Would You Still be with Your Boyfriend/ Girlfriend if...

Definitely a BIG NO! It's so hard to be with someone who gambles a lot. I've seen my mother suffer from that too, my father used to gamble a lot before when I was a kick. They used to fight most of the time. I don't want to have a relationship like that in the future. It's okay to have a person who gamble and also know how to use his brain at the same time. Someone who thinks gambling as a living, if you win then STOP. If you think you're losing then STOP. Don't went home empty handed or a LOSER. Lolz. I think that's impossible.!

That's ridiculous. I would no way consider staying with someone who has such a problem. That is a really huge sum of money and I can understand you not wanting to gamble your life on someone who gambles. I know it's an addiction and all that bla bla bla BUT if you're in a relationship with someone they should respect you enough that they don't make you suffer because of their addiction. Obviously your friend is going to suffer financially because of her fella's debt. It will mean she will have to go without things because he won't have any money to spend for God knows how long whilst he pays off this debt and runs up God knows how much more as he'll probably think he can win that amount back with one good gamble!

Yes! If ever i'll be in that situation, I will still be with my boyfriend, for now.. Every person deserves a second chance. Even if he owes me that amount because he used it for gambling, I may even help me pay some of it. I am a generous person and I am willing to help any one in any way I can. I will try to talk and convince my boyfriend out of gambling and to give him another chance. A chance to change things, change himself, quit gambling and of course, pay the bills! :) If he won't change, then there's no chance for me to still be with a person who is a gambler. To think, he's still my boyfriend.. were not even married yet .. and then he already owes me that amount?! What more if were already married.. The amount may be doubled or we all lose our money for his gambling.

no, i can't. it is too much for me, i can't afford it. if my boyfriend is ill, then he owes such money, then i can accept it, but for gambling, then i can't accept it. he should afford it by himself. didn't he think the result before he play gambling? i hate those people who spend too much time on gambling. once i quit my job, then i had free time, then some of my friends called me to play gambling, then i began to play it. it was very attractive, but i'm not lucky,and i lost 150 dollars in several days. you know, i quit my job, then i can't have too much extra money, then i had a quarrel with my boyfriend, i felt very bad to quarrel with him about such thing, then i gave it up.

No, absolutely not. My reaction would be GOOD-BYE and good luck, but I would not stay around long enough to hear an answer. It is not just a matter of being fiscally irresponsible, and obviously hiding it for quite some time, but it goes to even deeper issues of character. Be careful, Ice. You might want to take a fresh look at your "best buddy" too, as her judgment seems to have been a little flawed getting involved with this sort of person.

There is no way on earth I'd be with someone who put me that far into debt. First off... there's no way I'd put any of my financial effects in the hands of someone I wasn't legally married to. That is just asking for trouble, you never ever, never... ever... ever mix money and personal matters unless you are willing to never see that money again. Most likely she will never see one cent of that money and an amount that high will ruin her credit and amounts that high in debt also ruin your chances with a lot of employment opportunities as 98% of employers now check the credit of applicants and view those with bad or excessive debt as a risk an not trust worthy. Women need to take a bigger role in protecting themselves financially and that includes against those who may be taking advantage of us. We think that saying NO means that we're going to be viewed as being a "b*tch" but the truth is that if you don't watch out for yourself, nobody else is going to do it either. If I were your friend I'd sue him for the ammount on her credit card after calling the credit card company and asking for her account number to be changed and all currently issued cards to be cancelled so that he can't spend another dime on her account.

i think mine is worst than your friend's Boyfriend co'z my boyfriend ows someone much more bigger on that amount.. well, right now i'm helping him with it. i know his trying to rise some money for the dept of his..

i dont think am that dumb not to realize that that guy doesnt love me. he is with me because he needs my money to finance his gaming and all those stuffs. that guy doesnt have respect for one. he knows that it's my money and even if he is important to me, it doesnt mean he has all the right to do that, have fun at my expense and he is using my name! oh god. i really wont forgive him. that is not loving. that guy is just using his girl. if the girl will ran out of money and will have to pay all the bills since it is under her name, will the guy stick with him and help her out in paying the bills?! that is the big question right now... i dont know, if that happened to me, i will not forgive him, i am just happy that my guy is the responsible kind. he doesnt ask or borrow from me and everytime we dine out, he always does the paying though i would like to offer and contribute he wouldnt accept it..:) that's nice if you get someone responsible!

I don't want to stay with a person who likes gambling. It is a very dangerous hobby. No matter he wins or loses money, I will still leave him because he gambles.

Hello wondericequeen, I think I will leave him if that is the cause of him being poorer. But if there is another valid reason, I will definitely remain with him and try to solve the problem together. I don't think I am brave enough to suffer in future just to be with my gambler husband!

My answer would be 'absolutely no'.I hate gambling and I thought it is always associated with bad hehavior.Once people lose a lot of money on it,they want to win it back.Then they end up losing more money.Thats terrible.I cant bear it even he is my beloved one.

my answer is, if she can afford it , lol, why not and if she thinks that she has been duped for some reason then she should shove a gambling table in his mouth.

That is very scary. It is not just about it being debt. Debt can go. The problem is the addiction behind gambling. There is gambler's anonymous that is out to help people face their addiction. But imagine down the road if things are going fine and then they go through a rough patch and he is stressed and turns to gambling again. I won't say people can't beat it, but it is not easy. I think it would be good of her to encourage him to seek help right away. There is a difference between being with someone/helping someone get help because you love them and getting married.

I will have to think a lot before being with a gambler... but if your friend new about it... it is her choice... I guess the problem is when you are already in the relationship... Hard decision... but better be safe then sorry! Run away! Soldier then run, can serve another war!

first of all, i don't even want to get involved with a person who is a gambler... there is too much risk associated with it... the sum is really scary and i don't know how long your buddy's bf will be able to pay it... i always tell my hubby that if he uses the money that we earned with lots of hardwork and sweat unwisely, then i will definitely leave him...

I think NO... a person who owes that much because of gambling is a clear sign of being an irresponsible person... a relationship will not prosper to a higher level if the man is more into gambling than preparing for a family in the future... But then... if he mends his way by starting to pay off this debts and ultimately stopping from gambling... then there is hope for the relationship to continue...

my answer is no.because I know if one person is addicted to gamble,then it is nearly impossible for him to give up it,even he knows that it does so much bad,but he can not abadon it.no matter how he wants to.of course,there is some exception,such as some very big or sorrow things happen on him or his friends,then maybe he will succeed.but for me,I think it is so scared to be with a gambler,so I will not choose that kind of man to be my boyfriend or husband.wish you good luck!

My cousin married a gamble. One day, a moving van pulled up and served her with a piece of paper saying that everything they owned was to be sold for debt collection due for gambling repayment. The repo men dumped all their kids clothes on the floor and took their chests of drawers. Then they left the blankets, but took their beds. The kids were in shock and then started crying. All the furniture, everything left. They rented, so no one could claim the house. But the entire situation was awful. Most people gamble a little, but when it becomes an addiction, you can't stay with the person, you won't have any furniture or bed to stay with that person anyway!

i dont either, that really the thing that i hate, ive seen people that almost lost everything in thier life becouse of gambling.and people down and almost lost thier mind becouse of it.i cant imagine my self to be with a gambler, i mean what life would it be.?

I will leave my bf if he owe me so many money because i know he cant pay back and will not pay back.I hate gamble because many people down because gamble.