

I guess you are right. It's not opposing an idea but a different idea altogether. But there are those who really 'oppose' by act or by statement. *LOL* I think if the world ever sees your understanding in that light, then there wouldn't be any conflicts anymore. But of course, having another idea doesn't necessarily mean they are going to follow 'your' idea. Then that's another story. Thanks for replying to my topic though. Have a great day ahead.

Yeah, there is freedom in myLot and on the internet. But of course, there are still those who couldn't really handle these types of things. I think they're those who couldn't really handle pressure or rejection. Maybe they've been rejected so many times and now a slight disagreement would cause them to be defensive thus, limiting their abilities to understand and listen to others' opinion. MyLot indeed is a great place to voice out opinions. Hope someday all of us would realize that this is a DISCUSSION site. And not a popularity contest. *LOL* Thanks for the post though. Have a great time with myLot.

"Instead of fighting, remaining silent can solve many problems." I agree. *LOL* But isn't it a big insult to smile at them instead of reacting to their pursuits? *LOL* What do you think? Most people who tend to be defensive gets insulted faster if you don't react and much more if you smiled. *LOL* hahaha.. Thanks for the response. Have a great day in myLot.

Yeah. I most people don't really budge at all. But for me, I do a trial test if they would budge or 'understand' what I mean, but if not, I ignore them afterwards. Regardless their flaring etc. =) I agree, it's a waste of time to argue with someone who couldn't be open-minded.

When they do oppose, what do you do? do you ignore? ask them more to explain their side or you just sit quietly and absorb what the person is saying? I agree that we don't really know everything and there are things that we could learn from the experience. Thank you very much for you post. Have a great day ahead and happy posting with myLot. =)

Point taken. Yes we do try to let people understand, but isn't it that most people who would become defensive and would not really listen during arguments? How do you deal with them then, do you continue the argument and let him/her understand or do you stop, get a breather and then resume the conversation? It's true we could learn from them and these situations. I have come across several people here in mylot who I have avoided talking to or commenting because of their sudden outbursts of defensiveness. Have you encountered such? By the way, thank you very much for sharing your ideas in this topic. Have a great time posting in myLot. =)

MyLot indeed is a public area and it's good that you have completely understood the meaning of this site. And yes, there are ideas with a lot of authors and people here in myLot which I also find weird but I do try and understand their point-of-view, I hope everyone else tries doing that before they react to something ~ that's where arguments spark. Yeah, I also think that ignoring those who don't get or understand the fact that discussions entails opposing ideas would certainly be the best thing to do. By the way, being 'young' with myLot, have you encountered such? I don't really know about the being 'narrow minded', I try to think about it in the positive light. I think at some point in time, they were not given the attention they needed or maybe they had a bad day that's why they over react. *LOL* Oh well, that's my opinion. But of course, I could be wrong. Thank you so much for your post. I hope you'll have a great time posting with myLot. There are nice topics around which don't require arguments by the way. *LOL* Good luck, and God bless you and your family. =)