do parents get irritated when their kids ask for...

i am a single mom of four, and when they ask extra money i try to give it as long as it is for something they need at school. i am having a hrad time to make both ends meet now so they understand that.... i will give it if i can but if i dont have any extra then they have to wait.

Parents don't really get irritated when their kids ask for extra money...my parents always were very reasonable,so they never really refused ever but yes they would always question.As I am a parent now,I can their understand reasons now...its just a way of being watchful as to what your child is doing.If reasons are justified I don't see why any parent would get irritated.This kind of questioning also makes children realise their limits with regards to money/extra demands.I do feel its fair.

i only have a 6 year old at the moment and i make all her snacks and luches so she doesnt need money for school... she does however ask for money everytime we leave the house to go to the store or something... she gets a weekly allowance and i tell her she cant have any extra money if she wants to spend her allowance thats fine, but then she cant savce it for that big thing she wanted... so we hit the store and she usulaly ends up getting a few things and i tell her it came out of her allownace.. but i secretivley go in her room while she is at school and put the money in her piggy bank anyways... this way here she learns the value of money. But i dont mind buying her a treat every nw an again especailly when its uslly only a dollar or two!

I don't get upset with my kids, I get upset with the school system. I pay taxes and I think it is rediculous the amount of money you have to spend that is extra for kids to do things in school. I would suggest that you let your parents know what activities you plan on participating in and tell them ahead of time that there might be additional expenses. As a parent, I love my kids to be involved in school activities, so I try to budget for the additional expenses.

I think that always honesty is the best policy. I don't think that you are being frivolous with your money, you are using it for good purposes, so I don't think your parents would mind it if you asked. There is no other way but to just come out and ask nicely for the things you need. I doubt that they would get irritated if you explained to them what you needed it for and if that would be a problem for them. Maybe you can do extra around the house to make up for the extra money as well.

...When my children were in a private school, they needed money for field trips, special projects and it did get frustrating. It was never something I could plan for and always seemed to come when funds were low. ...Try asking your school/teashers to send home a letter describing the project ot whatever the money is needed for. Have them put the amount in the letter as well. This will help your mother divert her anger/frustration to school, not you. ...Good luck with this. Peace be with you. =(^;^)= Della

I wouldn't let my kids use their allowances for school projects or school outings. Their allowance is for them to spend, and school finances are my responsibility as their parent. It's not up to them to pay for that, that's my job. Now I might get irritated when my kids have blown their allowances and ask for more money just to spend, or to buy some outfit, or some new video game, or head out with their friends. But for a school project or a school trip? Nope. That's my JOB to pay for it ... I took on that responsibility when I decided to have children. Paying for their education to the fullest extent is one small part of the parenting contract. ;)

I don't mind if my children ask for extra money as long as they don't take it for granted or use it irresponsibly. My 18 year old son, won't get a job, he had one and was making good money, blew it all and quit his job, now he comes to us for money and we just don't have it any more and he gets mad at us.

when i was a student i would feel embarassed and scared too when asking for money from my mother. i dont think she usually gets mad. she'd only get mad if she see me buying stuff that i dont really need or just spending too much and she'd always tell me to save some money. ^__^;; so i learned to save money so i wont have to her for an extra cash so she wouldnt get THAT mad when i buy stuff for myself. ^__^ but still, there are times when i had to ask her since its not always that i can save money. but now that im working, i do my best to save, to budget my salary so i dont have to ask my mother anymore for money. ^__^ sometimes i do but its on loan. LOL

I guess it depends largely on what purpose a child will utilize the extra funds. If the child is asking for extra money and he will genuinely use it for a valid or legal need, I believe that a parent will not scold the child. But if it's the other way around; meaning a child will only use it for nonsense personal stuff, it is but proper that he be scolded by his or parent in order to give him a lesson to not do it anymore in the future and as a form of discipline, too. When I was still in my schooldays, I learned the value of saving money for future use. I am the eldest of four children and I was the only one sent by our parents here in the city for my education. It was hard to be away from my parents and siblings but at an early age, I learned that my parents feel the same and are sacrificing a lot for my sake. Somehow it's instilled in me that I have to do my best and be as thrifty as I could.

Yes, i think parents do get irritaed if kids ask for money and allowances too often, reason being that its something that never stops, and once it starts, kids also take advantage at times, as ask for more than actually is required. What can be a solution would be that you sit and decide with your parents,what would be agood , decent amount that would be alright for you, and let your parents decide if that amount suits them as well, if it does then well and good or then compromise is all that you can do, regading what they give you. I also feel that whatever pocket money or allowance that you ask for, should be inclusive of what maybe required in your school and whatever they ask for, all that you must dish out from whats given to you. And i dont think you have to donate or contribute eveytime too, isnt it? you maybe doing so, half the time to get into the good books of people, but its not needed to be done everytime i feel. Parents also have to make out their budget for the month and sort out their expenses, and as their childen you too much understand their pint of view, and respect and be thankful for what they give you and not demand and ask for more.

It does get a bit over whelming when it seems like every time we turn around the kids need money for something else. For example, I paid $90 to the school at the begining of the year for my youngest 4 kids' activity fees and then I get a note from their teachers saying they need more supplies (in addition to what I'd all ready bought the 2nd and 4th grader and Kindergarten fee for the youngest) THEN my older daughter needs stuff for band and NOW they want money to make a class scare crow! It feels like I have a hole in my pocket. So yes, I do get irritated but I realize it's not my kids' fault, it's just the way the world works these days.

If I answer this question from mother side, since I'm a mother now, I don't have any reason to get or feel irritated when my children asking for more money as long as I know or my children can explain to me why or what for the money is. Or they can explain the reason why they need more money. I did also something like that my self when I asked money from my parents before. And as long as I can explain to them the reason, and they agreed or can understand about that, they normally would give me the extra money.