Do you have the reputation of being lazy?
By vega83
@vega83 (6342)
Bahrain
September 13, 2007 7:36am CST
Even when you are not..
Okay, before you read on, I'm not mad, I'm not angry, it's just a rant, and I'm not upset either, it's just something I've noticed and thought it was worth discussing about.
We all know people are quick to judge, including family and friends. The truth is that I don't like to do the regular chores around the house, but then I do other stuff, that none of my other sisters do. Like I'm the fix-it girl, I change the light bulbs, put new things together, I open tight jars and all that. That's who I am, and that's what I like to do, and that's what I do when the need arises, but then I don't like to do the regular chores, like making tea and all that. That's just not me. But that doesn't mean I'm lazy, does it?
Okay, how about this, if I start a project, no matter what it is, I only stop when its finished, I don't give up, I don't keep it for the next day, I only get up when it's finished, now that's not a lazy attribute, is it?
And then comes the whole unemployment thing, I mean who says if you don't have a job, that you are lazy. There could be many reasons for it, like you could be taking some much needed emotional time off, you could be having a hard time finding a job, or you could simply be wanting to change direction and start something new..
I mean a lazy person wouldn't use the internet like me, I'm not just chatting away or just watching videos on youtube, I'm genuinely trying to use my online time, to make some money or to learn something new, a lazy person won't be learning to play the guitar by online research, now would they?
I guess people confuse the inclination of a person towards doing something they want and not doing the other as laziness. So what if I don't like working 9 to 5, I'm just not wired that way, I like doing other stuff, but that shouldn't automatically make me "lazy"..
What do you think?
Have you ever been called "lazy" even if you think you are not.. share your experiences..
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19 responses
@raychill (6525)
• United States
13 Sep 07
Well, while this is an interesting discussion, I've been having a hard time coming up with an answer. Because I can see how, in one sense, something can pre-determine something as lazy while on the other hand there are those "what if's" but...it's also a "what if"
I don't think you can pre-determine that someone is lazy based on one thing. However, if you know someone, of course you can say that.
In that same respect I think that some people see "lazy" as completely different things. For instance, some people see Stay-at-home moms as being lazy. However, those who are stay-at-home moms would never think of themselves as lazy because taking care of their children is a full-time job.
So with all of that said it's pretty hard to really say what's lazy and what isn't. I'm sure people see me as lazy in ways...and no, i don't think that I am lazy though I can see how people could say that I am.
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@raychill (6525)
• United States
16 Sep 07
well that's not necessarily true either.
because some people think money is more important and therefor forget the misery of the job when they can buy that multi-million dollar house and have 10 cars and such. it's all a matter of perspective.
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@wondericequeen (7876)
• Hong Kong
14 Sep 07
My mom would call me lazy in terms of not doing enough housework (not my passion anyway). For other aspects in my life, from what I remember, I have never been called lazy. I think we are all lazy in some aspects in our lives or on some days, when we are low in energy level and when we don't have passion for a particular thing and we can't be motivated to do so. I am sure you are not lazy in the aspect of guitar learning!
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@vega83 (6342)
• Bahrain
15 Sep 07
Yeah, I'm definitely not lazy in the guitar learning. And that's what I mean, I'm always doing "something", maybe some people think that learning the guitar is not a constructive way to spend time, and that's why they think I am lazy. But I know that if they believe that, then they don't understand the hard work that goes into learning any skill.
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@wondericequeen (7876)
• Hong Kong
16 Sep 07
I don't think a hobby is wasting time, we should be entitled to do what we love to do.
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@deadraven999 (1386)
• Saudi Arabia
17 Sep 07
Well I guess you are right. Most people jump to conclusion. Most people (NOT all) are judgmental and honestly I don't like it. You've got 2 know a person very well and you've got 2 be aware of his circumstances before calling him 'lazy' or anything but unfortunately people are hasty whenever it comes 2 judgment.
I have been known of being NOT hyperactive or let me say 'slow' not in the sense of smartness but in the sense i take my time in doing things, like I take my time in taking a shower, I sometimes arrive late 2 occasions something like that, partly what they say is true but not 100%
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@vega83 (6342)
• Bahrain
21 Sep 07
Yeah, i agree with you, it's like people all around the world, think that they have the right to judge everyone and everything that others do, some people more so than others. I mean who are we to say anything, since we don't really know what's going on inside a person's mind.
@Rickrocks8 (1751)
• United States
14 Sep 07
Me I am always going. I work cirlces around the people at work. I would say that I do not have a lazy bone in my body. At time I get way too many things going on a some do not get finished. But I do get around to it in time. Like my flower bed in my front yard I am adding on to it. Welll my back was bothering me so I didnt add the dirt that it needs yet then it got too hot then we had to move my sister. But I will get to it its not like I have not been busy KWIM?
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@youless (112562)
• Guangzhou, China
17 Sep 07
Yes, I have this fame. My husband said he has never seen such a lazy woman in the world:) Perhaps a lazy housewife is better than a diligent one. Because men will have a pressure if their wivies are so diligent to do housework all the time. Because the women always tend to ask for the men to do the same.
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@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
13 Sep 07
Hi vega83! No, I don't think that is laziness after all. You are just inclined to do other things and I guess, I am more like you. I don't have a job but I do find ways to make money . I earn through some crafts I make and I do try to make money on line now. However, I am doing some household chores like cooking because I enjoy it but not washing, ironing and I leave the washing to a househelp which comes once a week to do our laundry. But I am not called lazy all the time but I was called some other names such as stupid for having my brains wasted on just doing crafts and the internet because they believe I can do more with the brain I have. I guess, they just don't understand that I am happier with being my own boss and with my small business. Take care and have a nice day.
@vega83 (6342)
• Bahrain
15 Sep 07
Yeah, I know what you mean. Why is it so hard for people to understand that everyone wants different things. If crafts make you happy then, crafts it is, and no one can call you lazy just because you don't wanna go up the corporate ladder like some people do. Even my friends are always like why don't you go for a job in the bank, I know it has good prospects but it won't make me happy, that's why, but it's so hard to explain that to people.
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@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
15 Sep 07
Hi vega83! Yes, I do agree with you that it is very hard to explain that to some people and make them understand. I just hope that if they can't understand it, at least they could just respect the decision I have made and just be supportive of the choices I made. I guess, that is a wishful thinking on my part. Take care and have a nice day.
Oh, wow! Thanks for the BR, really appreciate it.
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@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
14 Sep 07
I'm a bit lazy sometimes. I think that we have this attitude nowadays that everyone has to work all the time, and be doing everything - work a job, clean the house, and decorate things nicely - in order to be considered not lazy. It's crazy. I don't think there is even anything wrong with being lazy so long as you are doing something during other times.
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@vega83 (6342)
• Bahrain
15 Sep 07
Yeah, I think it is the misconception of people. Since the modern days people think that the modern woman is the working woman and she should have a career. If she's a housewife then she's not modern, and that is so wrong. Being modern or independent means that you have the choice of living life in your own way.
@tanujarneja (2829)
• India
14 Sep 07
Hmmm
Well Not In Daily Life Am Lazy
but it happens to me in Winter.......
I become Lazy to Come out of the Blanket as it Really Chilling Outside
and to Come out and Take a Bath
Really Worst........
So I get Lazy those days
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@slickcut (8141)
• United States
13 Sep 07
No one has ever called me lazy.I am a very entergic person,and i think everybody is lazy around here..My hubby sits in his cahir watching Tv,and the things that needs to be done ,never get done...Im always up and at em so to speak..I am always busy busy busy,I do everything....I cook,clean,do yards,cloths etc....You can be lazy when it comes to certain things,like i hate some things and i put them off until last,but that does not make me lazy,that just means i don't like to do that....I had to work,if i did not work,i did not eat...I was not as fortunate as you to not have to work,so i would not know how it feels to sit home...
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@vega83 (6342)
• Bahrain
15 Sep 07
Well, there it is again, just like you said, "sit at home", why do people think that just because a person is unemployed traditionally, that they are just "sitting at home" doing nothing?
I mean, out of all my friends who use the internet, I have never seen them use it as constructively as I have. When I am online, I'm not just chatting or browsing, but trying to make an online income, or learning something new etc. I don't think that qualifies as being lazy.
@wonderful1 (2075)
• China
14 Sep 07
i'm a lazy girl and i am living a lazy girl. i'm proud of being lazy, although i'm not really lazy girl.
Frankly, i am fond of the attitude of lazy living. sometimes we don't have to work too hard, and we should enjoy life. money is important, but don't ignore what you have now. what is most important for you? if the answer is money, then work hard and not be a lazy person. if not, please be a lazy person.
@eachen2002 (889)
• United States
14 Sep 07
My family is always saying that I'm lazy.I just ignore them.There lazy in there ways too but I don't harp on them about it.
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@michaeldadona (5684)
• Malaysia
14 Sep 07
Yes for you and me, both of us are not lazy. As you mentioned in your long narration, you have take part in all angles of life until drop in for myLot definitely you have the right answer of out from the laziness zone. OK for my reason I'm always moving forward and none of myLot members are lazy.
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@candiec2005 (828)
• United States
13 Sep 07
If you don't think you're lazy then you really aren't. Other people can't say what you are, you yourself can only do that.
I've been called lazy before, maybe like once or twice. And really, that couldn't be farther from the truth. I am a very active person. I go to work, then after work I go to the gym like 3 times a week (sometimes 2 times) and I always try to keep my home clean. Not because I like cleaning but becuase I like the way my home looks when it's clean. So you see, I'm not lazy. And the person who said I was, obviously didn't know me very well.
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@vega83 (6342)
• Bahrain
15 Sep 07
Yeah, obviously.
I think that people have a certain idea of what activities qualify as being "active" in the first place. For example you and I could have completely different activities that we actively follow. They would be different but in no way would make anyone more lazy than the other.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
13 Sep 07
No I haven't been called lazy but i have called my hubby lazy. It's taken me a long time to realise that he is just not domesticated. That is just who he is. He makes up for it in lots of ways and I have since stopped nagging him about helping me around the home. Sometimes he does do things out of the blue without me asking and that means a lot to me. He works hard for our family and does whatever it takes to make us happy.
@vega83 (6342)
• Bahrain
15 Sep 07
Yeah, good for you. I guess we all things we like and we don't like to do, and it sucks when you have to do a chore you hate. So as you said your hubby is inclined to do other things, so that doesn't mean he's lazy, it just means he doesn't like to do the other things.
@saisudhamani (250)
• India
13 Sep 07
Since I am house wife and i have to wake up early morning to prepare children for school and prepare break fast and send my husband to office. So i cannot be lazy and I have to active always.
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@bravenewworld (746)
• United States
13 Sep 07
I expect that most people have been called lazy some time in their life. I know I have, occasionally with justification, but usually it's because the other person is miffed that they have to work and you don't. I suppose having a reputation for being lazy is worse, as it implies you're seen that way by multiple people, and not just by a single person on a single occasion. I suppose I'd consider someone lazy if they were depending on the efforts of others and generally free-loading - not pulling their weight. But if you don't have to work and you're not expecting others to do all the work for you without reciprocation, then I'm all for being lazy.
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@3lilangels (4639)
• United States
13 Sep 07
wow i wish i could be lazy for even one full day,how great that would be.i get up 530 am and tend to my 3lilbabies that are 36 months old and 26 1/2 month old twins,potty train,feed,change,bathe,vaccum,wash,dishes,lunches,naps,my hair clients in between all of this,prepare dinner,play with kids,teach them new things,mylot,bathe them at nite,put them to bed,finish house choirs.and maybe go to sleep.i would love to be lazy,i need nanny911,then i can be lazy lol.
