how to deal with a bully classmate?
By izathewzia
@izathewzia (5134)
Philippines
September 28, 2007 6:04pm CST
My daughter studies in one of the private schools here in our city. She is doing fine in her academic subjects and extra-curricular activites.
She enjoys the school playground and other facilities. She gets along well with most of her classmates. Except for one-her bully classmate!
He is such a big, spoiled and unruly boy. He always snatches my daugthers food, pulls her ponny tails, pushes her on line or while sitting on her chair, writes on her books, and many more.
I already told my daughter's teacher about it. But she just gave me a word that she is trying her best to protect my daughter. And that she can not easily stop the bully brat since his parents might complaint also.
I am afraid my daugther wil be traumatize by her experiences with this bully brat. Everyday she has stoires how she is being bullied. I pitty my daugther. What shall I do?
11 responses
@elean6785 (96)
• Philippines
29 Sep 07
You have to teach your daughter to fight back. "Don't let anyone pushes you around."
If they know that you're to weak to fight back they'll keep bullying you
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@elean6785 (96)
• Philippines
30 Sep 07
In some case, yes but not all the time. They always say don't mind tem(the bullies)and they just go away. Most cases they won't. If it's too much she has to be strong for herself.
You're not teaching your daughter to be bad or something, you just need to teach her how to protect herself.
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@smints8985 (1594)
• United States
29 Sep 07
Is it possible for you to be able to get in touch with the boy's parents?
They should be alerted about their son's behavior.
Afterall they are the ones who are accountable for his doings.
The teacher can only do as much in keeping order in class but the parents are the ones who can really have the talk with the kid.
I hope everything works out for the best for you and your daughter.
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@williamjisir (22819)
• China
29 Sep 07
Could you ask the head teacher to help move either your daughter or the bully boy from sitting close to each other so that your daughter feels better?
It is really very annoying to have such a bully brat to bully his classmate. I am sorry to hear that and hope that the head teacher will do something to stop it from happening again.
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@williamjisir (22819)
• China
29 Sep 07
Yes, that will be the last step you will adopt, but I still think that it is better for you to talk about to the teacher again before you go the headmaster. Anyway, I hope that this will be settled soon with your effort. Good luck, friend.
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@izathewzia (5134)
• Philippines
29 Sep 07
Thanks for the concern. I am afraid her teacher will ot do something, and so my next step is to go to the head.
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@jcyap888 (721)
• Philippines
1 Oct 07
i think ou can complain at the principal office and tell them to change the section of your child, to avoid this bully kids, it will make an attention for the principal that their is a bully in the class so what the teacher can make any discipline for that kid. eventhough the principal might call the parents of the bully kid.
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@gradyslady (4054)
• United States
13 Oct 07
I used to get bullied by the rich kids, I pretty much ignored it though...but sometimes it's hard, my friends would always would say stuff back to them. Even if you tell on them, there's nothing much that happens, it sucks too.
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@varunkrishna007 (1909)
• India
30 Sep 07
I would probably make him understand that his actions are really hurting others,if he understands well and fine else complain to the teacher,usually by then he would have stopped bullying,if he still continues with the habit inform his parents let them treat his ill behavior,still if he continues take my words just THRASH HIM OFF
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@izathewzia (5134)
• Philippines
1 Oct 07
I wish it will be that easy. lol But I will certainly do something for my daugther's sake.
@izathewzia (5134)
• Philippines
29 Sep 07
That is also what I am thinking if the teacher failed to do something with my daugther's situation.
@catbvq (364)
• Philippines
29 Sep 07
This is one of my dilemma too, how my child is going to avoid a bully classmate. I've tried talking with their teacher, the bully's parents and just when I thought I've fixed everything, along came another bully. It's quite depressing but it's just one of the things our children has to deal with in school. I just pray that my child would not be physically hurt and that it will help to toughen her. I hope this is only a phase in her childhood. The best thing that I think we could do about this situation is to talk to our child, that if she/he feels threatened and in danger, she should call the attention of an adult - immediately. It's the only way to make her/him safe at that moment.
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@izathewzia (5134)
• Philippines
29 Sep 07
Yah, i am also talking to my daugther and explains her everything. Not to accept the situation as it is and let her be bullied all her life. But for her to understand and knows what to do.
@clamarco808 (312)
• United States
29 Sep 07
Some kids get very traumatized by bullying so don't just let it go. Talk to the principal for sure and if no one in the school does anything, then talk to the school board or Dept of Education. No one deserves to be treated like that!! It is abuse, no matter how hard you try to say that it's nothing more than kids in school.
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