Do you have the right to look?

LOL I dont mean to laugh dear, but thats sort of funny. It would have freaked me out too! And my hubby would have blew a couple gaskets. My neighbors an odd character really, but hes niec to you, friendly. I just dont know. I try to avoid him & his gf as much as I can lol Isnt that terrible?! They always want a ride, well if he would quit drinking he could get his license back. He was always in the paper for dui and suspended license. Im scared now! Lol Im home alone tonight!! Bay xx

YEah you are right, just stop and stare it's rude. Maybe he was jealous that he has none to give kiss.

Oh no I don't think you are being rude honey. This guy was just standing out there in the drive looking in. We have two doors really, a hard wooden door then a screen door, only the wooden door was open. I just think you shouldnt stand and stare inside on purpose. Taking a look around and just happening to see inside is one thing, stopping to stare is another. LOL Bay xx

Aww, that could have been it Laurika! Poor guy. lol

Consider some of these oddball ideas. The neighbor wasn't rude... He was concerned about your well-being, was making sure you were safe. He was shocked by your behavior. He had a leg cramp and stopped to stretch it. He's a pervert and enjoys your shows. or many other possibilities. Don't assume anything. People can be curious, rude, or... Yes people should be courteous, kind, caring, and all that but they're not always. That's why you take responsibility for your privacy and close the blinds.

LOL Lets add rediculous to that as well TDonald. C'mon. Perhaps because Im IN my house, where I should have privacy and respect from others, and hes is OUTDOORS in public. Lets not fail to mention that staring wether your indoors our outdoors is rude in itself. And lastly, we were not staring at him, we were busy kissing good bye, in the privacy of our own home....didnt you read it all? I was wondering how long it would take, Im sure you REALLY dont feel like this, just had to be the oddball. lol Thanks for adding some spice to my discussion. I forgot to season it. *wink* :) Bay xx

lol Ok lets consider them; "He was concerned about your well being, he was making sure you were safe"..... My husbands truck was running and parked right outside the door, he saw my husband in there with me. Remember he was watching us when my husband turned to head to the door. "He was shocked by your behavior".... Not too shocking considering HE and HIS GF gave us a shock when we came home a few weeks ago with Police surronding the place and he had blood all over his back and down his arm from HER stabbing him. We were greeted by the police upon trying to pull into the parking area, while they tried to convince him, from outdoors in the parking lot, that he needed an ambulance. Thats shocking behavior...not a kiss between married people. "He had a leg cramp and stopped to stretch it".... This justifies him staring in an open door like hes window shopping at the strip mall? Yeah? A leg cramp will allow your mind and eyes to wander about into someones door, what kind of leg crap was that? lol Mine are painful and I dont think about other things trying to get rid of it, and standing still doesnt eliminate them, I have to keep moving and walk it out. "Hes a pervert and he liked your show".... This is what I said! lol I didnt assume anything, I was simply asking from my discussion if people had the right too look into your personal and private space just because a door or window was open? Along with my regular door, I have a storm door with a screen in it, its not like I just had my door wide open and there was nothing between us and the world outside. So you think I should create a solidary enviroment in my home because people feel the need to look inside when they really have no business to do so? I wasnt yelling help or screaming or anything of that nature indicating I needed someones assistance or attention. Conundrum said it best when they stated that even neanderthals knew better than to stare into someone elses fire. Interesting fact there, its on the first page. Take a look. None the less TDonald, great ideas though! Have a good day! Bay xx

I agree, people will usually peek inside of the house when the door is open. They might think there was a burglar or something that broke in. I'm sure that is what I'd think and I'd probably check it out to make sure nothing is wrong. If there was nothing terrible going on, I'd just walk away since I know the person inside was safe. Staring is another thing altogether though.

Hi Lansing, I agree somewhat...lol I did fail to mention that there is two doors in the front and that they were both not open. I guess I could see where theres a difference between a single door being wide open like from a door that is open yet a screen door seperates the outside from the inside. lol See there is that seperation that makes it that much more rude to be looking. Seeing a door wide open with nothing else seperating outside from inside, would seem an odd occurance especially at that time of the morning. And so yes I agree that taking a look to make sure things are ok would be respectful, not rude. LOL He was watching us though, lol hoping that SOMETHING else was getting ready to go on. Bay xx

Yea Elusive, I dont even bother looking for. I have no reason to look, peek, glance or anything else into someones home. I cant expect all to think like me though! hehe Bay xx

I just got back from my walk, and guess what!!! I found myself looking at the houses again, just seeing if I was able to see in the windows and see what was going on. I know there's a bunch of people that see me walking every morning, but I can never see them in their houses!!!

Dawn, your a peeping tom in denial!!! LOL *wink* See, people are watching you from the street, just like you do. I'm kidding. He was getting an eye full. Thank goodness he moved! No more peeping tom for a neighbor. The sad thing was he was so polite, but I felt different toward him after that. Wondered how many other times he was looking and we didn't notice! Bay xx

Hi Miami, The other night I rode with hubby to drop off a horse and it was late when we got there, on the way to the track I noticed all these houses with their blinds wide open and fully lit up. I mean even without staring I could see them sitting on the couch, what was on their tv's lol I thought about how uncomfortable I would feel like that. During the day its fine, its a bit harder to see in unless your pressed to the glass or door, but late at night and your house is all lit up, really easy to see in without trying. LOL My best friends house I just walk into. She knows I'm on my way though, it's not like I stop by there out of the blue and just walk on in. lol I knock and then open the door and yell that I'm there. She does it at my house too. Oh come on tell us one story! LOL Bay xx

That kind of behavior also makes me think is he casing the place!? LOL He's nice and he always says hi and stuff, but there is something about him. He drinks a lot, and him and his gf are always aruging. She stabbed him not long ago in his arm and 3 places in his back. So I guess it really creeped me out more than anything when I saw him watching us this morning. lol I too would never try and look inside someones home just because they had their blinds or door open just because I know how I feel about it! I guess the ones looking dont really care. Bay xx

Hi Ash, thank you for agreeing! lol I just dont feel that my door and blinds open mean its an invitation to look inside, no matter what we were doing. We could have just been sitting there talking, I think its still rude to look hard into someones home. If it be your own home and your looking in, thats fine, you have a reason to. Im not looking in his doors and window when Im taking out my trash, or any of my other neighbors homes for that matter. All will be well, I guess I will have to adjust how I live since it cant be how I would like it. lol Bay xx

See Im thinking he really couldnt see all that much, cos the lights were out, it was dark outdoors and thats why he really was just locked in a stare. I was barely dressed Gabs, I should have flashed him!? LOL Had my hubby been not been on his way to work, that was his suggestion. Bay xx

Hi Suspensefuel, I think those are pretty legitimate reasons to be looking. I would help someone too if I thought they were hurt or in danger. Bay xx

Hi Kst4ever! lol yea that sounded really rude. See how audacious people can be? I wouldnt have been too happy either really, after all they were looking first, you were just observing what they were doing. Hope you didnt have any more trouble with them. Bay xx

Hi meikaidi, Im not Britney Spears, she should be worried about her privacy! haha I dont think the action of my blinds or door open would have "invatation to look inside" written all over it. I shouldnt have to tell people that, to me it seems like common sense. I mean what do I need to look inside someones home for? Unless your looking for something in particular, really no need. I guess I feel my privacy should be like anyone elses, something you should just know to give someone. Bay xx