Does Marrying scares you?

Hi Maribeth. First of all, welcome to myLot. To your concerns, you do not have to be scared of. You should not be intimidated with these rumors in life. Yes, it is true that there are a lot of families now a days are just ending up divorcing due to marital infidelity, but you have to consider also that not all families are ending up with this kind of relationship. Always remember that a lot of families also do stay strong and intact. You have to be optimistic or positive thinker. You should have a positive outlook in life. Do not think the negative ones. Think that when you marry, you will have a happy and intact family in the future and, of course, that would not be possible without the power and guidance of GOD because as we all know the God is always there for us whatever problems we might encounter in our life. I know that there will be someone out there that will truly and faithfully love you and, at the same time, you love him too. I remember during my high school days when my teacher told us that the most desirable way to know if you are compatible to each other if ever both of you are in aggreement in all aspects of life whether it is in religion, culture, ethnics, or lifestyle aspects of life, etc. But I think if both of you loved each other from head to foot, then there is no doubt that your relationship would really last long. I, myself, cannot predict also if what will happen or if I am going to have a nice and happy family. I am just hoping and praying that I will have a nice future with stable and intact family along the run of my life. Best of luck to both of us. Have a nice day ahead of you!

Well, Yes marrying does scare me...ive always said that i dont think im going to get married...my mom is getting married Decemeber 1st...i mean i guess you might not feel scared if you find the right one to get married to...But everyone feels a little scared when they get married its just natural...Yes, alot of marriages go bad but i think in alot of those cases they got married to quickly without getting to know each other very well...But you should always be 100 percent sure...have no doubts about getting married because those will only come up later to hit you in the face...So, you arent alone...I mean i think that there are less people who actually arent scared when it comes to weddings...So good luck!!!

I have to admit that the thought of marriage does scare me, but at the same time it excites me. It makes sense that we would be scared, as so many marriages end in ugly divorces and you hear of such horrible stories. I think it's important for a couple to live with eachother and experience the ups and downs of everything before getting married, it's important to see if you can even live together before making such a huge commitment.

No it doesnt scare me. People rush into marriage because they think they are in love, then it leads to divorce when they find out they are not compatible. As long as you are married to the right man, that's why you have to court for years and understand each other so you dont end up divorced.Also ask for the grace of God before choosing any man. Men are not to be trusted. They are like wolves in sheep's clothing. Also the cute guys of our days end up being gays, which I think is really pathetic

At first, I am kinda araid because of the responsibilities it entails for lifetime. But as i go along with my married life, I realized that as long as there is respect, love and care between man & wife, then there is nothing to be afraid of. becuase as you go along hand in hand , you can conquer all and be able to fulfill all the responsibilities.

Thinking of getting married scared me a lot when I was in a relationship with my first love. I was then 20, bit young actually. But later as I became mature, I just thought marriage is natural and I am now still think so. It's happy to be in wedlock with your loved one.

I'm already married, but I wasn't scared to get married when the time came. I feel that if you're scared to get married, you're not ready yet. If you're scared that you'll marry someone and then find out you're not compatible, don't be. There's an easy way to avoid that. You just have to really get to know the person first. You don't just marry someone and then get to know them. Do you see what I'm saying? As long as you don't rush things, you'll be fine.

"it just scares me ... a lot of people getting married just end up divorcing in the end.. after almost they gotten old together, they'd still end up divorcing each other.. how come?" [/quote] Some people grow sick of marriage. In plenty of cases the mates change over time. Or they were pretenders before they got married and then switched up when the vows were said. "according to studies, infidelity is one of the main caused.. esp. on men.." [/quote] Women cheat too dear. Plenty of reasons for them to do so too (best of both worlds, alpha male baby, etc). Nowadays character is abysmal and people don't believe in things like honor and commitment. People in the present are just out to satisfy number one and will do anything or use anyone to get there. "i kinda believe that once you are married an unfaithful man will never renounce his escapades.. what do you think?"[/quote] It'd be nice and some do, other men never had them in the first place. But its becoming more common for both men and women to be unfaithful in the relationship, sad but true. "i'm on the marrying age now, and it freaks me out to get involve with someone for so many years then you'll just realized that you were never been compatible with each other.." [/quote] Sometimes it happens that way, other times you get a shyster. I do hope you do not end up in either situation. "Does Marrying scares you?"[/quote] I'd be lying if I said it didn't. I've been through enough failed "relationships" in recent times. I've had dreams of being married and screwed over in the marriage. It'd be nice if I could find someone true, but I am much more cautious and vigilant when dealing with these matters. So maybe its not a fear, its more of a caution. The same with dealing in a potentially dangerous or unknown situation. Yes I see it that way, because in marriage there is a lot to gain, but one or both sides can lose plenty.

Well being that it scareS u then u can take that fear and use iT in taking things slow REALLY get to know someone ( iM not saying TAKE ages) but whats wrong with just having fun? :) Really taking ur time with things be FRIENDS first enjoy being with eachother and around eachother - its so much easier to Love someone than it is to LIKE them!! If u can really like who they are thier morals, beliefs, some views (not all u cant be TOTALy alike - thats boring!!) :( - there has to be some *quirks* u can live with that arent an issue like lets say ... when they are stubborn - its forgivable because hey! lets face it, we all are at some point! :)XX lol but really LIKE them that if u can say to urself if i met them today ( say years after) and u can say YEAH i would then ur ready! :)XX no sin in taking it slow seeing how it goes one level at a time being comfy in that level then moving on to the next and so on! :)XX BUT communication is the key ( i think anyway) if u CANT talk to them and say anything to them, whenever however WITHOUT judgments, critisizm, nastyness, abuse of any kind- no matter what! then they wont make a good marriage partner! - how would u be able to work things out if the CRAP REALLY got bad - and be able to come through it TOGETHER!?? ur of marrying age doesnt mean u HAVE to get married! :)XX Does it? *just my two cents and how I feel* Speaking as a Married woman AND who had a failed marriage before (NOT from infaithfulness but more the abuse reason:() that was VERY LUCKY to find a Wonderful Man!! :) XX

In all honesty it depends on the individuals. Once the passion subsides and you start living a day to day exsistence is when the real test of love comes in. Marriage is wonderful if you relize that there are going to be differences in each other. It's how you work out or accept the differences in each other that matters. Most time divorce comes due to a lack of communication or an attitude of well the person should change. Personally my marriage of 38 years has had it's up and downs and there were times when we were so angry with each other that we thought of divorce. The only thing that stopped us was that we were able to communicate with each other without fear or reprimand. Once we cooled down and started opening up our feelings we were able to understand how each other felt and were better able to make our love even stronger. At one time or another we all wonder if the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. Usually you end up with weeds and crabgrass on the other side.

No, marriage does not scare me. For me, it is a necessary part of my life. It makes me complete. I can not even think of living my life without marriage.

i think if your in love with the correct person your marriage will be succesful

No i am not scared of marriage.. dont get married until you get married. I would like to travel the world.. and do do fun things before i get married.. but seriously don't worry about marriage.. until you are ready.. don't be scared.. its part of trust and love. its a great experience.

Too many do not consider,is not called endures for ever ,only to have called yo.

Hi maribeth! Yes marriage use to scare me alot. It took me a long time till I could commit to marriage and trust in someone. Its all about the trust. If you have that you dont have to worry one bit.Just have alittle faith in the person your with and all is good.

When I was going to get married, I also would feel nervous. However, my expetations were over my worries. I think it made sense. Otherwise I wouldn't get married:)

yes, it really scares me. as you said that a lot of people get married happily and then end up divorcing in the end. now, i'm 27 years old, so my boyfriend want to marry me in the next year, but i can't. i know i love him, and he loves me too, but i am really afraid of marriage. it is easier to be a girlfriend than a wife. several years ago, i went to my hometown to celebrate Spring Festival with my parents, then i knew that my neightbour's sister was killed by her husband. i was very surprised. how could her husband kill his wife?

one day at a time, maribeth. thats all you can take life and all that comes with it. if you stop to think about it, everything comes to an end sooner or later. so all you really have is right now. if you go through time worrying about what tomorrow will bring, you miss everything today has to offer. in a relationship, you never really know what is going to happen. some things you have control over, some you do not. keep the lines of communication open with your partner and you've got half of the battle won. people make mistakes. if you understand why the mistake was made, there is a good chance it won't be made again. and marriage is a full time job. it does require work to flow smoothly. you must both be willing to forgive, support, listen, and sometimes just know when to be quiet. IMOL, too many people today are living in a disposable society where it is easier to toss something out and get new then try to find out what is broken and fix it. marriage is a wonderful blessing. to be able to spend your life with someone so special is beyond words. i am so fond of it, i did it twice. yep, just because one doesn't work doesn't mean the next one won't. good luck to you. and never run away from love.

"Marrying" did scare me when I was in my early twenties. I have heard of sad stories, negative issues about marriages and I even asked myself why would I engage myself and marry? However, prayers changed me. The Good Lord has a plan for me. Having been blessed to have good parents who are on their 39th wedding anniversary next year, they have brought us (I have 2 siblings) with values. I was blessed that the Lord was able to answer my prayers with regards to choosing my partner in life. The Good Lord was able to send me somebody who understands me, who knows not how to drink liquors nor smoke, he who prioritizes family. And right now we are about to celebrate our 8th year wedding anniversary by next year. We were blessed to have 3 beautiful kids (6yr girl, 4yr boy, 1yr girl). Marrying did scare me but my LORD is much GREATER and POWERFUL. GOD ANSWERS PRAYERS!

I also am scared of the marriage issue, I have been married twice and all it did was confirm my fears. I am in another relationship now and my boyfriend and I get along well and he would like to get married, but due to my fears of the past I feel afraid of committment. He says he I should not compare him to the others I have been burned by and I agree but experience tells me otherwise.