love lost?
By tabymclay24
@tabymclay24 (51)
United States
October 1, 2007 7:23pm CST
i have been married for 6 and a half years and we have had our many ups and downs, and split up quite a bit. well the last split when we got back together i got pregnant bery shortly after reconciling and am pregnant again despite all the problems. i think well ican almost say i know my husband is cheating on me. or at least he acts like it. you know that i gotta to work late but never brings home any additonal money. wont even let em look at his cell phone and when i have has numbersd of local women in there taht he says he went to school with. well come on why talk to them now? he graduated almost ten years ago and didnt talk to them until we moved back to his home town and started having problems? he loves our daughter but only wants anyhting to do with her when he finds it convenient. he does provide but i cant go on living like this. being six months pregnant and always doubting. the way he acts he doesnt even want the baby that is on the way and that hurts so much. i had to beg him to go the the ultrasound with me and i think that if his mom hadnt started in on him that he still would not have gone. i mean i love him but not enough for all this. it would be alot easier if i worked and could actually do something about it i just have alot of complications with my pregnancies. i just dont know what to do anymore.
2 responses
@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
2 Oct 07
Taby, just in two of your discussions I can see why you posted the way you did in Lila's thread. At least know that people do sympathize and do care about how you feel and what you are going through. I was almost rendered speechless due to it, but I regained and I'm going to post on it.
You really should discuss how you are feeling and what you have seen with your husband. Its very serious and he does owe you some answers. If he tries a trust guilt trip don't fall for it. Remind him of the evidence at hand. If that doesn't get through, ask him how he'd feel if your cellphone had a bunch of guys' numbers on it. Sometimes, people need dramatic examples to get out of their apathy and this is no exception. You have to be strong and confront him about this.
If everything doesn't work out, then I would indeed recommend you leave the relationship. Its not worth your mental, emotional and even physical health to stay in the relationship if all of these issues are in it. I wouldn't stay in a such a comprising situation, that's why I recommended it. In the end, you have to make the decision yourself.
@tabymclay24 (51)
• United States
2 Oct 07
you know i have done all of those things to be told i am nuts and that its all in my head. if it were that easy to just pick up and leave i would have already. things are very complicated with kids and nt working and i am happy to be pregnant but also miserable about it i mean i have so many problems being pregnant that i cant work so i am just stuck and depressed about it all the time so you really cant win in a situation like this and until i can do something about what am i supposed to do just deal with it? allow it to go on?
@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
2 Oct 07
Keep confronting him about it. Thats the only other thing I can think of.
You'll definitely want more opinions on this, its quite a situation and I can only do so much with it in advising you.
@WiteNgtOwl (304)
• United States
2 Oct 07
I just want to say that I feel for you. Your in a situation that you dont know what to do or how you feel. I was in a simular situation with my x-husband. We would break up, get back togther and out pops a kid. I left him 8 times befor I called it quits. I had no trust in him. He worked late and still no money. He abused me and I had no friends. So when is enough enough? Breaking up is hard expecailly after 2 kids and 10 years later. But I'm alot happyer and I have a new husband that treats me so much better. Your in my prayers. If theres no trust, there is no marrage. I'm here for you if you need to talk.
~WiteNgtOwl
