Hi All, Would you call police on a family member?

No, I wouldn't. Regardless of the circumstances, I wouldn't. If one of my children is ever out of control enough that police come into the picture, then that's when they need my support and my loyalty more than ever. I wouldn't undermine their trust by calling the police.

I did and it was for theft and forgery. I did not prosecute but I think it scared the hell out of her because as far as I know she has not done it again.

It would depend on the circumstances. If things were out of control and the family member wouldn't listen, then yes, I would. If the person is violent, I would call the cops. We had a violent stepfather when we were growing up and we didn't think twice about calling in the law. Sometimes you just got to do what is best for all involved.

I do not know what I would do. As an adoptive parent, I would be wary because people would think that I did not love that family member as I would had had I given birth to him. My sons have never been in trouble other than getting a couple of traffic tickets for speeding or parking too long at one spot. My husband is also quite a nice day. However, if I could not handle someone in my family, either my brother, or a relative, I would try to call someone else in my family to help, and if all fails, then I would call the police and let them reason with him or her.

From experience, something this is what you have to do. i will admit that my mother called the cops on me numerous times when I was a teenager. My parents and I fought a lot and sometimes it woul dget out of line to the point I would lose control. The cops were called and I was told to leave the pemises or taken to the station for th enight. Either way, my parent shad called th ecops on me. Over the years my parenst relationship and mine have become so much better. I had to move out and get on with my life, but doing that have made things clearer in our family. I am thankful for the choices my parent smade and wouldn't change a thing. I needed a hard kick in the rear and I got it. I'm glad those days are over with. i am now a better adult for that. Sometimes, the worse thing you think you have to do is always something that turns out for the best. Keep that in mind.

I don't think you were wrong for doing it. You have to do what's best for people, and at that moment it was right.

Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do. I am sure he must have needed to have the police called on him. You have been thru so much this last week, he doesn't need to put you thru no more crap. He is grown, and needs to act like it. My husband had to call the police on my son before, I have threatened too call the police. My daughter has had to call the police on her 2 daughters before. It breaks your heart when you have to do that. These kids need to watch it, they will have kids just like them, and they will probably deserve it. Then we can say "Revenge is ours at last"....

No I would not call the police on my child for anything. Thats just something you dont do. And why did you do this? Why couldnt you take the time and work it out with him? Oh sure it worked out for you thats just cruel.

I think that it is ok to do that in certain situations. If a family member is doing something really awful, and especially if they could end up hurting someone else in the process, then I think that it is necessary to call the police sometimes. I think that if you just let them get away with everything, then you are really actually hurting them in the long run because then they will just continue that behavior, and it will probably just end up getting worse in the future if they know that you'll always let them get away with it. It's better to do what you have to do to stop the problem now instead of waiting and letting it get even worse.

I am so sorry that you had to do this. It had to hurt. But sometimes this is necessary to get their attention and make them realize that even though they are adults now, they still have to respect you. Especially, when they are in your house.

i would if i had too. my brother had the cops phoned on him by my mother once because he was threating the family

OH Definately... and have and will again!

hi, yea i have my dad and one of my sisters. I will do it need be on any family meber if i cant solve it myslelf. I think you did the right thing

That i think is a bad habbit according to the scripture or in my culture "Nigeria". Charity begings at home, the way you trained a child is exatly the way he will grow up (i.e in terms of mother and children). In terms of Family member i will do more than that if they can listen to my own words,i will him/her on the street for sure.

Oh definately...I have and I most definately will again!

If it worked for you and your son then who can say it was wrong? My kids always new when they were growing up that I would never cover for them if they did something criminal even if I had to call the police myself. I called the police on my brother when I was a teenager. My mother told me to drop the charges or she would lie to the police and have me sent to a home for girls. Figure that one out? I never have! I also remember a time when a gang of boys came to our house to beat my brother up. I was going to call the police but my brother begged me not too. But I scream and told everyone I was and ran in the house. The gang took off. My brother came running in and I had the receiver in my hand. My brother said sis if you call the police I will go to jail for something I didn't do. I believed him and I didn't do it. So it isn't that I am trigger happy when it comes to calling the police. But I do believe it is the only thing that has a chance of straighting people out most of the time. Not everyone needs that type of warning but for those who do then do it!

No you were not wrong, I would not have a problem calling the police on a family member if that was the only solution and they were listening to reason. However, a bit different for me, you see I live with an officer. But, even if that was not the case I would not have a problem making that call.Sometimes all it takes is a wake up call, hope everything works out for you.

Yes, I have called the police on my daughter's before. Once when I didn't know where my oldest daughter was at when she was about 14, they found her and brought her home. Then also on my youngest daughter when she was about 11, she was gone for about 24 hours and across state line. So I took advantage of this situation and used the courts to place her in a group home for 6 months. You didn't say how old your son is, but I think there are times when children leave us no other recourse but to call the police.

you were right! tough love. i'm sorry to hear about your loss and all of you will deal with it in your own way. hopefully your son will find another way.maybe talking to someone other then family might help. my prayers are with you.

Absolutely!!! I have a brother that has been in and out of jail all of his adult life and deservedly so. I wouldn't hesitate to report a family member who is breaking the law...especially if the crime involves harming another human being.I know that seems pretty cold to some people, but it is the right thing to do!!