Is there Anything You Will Never Forgive??

@shay3434 (881)
Israel
September 21, 2007 1:39am CST
Hi guys! Do you think there is something that someone will do to you and you will not forgive him/ her until the end of you life? I'm asking this question because today is "Yom Kipur"- this is a Jewish holiday that related to forgivenesses. In this day every body most ask for forgivenesses from people he hurt during the year, and also ask for forgiveness from God. so, Is there anything you can't forgive even after the person who hurt you say he is truly sorry?
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18 responses
• Philippines
21 Sep 07
I don't know if there will be an incidence in my life that i will not forgive someone. I think i can forgive anyone, but it will be depending on the time. I will forgive them on the right time.but i can forgive anyone.
@shay3434 (881)
• Israel
21 Sep 07
Thank you! It's very good to know to forgive anybody. I believe that forgiveness is good both for the person who forgives and for the other person that was forgiven.
• United States
21 Sep 07
Well...in fact, yes there is. But it isn't really directly related to me. There is a guy that hurt my sister a lot...she has 2 kids with him, and there was one night when he was with my niece (after he and my sister had broken up) that he was saying he wouldn't bring my niece back to us (my sis was living with us). We called the cops, and the guy that came talked to him on the phone and convinced him to bring my niece back. He didn't get arrested or anything. But this guy also stalked my sister, at least emotionally abused her and he is just a terrible person. I will never forgive him.
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@shay3434 (881)
• Israel
21 Sep 07
Thank you for your response. I can understand your situation. Sometimes you can't forgive for someone even he didn't hurt you personally. When some person hurt my relatives or family I feel like he hurt myself. Thanks for sharing your story.
@sweetcakes (3504)
• United States
9 Oct 07
Forgiveness is not a feeling. It is a decision to quit holding something against someone. When we forgive we must release them and forget it.
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• United States
21 Sep 07
The only person I have not forgiven is my father. He abandoned me, never cared and was never around. He hasn't even said I'm sorry so maybe if he does one day, who knows? But as of now, I cannot forgive him.
@shay3434 (881)
• Israel
23 Sep 07
I'm very sorry to hear that. I can't believe people abandon their own children... Thank you very much for sharing.
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@poohgal (6845)
• Singapore
21 Sep 07
Hello there. I am blessed with the gift to forgive people. No matter what people has done to me, i forgive them However, I will never forget as I have a very good memory. Forgiveness is important. 'Lord, please forgive us as we have forgiven others who have sin against us.' If we want God to forgive us, we need to learn how to forgive others first.
@shay3434 (881)
• Israel
23 Sep 07
Hi! Thank you very much for taking a part in the discussion! I think you right and we all need to learn how to forgive others.
@shy_gal (235)
• Malaysia
22 Sep 07
Hi shay3434, How about you? Do you have anything that you never forgive? For me, i have it. I hate him because he always cheat me and my family as well. At first, i gave him money to help me get some stock for me to earn some extra pocket money. Then everytime i ask him about the stock, he will give me any reason. It take half years, then i ask him get back the money to me. He told me that will get the stock to me soon. But i still need wait it. Till now i haven recevie that stock or even the money. I have given him the chance, but eveytime it just disppointed me. So what should i do??Shld i forgive this person??
@shay3434 (881)
• Israel
23 Sep 07
Hi There. Thanks for taking a part in the discussion. I try to forgive anytime someone ask me for forgiveness, but I'll still remember his\ her doing. I think I will never forgive someone who murder a friend of mine or family. This is something terrible that I don't think can be forgiven. About you case, I think you should keep asking your money back until you get it.. Stay strong and don't let him do what ever he wants. Good luck.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
12 Oct 07
there is someone i will never forgive in life. That is my so called best friend. He was very nice to me when I was in the same city as him. He needed my favour. After i moved back to my hometown, he first started avoiding me, again he behaved so badly with me. We have no contact anymore. But I'll not forgive him for my whole life.
@cefaz_21 (2596)
• Philippines
21 Sep 07
I have a cotton candy heart so i think there is nothing or there is no one I could never forgive..specially when I see them really sorry and remorseful. I am forgiven too and is always at the receiving line of forgiveness from God..so as much as I can I forgive also.
@shay3434 (881)
• Israel
21 Sep 07
Thats wonderful you know how to forgive. There are some persons who just the opposite, and they don't know how to forgive even if the other person really sorry. Thanks for taking a part in the discussion!
• United States
11 Oct 07
When my hubby left me 8 yrs ago for another woman he crushed my soul...we are together he was with her for 3 months then came back to me...And to this day I can't forgive him no matter how many times he says he is Sorry or try to prove to me he is sorry and he would not ever do that to me again...Well he can be blue in the face and I still wont belive him or forgive him...I don't even trust him...He can say heis going to the store and I would call him a lier to his face...But I do wish I could for give him but I can never see that happening..It's alreasy been 8 yrs and I still feel that strong about it as the day it happened....
@mykmari_08 (2464)
• Philippines
24 Sep 07
Yes, and I hope and pray that this will never befall us. If anyone will hurt or kill my loved ones; my family, my daughter, my parents, my younger siblings, or my cousins, nephews and nieces, aunts and uncles, and grandparents; I will definitely never forgive them and never will I forget the wrongdoings they've caused us. For me, life is so sacred and that no one, that God alone has the right to take it away for this life is the most precious gift He has given us. So, we should treasure it and refrain from abusing and using it to do bad deeds. God bless and take care.
• United States
27 Sep 07
There are two people in my life who have done extensive emotional damage to me and whom I don't believe I will ever be able to forgive. I've told myself I've forgiven them, I've tried to forgive them but just letting go of it is impossible. I can say I forgive them but the fact of the matter is that I want them to know how they've hurt me and I want them to hurt as well. I want them to get the proverbial mile walk in my shoes and really, REALLY understand how what they did to me affected me. It pains me to think that they're both out there, having not even thought of me for years and yet not a day goes by that I don't think back upon those circumstances feeling angry, hurt and humiliated. One I don't know how to contact, the other I don't wish to attempt. It won't help the healing process by contacting him so why bother? I don't know if many people possess the skill of forgiveness - and it is a skill - but it might help if certain people were a little more contrite, too.
@lzqrain (53)
• China
22 Sep 07
I don't think just a sorry could make person forgive things he had do.It just make people feel better for saying sorry to the people they had hurt .The rules of the world is big fishes eat small fishes,no matter how much sorry the big fishes say,the rules will never change
• India
22 Sep 07
yes ,when some body insults my family i will not forgive him even the greatest of them cant the best example is zidane
• Philippines
24 Sep 07
Killing. Impossible to forgive that, if it's just me...But with God's grace, I can. Have a meaningful "Yom Kipur" to all the Jewish out there :)
@Stiletto (4579)
21 Sep 07
I can't think of anything specific at the moment but generally I'm not that forgiving a person anyway. Betrayal would be the big thing for me I guess. I can't forgive anyone that betrays my trust. I mean a serious betrayal like infidelity or something like that. I know sometimes it's better to forgive but it's just not something I'm good at I'm afraid.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
21 Sep 07
i don't think so... so far, i can say that i am kind of a forgiving person... i get angry easily but i let go easily as well... i learn to forgive because i had been forgiven by God as well for my sins... so i have to forgive other people as well...
@TerryZ (22076)
• United States
21 Sep 07
Well Im not jewish so I dont have to worry about forgiving. Im a Catholic and we were taught to forgive no matter what. I have a problem with that. There are just some things in life I cant forgive. And thats just the way it is.
• United States
22 Sep 07
i have not had something happen to me recently that i have not been able to forgive... thats the thing with me i will forgive but will never forget... I believe in god and i know about forgiveness... Everyone should have forgiveness in there hearts.. now i can think of a few things that could happen but i pray to god they never do that would make it hard not only to forget but to forgive as well..