Why do friends delete others just because they havn't posted for awhile???

I have only ever deleted friends if they bombard me with their get rich quick schemes and scams. The only other time I deleted a friend was someone who was incredibly rude and abusive, so no great loss theer

Hi Jan, glad to see you back on MyLot again:) And you are right about the fact that no one knows what is happening, or has happened in someone's life and why the inactivity of the person on MyLot. Hope your troubles, or whatever kept you off MyLot are over? Lately there have been some discussion in regards as to what to do with the multitude of friends on our lists that never respond to any discussion, nor post anything. Some wanted to ask MyLot support to start delting the accounts after 3 months of inactivity, but most felt 6 months was more appropriate. But I have no idea if MyLot will start deleting the inactive accounts as I haven't read anything else in regards. Wishing you a Happy Stay and Posting:) TheFortunes

It depends how long you define "a while" as. I delete friends if they have been inactive for as long as 3 months, unless of course I know or suspect there's a reason for it and they will definitely be coming back. I mean if you didn't you could end up with loads of inactive friends on your list! I don't really think it's lacking in "compassion" to delete them - it's really not that big a deal is it?

Hi jan! No I dont deleate people for not posting on here in awhile. I think that is silly.LOL We all cant be on here all the time. And if thats how they feel oh well I dont care.

I delete friends, but I have very good reasons why I do this. Some are indedd those inactive, but I delete them after a careful consideration. I still have inactive friends on my list, that I didn't delete because they somehow shared good topics and funny moments with me. But those I delete are were the one's that I think are less interesting to me, those who only "used" me to have someone respond on their post but not commenting or even returning the favor. I believe that friendship is a "give and take" relationship, and not just to continuously take everything.

I also don't undestand why people have to delete friends from the list because they are not active. I have never deleted anyone from my list because none of them are annoying. Even if some of them may not be in Mylot any more, but I still keep them in my list. As long as there is not a maximum for the list, I won't delete anybody here.

Well, I think it has something to do if those friends are going to participate as well on their friends' posts. If you are not active, you are not going to stay on their list. That's how I see it. I don't personally delete anyone that isn't active at all. I have so many friends on my list, I don't have time to go through them all to do that.

Thats a bit harsh..I wouldnt say that it was petty or immature..people have their own reasons for deleting also....If they are deleted from friends list and return after many months, they can just request to be friends again...No big deal at all..

I don't delete friends just because they are inactive or not responding to my topics. I myself can say that I'm not as active as I used to be, and not necessarily responding to all of my friends' topics anyway. I'm sure I've been deleted by some people too, only I don't remember who and couldn't care less about it. Not everyone knows what happens in my life and even lesser people care to know. As far as I'm concern, "friends" are replaceable, but friends are not.

There are two sides to every story. I do not like to have people on my friends list that are not active. I think that one hundred friends is much more than enough for me to attempt to keep up with. I do not like for my number to get higher than that. When I get over 100, I go through and start deleting the ones who have not been active in a while. I want to add people to my list who are active and want to be my friend. Just the same as you have the right to leave Mylot for three months at a time, we have the right to choose who to keep as friends. I do not see why you are posting about it, if you say it does not bother you. Let the people who are actually bothered by it complain. It I were gone from Mylot and some of my friends deleted me, I would just go back and re-invite them if they meant that much to me. The ones that I feel close to-if I do not see them active for a while I will send a note of comment to find out what is going on and see how they are doing. I really don't see how this is an issue. Everyone has the right to do what they want to on Mylot.

Hey Jan! I completely understand where you're coming from. There are times when I just don't have the time to get on the computer because I work all the time and I am just so busy with my children and their extra curricular activities. I have been deleted before, but who gives a crap. Their loss! LOL! I never delete anyone unless they are offensive or constantly bug me with marketing and get rich quick crap.

I agree with you, I think it is very childish to delete friend because they don't write often ! They should grow up, and think maybe they are busy, or something maybe wrong, and they are not able to write. I feel if they want to delete me go ahead, because they are not worth my time to write to them anyway, if they can't write to you and ask if something is wrong, and if you are alright. There are real friends out there, don't worry about the fakes !

I don't delete anyone if s/he is not replying to my discussion or response. I think I am that busy with discussions here that I don't get time to check out who is responding and who is not.