If a kid rear with no father around, would this affect his personality?

this is very true, varunkrishna. however, the mother can find ways to fill the void. a good way sahll be to expose the kids to an uncle who comes from the motherside this week, then one who comes from the fatherside the next. the critical times will come in though, when the kids shall be around twelve till the critical teenage years. i can still remember that there were nights when i would cry because i am in the dark as to how to deal properly with my sons on some issues. i would call my husband during these times and then he can talk my kids then. there was a time when i specifically asked him to come home. his kids need him now, i said. he was working then in singapore (we are living in the philippines), so he had to secure a one month leave of absence from his job. it was good enough that it was granted.

Ohhh..hope you read all my statements there buddy furqanoops. *smile* I am not separated because of fight. heheh My hubby was working at the other place which was away from our place. We are very much thinking about our childrens future buddy. That's why we needed to decide in accordance with the opportunity laid upon.hehehehe*wink*

Hello nishdan. :) Thank you so much for the suggestions you gave. Yeah I am thinking right now that I should take one of your opinions. Maybe we should try to find another job which is nearer here in our place, or we can move on to his place too. But the problem there is the school it's so far from the place where he stayed. Since our kids were going to school already. He is in the monitoring section of the plantation of Dole products. He stayed at the middle of that plantation. It takes 30 mins. walk to get out of the compound and 30 mins. ride to go to their town where their school located. Unlike here it is only a walking distance to go to school. It took only 4 to 5 mins. walk. Maybe you're right that God gives special ability to these kinds of children. He is somekind of a fast learner kid. Sometimes we call him a genius kid coz he is operating computer at his early 5 years of age. I do gave him his schedule for using computer but of course with my guidance. I gave him an hour for using it. Time to time I am checking him on where he is in.*smile* Thanks for coming on my discussion nishdan. Hope to hear from you more. *wink*

ooopps..I was talkin' about my son there.*smile* My girl is a girly girly one.*wink* She loves to be with her friends yet somekind of a picky one in term of making friends. :)

Ohhh that's nice. Hope my kids will grow up like yours too. Hope they can understand what their father did for their future...(sigh) Anyway, thanks for coming by on my querry debs_place. I really appreciate it. At least I have still the reason to calm down on my worries.:)

Yeah you're right swetharani. My daughter is more attached to his father. There is no day that she may not ask me about her father. :( I am worried about my son coz he seems to be soft kind. Is there any possibility that he may become a gay? Everynight, when they hug and kiss me for goodnight I had observe that they tap their pillows saying "goodnight papa" before lying down. That caught my attention so I started worrying about them. :(

Ohhh..thank you so much for that suggestions buddy programer.*smile* It's ok buddy, I'm a 'lil bit ok now, I was just worried on it so that's why I honestly got fears for what will happen next. But anyway, thank you so much for those wonderful opinions and suggestions you gave me. I seriously take it buddy for the betterment of my kids' future. I am very much pleased for your existence here on my discussion.*smile* Many thanks buddy programer.^_^

Ouch! It really hurts me.*cries* Yeah it should be both, I guess. My hubby still communicate us. But I guess his presence is important though. He only came home once a year or twice. So that means we only be together at that times and his vacation only lasted for a month or almost 2 months. I need your views on it buddy theprogramer. Is it helpful to have him once a year or twice? Or, Is it really a need for him to stay? If he stay, he may lose his job.:(

Well at least he is communicating and that is much more than what I described. I feel as if there is at least some involvement and some communication at least in circumstances like yours Cris then its better than having no input from him. I didn't want to make you cry, I was just posting what I've seen and read about in my experiences. Also, your husband should keep his job as he is doing it in the positive role I described at the end of my post. If you can, at least make sure there are some loving caring adults both male and female in your progeny's lives (and make sure you are the most outstanding one since you are the only parent physically present). Have your husband communicate with you and the kids when he can. I wish you and your family the best and even beyond that. I'm sure things will turn out alright as long as you do what is required and keep together.

Ohhh how nice trinidadvelasco.*smile* Yeah in our case, our photo albums were at the living room so they can see their father's pic as always. I remember that when some of our friends came to visit in our house they proudly introduced their father's pic; and I am like, "Ohhhh.." somekind of a touchy feeling, right? My son is going to school now as kindergarten student so he is active socially and sometimes we took a visit to my cousins whom just older than them a 'lil. At least I can see that they were okay socially, but I am still worried about the other aspects. (sigh) Anyway, I am thankful that you dropped some of your views here on my discussion friend trinidad. For those views I may say, I can still hold on. Thank you so much friend.*smile*

Ohhhh..my knees were trembling now buddy wisedragon.:0 (sigh) I understand their situation. Hope they can find some love from their family members for at least they can feel that they are important though. They were just like that maybe because they were lack of attentions from their beloved? Gosh! How sad it is. I don't really like my kids to be like that honestly. I am the one who is diciplinarian in the family 'coz their father is a spoiler though. heheh But as what I had observed my kids are not noisy, rowdy nor irritating. Maybe because their father always remind them to be a good boy and girl for he is away from us. Well, he still communicate us through our new divices today(cp). The only prob is his presence. I really appreaciate your presence here wisedragon for me to ponder things like that were important for my kids future too. Thank you so much wisedragon*smile* Ohh by the way, I like your username "wisedragon" *wink *smile*

Hi there friend pye! It's my pleasure to have you here droppin' some views of yours. *smile* Yeah he comes back once a year or twice and stayed for us in a month or sometimes almost 2 months. Those were the time that we were together again. Yeah I agree that if the father left in their later years, it will be quite hard. It is because they got bonded already. It surely missed them. How nice of you that you grown up strong and smart. I salute yah for that girl.*wink* Hope my kids will grow like you too. :) Thanks for sharing your views on it pye. It eased the worries inside me.(sigh) *smile*

Wenrui friend, welcome to my discussion. It's nice to have you here. *smile* Yeah that's what I think too. That is why I am so worried. *sigh* Thanks for droppin' by buddy.*smile*

Thank you for coming ashortho.*smile* Yeah I am thinking a lot and so worried. They have their uncles here too but I guess it is quite different as what I had observed 'coz their uncles wouldn't play with them like their father used to. We always calling their father but their were times that we could hardly contact him due to the weather there or here. Yeah I am happy ashorto yet not quite perfectly. *sigh* Thanks for your views buddy.*smile*