terrible situation

I think you may need more time to think it over. I don't know how long you've felt this way, how long have you been married? Sometimes you just need time to think it over and put everything into perspective. Maybe you should talk to your husband and maybe you can work it out. If not, at least you tried. Good luck!

I've always felt that the secret to a successful relationship is absolute honesty. If your husband loves you he will sit down with you and let you talk this all through with him. You also need to re-evaluate why you are no longer with your ex, and whether leaving your husband would change that in any way at all. As you talk, make a concious effort to balance yoru discussion. By that I mean for each bad point in your relationship you discuss, you also discuss one of the good things. This really helps you see the situation clearly. Good luck!

spiritual connection? I didn't get it, you left your ex because there was problem and I think without giving yourself time to recover you plunged in to another relationship. DO one thing take sometime off and just go away some place by yourself and try and heal yourself. May be soem religious place , a beach or just travel for a while. May be you just need a break and time to think for yourself without being in to any kind of pressure. Before you leave your second hubby too- just take some time off from each other.

If you weren't completely over your ex, you never should have dated your husband, let alone married him. Is it reason enough to leave someone? Yes! By staying with your husband while still not being over someone else, you're pretty much using him and leading him on, which is wrong and unfair to your husband. You husband deserves to be with someone that truly wants to be with him and you're not that person obviously.

Why did you marry your current husband if you didn't love him the way you could have loved him? I think, when you answer that question, you'll answer your true questions. I don't think anyone can answer the question of whether you should leave your husband with the exception of yourself.

why did you get married knowing you had unresovled issues with your ex??? when you still have feelings for someone i don't think is fair to start something new with someone else. that just compuzzles everything. it's like putting another bandade on an open wound that hasn't healed yet.

so you are married and you cannot forget your EX... great.. My advice is this You are married and you are living with your Hus. Past is past. you have some responisibilit yover him. You have to forget your EX and live a happy life with your Hus.. I question. If am not hurting your feelings.. How is your HUSs behaviour towards you? Are you satisfied with that?

Ok so your married? but you still have feelings for your ex? your ex husband or boyfriend? Question ... how long have you been married for?? These are all things that should have aroused when it came time to say your vows. not so long into your marriage... The questions you should be asking yourself are... "do i love my husband?" " Am i true to my vows? is he true to his?"

I assume you're thinking of leaving your husband in order to try to get back together with your ex. So a major thing for you to consider is the availability of your ex. Have you checked? Maybe he has a girlfriend or a wife. Maybe he has moved on and gotten over you. I'm not trying to make you feel bad. I'm just saying you might leave your husband for nothing. Are you ready to accept that -- escape an unhappy marriage but be alone since your ex is no longer available? If I was in your husband's situation, I wouldn't want to be with an unhappy wife. But if she's willing to try and make our marriage work, then I'm certainly willing to do my part as well.

This is truly a terrible situation. I must ask this question. Why did you marry this man to begin with if you had unresolved issues with your ex-husband? I might also say this as well, you say you had a special connection with your ex-husband that your current husband doesn't share with you. Are you sure that connection is so special? If it was, why are you divorced? The bond couldn't have been that strong to keep you and your ex together. I know I sound harsh, but this is very important and your not the only one involved in this situation. You married your husband for better or for worse, you committed your life to this man. You should not leave him based on this. I think honestly because I have been in this situation, that you have issues in your marriage right now and that you are looking to the other side of the fence thinking it wasn't so bad over there. It must not have been so good either because you left that situation. I would resolve the issues with your husband rather than cause more by bringing in unnecessary feelings for your ex-husband, this is a very dangerous situation you are in emotionally. Honestly, you should concentrate on working on your current marriage, once you deal with these problems and overcome them as a couple, I think you will look back on this situation and have a different viewpoint. You cannot look into the past and think could've, would've, should've. Your future lies with your current husband. I know that may not be the answer you were seeking, but this is how I feel, I hope your not offended! Take care and good luck.

Sorry to hear the state youre in and i can well imagine things are not easy and smooth for you. Firstly, do you love your ex or your hubby more? Are you happy with your hubby and are there other major problems brewing up too? Are you still seeing your ex, as you have said that your husband is aware of this. What i feel is that there should be complete transparency in a marriage and honesty, whihc forms the firm foundation, upon which two individuals share their lives with each other too. So there would be no harm, if you can sit and talk out things with your husband , as am sure he also would be aware that youre feeling this ways, as maybe it would be showing in your physical relationship as well. So talk to him, seek his advice too, and i feel that if you honestly love your ex more than your hubby and what feelings you have for your ex dont exist for your hubby then maybe theres no point carrying on with this relationship at all. Issues of kids comes in too, if you have any kids, or anything like that, then you woul d have o rethink on many issues, as its not very clear in the discussion. But all i can right now suggest is to talk things over, and turn your heart over to rethink before you take any major step too.

my question is do you still love your husband? do you have kids or someone that its possible to be affected if ever you broke up with your husband,what the reason why you marry him if you dont love him and still inlove with your ex. there a lot of things that need to consider,and in the end your the one who wil decide, but make it sure you wont regret.sometimes we keep looking and want of what we what and doesnt think about what others want, or mybe we hurt some people becouse of what we want. i think you need to have a conversation with your husband and if you cant live your life with him and its your decission. god luck dear. i hope things will get better.

learn from what you said above ,only seem to all that you are right and your current husband don't understand you ,you still miss your ex.,actually i think you are too confident about yourself ,even you leave your husband now,you will still feel not good ,the most importance you adjust your feeling and try to think in other role

Well if this is causing you saddness then be honest about it. I think we can really love people in life in different ways. I know my first love was intense and we had a bond I never found before or since. I don't think that means he was the one for me however. I think that love and what I want from it changes with time just like everything in life. Just make sure that you are not just wanting what you dont have.