advice please
By panicdude
@panicdude (456)
Philippines
September 17, 2007 8:18am CST
ok, this may seem kind of stupid to you guys but this has been bugging me for days already.. a friend of mine introduced me to this guy who they say is attracted to me. now that his friends know that we know each other they began teasing me to him. everytime i would pass by them with my friends, they would do some irritating sounds of teasing. but what made it really obvious that it was me they are teasing to him is that one of his friends asked (he more like shouted so that i would hear),"who? the one in blue?!". and yes, i'm the only one wearing a blue shirt that day when my friends and i passed by them..
this is what i think of the situation. the more his friends tease him to me, the more he becomes aggressive... well, sort of. once he messaged me in friendster saying if i remembered him.. i didn't reply. now he wants to be friends in friendster. haha. small issue, right? but here's my analysis to the situation. if i accepted him as a friend there, he might think that i am also interested in him (when in fact i'm totally not) and that he might do something more... if i don't accept his friend request, then it would be easier for me but soon the guilt will bug me more. and more so if i block him in friendster. hahahaha! so now i ask, people of myLot, friend request in friendster: yes, no, or block user? hahaha, i'm laughing now at my situation. but really, if you are in my shoes, what would you do? considering the fact that i am totally not attracted to the guy and that a friend of mine gives a disgusted look whenever we pass by him.
2 responses
@candiec2005 (828)
• United States
17 Sep 07
If you're not interested in him then if I were you, I wouldn't add him as a friend. Who knows? Maybe he'll get the point. You don't know. And if he ends bothering you more, look at him in the eye with a serious look and tell him that you're not interest and to please leave you alone.
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@panicdude (456)
• Philippines
19 Sep 07
ok, i wouldn't add him as a friend. thanks for your response. :)
@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
17 Sep 07
I wouldn't bother adding him as a friend. There are plenty of fish in the sea and you aren't interested in him. It would give him the wrong idea and he may try more and you will be in a harder situation to get out of.
When I was younger I use to meet guys and they liked me but I wasn't attracted to them. I was afraid to hurt their feelings so I would try to be nice but say I wanted a friendship. They held out hope that I would eventually want a dating relationship and they ended up even more hurt in the end because they thought they had a chance with me because I was nice to them. So I learned the best thing to do is be honest right away and not lead them on in any way. They move on quickly and don't really get hurt. But they do get hurt after investing several months into a "friendship" they hope will lead to more only to find out no, not in a million years.
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@panicdude (456)
• Philippines
17 Sep 07
wow. i like your response. you are right. i AM afraid of hurting his feelings so i try my hardest to be nice. just like you before. but as you said it, i should try to be true to myself. thanks for the advice! :)
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