Can you forgive a cheater??

I believe when a person cheats on you it steals your innocence of trust, you can try to forgive but it is not easy they have taken your trust and have put you into a world of mistrust and paranoia, I tried to forgive but I never trusted that person again and unfortunately I lost trust in everyone as i thought if he could do it anyone can....

actually, i have experienced this. my boyfriend did cheat before. i was really mad at him first and planned to broke up and leave him for good. but as i see, he asked for forgiveness and is really sorry for what he did. he said he'd never do it again. well i told him i'd gave him a chance, the first and last chance. as of now, we are happy and still together. maybe its because, he really did change for good. besides, everybody deserves a second chance right?

My husband has always been a firm beliver of once a cheater always a cheater.. i came out of a bad relationship when i met him and he promised to never do that etc etc..that was his motto as to say... Well 4 years into our relationship.. we were engaged and had a 2 year old daughter. He cheated on me. Of course it killed me but i kicked him out and didnt want anything to do wiht him his bags were packed and whatnot.. each night around the same time. hed slip a note or poem or drawing or card under the door and drive away. it was like clockwork.. he got outta work i gotta an apology i love you need you miss you sorry letter of some form.. well a week later we had to meet up it was our daughters 3rd birthday and we having only one car had to go shopping togehter and whatnot.. he began to cry... SHH i didnt tell you that.. ( hes a strong man ) lol he confessed his every kittle sin and whatnot, he did all the talking while i just sat there speechless... 2 weeks later i let him come home... i loved/love him i missed him he was.is a great man besides the fact and he is a great father.. i couldnt let him not come home... still when he moved in i stopped all my duties as his fiance.. i didnt cook for him clean his clothes make his luinch etc etc he had to sleep on the couch we spoke and told him that for our daugters sake he would move into the second room and she owuld move into my room so that she would sitll have her daddy around but that was that.. he was heartbroken but all for it.. after a while of him trying so hard everyday to prove to me he was sorry and to show me how much he loved me... ( one day he got on top of our car in the middle of the day and with our daughter in his arms sang to me ill be there for you by bon jovi with everyone watching) ( we lived on the main street in outr town so everyone got to se the show) it melted my heart... so i let him back into my heart ( never really left ) i love him it took me a while to "forgive him" but 4 yeras later there is that slight trust issue... i will sometimes have doubts, ill say to him once a cheater always a cheater and he will respond " i take that back" and i know he hasnt he has no time i know where he is every second of everyday... seriously so yea you can make the relatiosnhip work after the fact if its something yu want to and are willing to do.. ill tell you one thing though... after 8 years of my never ending love, time and effot to make our relatsionship work.. regardless of what we have he does it again and we are done for good.. ill forgive once and thats that..

to make the story short... NO

Well when I was 18, the guy I thought I was going to marry cheated on me with his ex fiancee that he broke up with be with me. That stunk. I did forgive him because he said he was so mixed up and so confused and I really felt bad for him. I liked him A LOT so I guess I was hoping I could sway him to not do that again. But it ended with him marrying her and me marrying my husband of 23 years a year and a half or so later. Man, am I glad that first one cheated on me. Not only did I get a MUCH better man but I learned that forgiving so easy and believing they'll "never do it again" is something I don't think I can rely on. I have not had to deal with cheating with my husband (that I know of anyway) and, if he did, I honestly don't know what would happen. It would totally depend on why, who, how, and his feelings for her and me. More than likely the relationship would crumble because the trust would be gone but maybe I could get past it. I hope I never have to find out.

hi rachsal4..erm..i think if first time i sill can forgive that people have cheat me. but will waste some time to believe that people again lo..but that people stil cheat again, i think i hard to believe again..

I don't think it's necessarily the case that if someone cheats once they will always be a cheater, but I think where a person has been a habitual cheater then I wouldn't waste my time on them because they won't change. I've been cheated on and it's an awful feeling. I just felt like such a fool for not realising sooner than I did. Personally I couldn't forgive him but I do know other people that have managed to get over something like that happening in their relationship and have made it work. I guess it depends on the individuals involved.

Yes we have to forgive the cheaters but we should bring it to his notice that we understood we got cheated .So he will never think about it.

Hi there, what's been up to lately buddy? Well it's depend on what kind of relationship do i have in a person who cheated on me. But it mostly happened that cheating thing in those lovers. Well i do have to agree with the saying of Once a cheater always a cheater. If my lover cheated on me, then it's kinda hard to give the trust that i have given to her. So, what's the use of continuing our relationship if i cannot trust her anymore? Maybe i can still forgive her, as i am not that bad person to not to give forgiveness. But the thing is, i cannot trust the person who cheated me once she cheated on me. Have a nice day ahead and happy posting and earning here in myLot. Godspeed, Kiko

i'm not sure that i must forgive a cheater. it is up to the thing he/she cheated me. if it is not an important thing, or it is his/her private thing, then i can forgive him/her. for example, a friend of mine cheated me that she is rich, and there are lots of money in her bank account, but in fact, she is a poor girl. i can forgive me, and i dont' think she must tell me the truth about her finance state. if he/she cheated me about an important thing, then i can't forgive him/she. for example, if he/she withdraws money from my bank card to his/her bank card, then i can't forgive him/her.

I can say NO. They can change sincerely. But trust is definitely destroyed. Its hard to build it again. For me i can forgive but i can accept him as like before. And if ever, i am afraid it will not work coz Trust is not there.

NO! I can't forgive her, any of them! And yes, once a cheater always a cheater! I even know one of my exes who cheated on the next guy she shacked up with after me. Another one got cheated on after cheating on me. So yes, its a one strike rule for me and that includes no forgiveness.

Sometimes I could give consideration, but there is must be a reason for they to do that. Sometimes they wont tell the truth, due to he/she doesnt want us to feel hurt or sad. But some other way they are cheat on you because try to take advantage. So for most of the time what I found in my life, there is more cheater.