My younger brother.

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My brother is 2 years younger than I am. I am very upset with him right now and my resentment keeps growing. I have been talking to my mother about some of his issues. She is very upset and worried. I myself am quite angry. My mother tried to help my brother out last year by putting his balance of one of his credit cards on hers. She had a good deal and she wanted to help him get out of debt. I told her I thought it was a big mistake. It turned out to be. He went online and added himself to the card, charged up the card with trips to Chicago to see Madonna, this including the plane tickets for two people and tickets for two people to the concert, hotel expenses and all. He then came back, and Madonna was in Miami. He charged those tickets to her credit card and hotel expenses. In the end with his credit card balance that my mother was trying to help him with and all of these other "treats" for him and his friends the amount went from $3000 to $7000!!!! My mother works her butt off cleaning toilets and ash trays in a casino. She has osteoporosis of the spine, high blood pressure, she suffered a stroke 5 years ago, and she has severe arthritis in her hands and feet. My brother works in an office in customer service. He constantly calls me and tells me he is broke, yet most often when he is telling me this he is in the drive through at a restaurant getting something to eat. He is living off of his other credit cards. He lives with a friend and doesn't pay more than $400 a month in rent and utilities. He is always over drafting his account and he ends up having to ask my mother for money for gas to get through until his next pay period. Not to mention he brings his laundry to my parents house and she ends up doing it for him and cooking him a home cooked meal while he is there. What makes me so angry is that he isn't making the payments on this card, he says he is too broke. She is making the payments because her good credit is all she has. He doesn't have kids, he isn't married and he has no responsibilities. He can work overtime or get a part time job to cover this! I am just so flipping angry with him over this. My mother co-signed my car for me, I would never put her in this position. I make my payments, I am not working and my husband is the breadwinner, but even though we are broke, I make sure I add extra money to the payment to hopefully get the bill down so it will get paid off faster. My brother always says he's broke but he has enough money to go to the club and drink and have a good old time while my mom is busting her butt cleaning and serving others. I literally can't stand talking to him anymore. He makes me so angry! He calls me 3 and 4 times a day with the same old sob story. I'm broke, I hate my life, why does everyone hate me, why can't I find a good job? I hate living with my roommate, so on and so forth. All I want to do is scream at him and tell him to grow up. Which I have done in the past and it does no good. He just doesn't see what he is doing to mom and if he does he just doesn't care. Well, thanks for letting me vent. I needed that.