A cheating spouse, will you fight for him/her?
By kwenge
@kwenge (2487)
Kenya
October 3, 2007 3:44am CST
Imagine this; You were going for a business trip for 5 days, you have prepared well and everything is according to plan. Your spouse is really supporting you with plans and everything. You get to the airport together, say heartfelt/tearful goodbyes and even kiss, as you are boarding the plane he/she wipes tears with a handkerchief and gives it to you and tells you to take good care of yourself. You go with a swollen heart and missing your spouse. Ok you get to your destination, you sms each other I love you's and what not. Then the meeting ends abruptly 2 days earlier, you decide to go back home to suprise your sweetheart. Without even knocking you open with your spare key and lo! the first thing you see is a chain of clothes, you follow the trail to your bedroom and you get your spouse banging another person badly. That other person is wearing your clothes, your make-up and she is all over your house using everything you use. Gosh! what step will you take, remember you had a surprise in your hands, maybe flowers or gifts. What will you do? Fight for your love and the years you have been together (10 or more) or just walk away? Will you kick that stranger out?
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14 responses
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
3 Oct 07
I would probably go to jail for the sh*t I would do to them. I'd be throwing his stuff at them, probably kicking their @sses and getting them both out of my house and call a locksmith and get the locks changed immediately. Divorce proceedings would start the day after. COMPLETELY unacceptable. I'd probably burn whatever she touched. Or sell it if it was expencive.
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@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
3 Oct 07
Lol thanks. He knows, though my emotions aren't exactly understated. Passion goes both way lol. But, he was cheated on a lot by his past girlfriends, so he's not really likely to do it himself.
@kwenge (2487)
• Kenya
3 Oct 07
Gosh! Gloom, u sound soooooo mad. please cool down, it is not reality. Dont burn your things please, what if you burn some jewellery that you were given by your grandma as a souvenir or something? What if the house is not yours alone? maybe you both it together? Think about sooooooo many WHAT IFs before you react. But I understand, there is someone who murdered a lady because she found her with her husband and she never was jailed, she was freed by the court. Please dont try this.........lol.
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@kwenge (2487)
• Kenya
3 Oct 07
Gloom, u are sooo dangerous to be around, I wish I knew your husband, I could look for him and warn him not to ever even think of cheating on you coz he might face alot of consequences/suffering. But truly speaking Gloom, a cheater needs to be treated worse than that, it is sooo hurting when someone you love hurts you this bad. I wish happiness in your life.
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@sheenmadness (1286)
• Philippines
3 Oct 07
Hi kwenge,
I don't really know how to answer this one. But I have this swear to myself before that if ever i caught my husband cheating on me Hopefully not (crossed fingers). It will be definitely goodbye and there's no room for second chances. I have already given him his chance and he failed so I will not give another chance and hurt me again.
Maybe it is easier said than that is done. It maybe too painful and i know it will. I maybe cry a bucket of tears. It may seems like unbearable. But i will prefer this one than fooled myself believing that he still loves me. It is alreay clear when he chooses to cheat that he doesn't love me anymore and he isn't happy with my company anymore. So what's the use on fighting for that relationship when it is alreay a one sided love affair.
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@kwenge (2487)
• Kenya
3 Oct 07
Hi Sheen, how have you been my friend! About this issue you have said it as it is now, but in later ages imagine kids in have come in the picture, the bonding becomes abit stronger than it was and also family and friends. Things will have changed, also remember the vows you made. What will you do after all these?
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@sheenmadness (1286)
• Philippines
3 Oct 07
I think i can handle it just like my mother did. She was able to raised us up after their separation with my father. Imagine we are three siblings I am 8 i think at that time , my younger bro is 6 and our youngest sis.who is 8 mos. old at that time. And now she's already 16 and grows up a fine young lady.Though my mother recieved an allotment from my father (for our basic needs) but the fact that she raised us and molded us with the proper values i would say that she raise us well with a flying colors. :)
Though I am not really closing my doors to changes.But for the meantime, if that happens to me for real i think i will do exactly the same as what my mother did.^_^
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@kwenge (2487)
• Kenya
4 Oct 07
Sheen, am glad to hear that with your upright character and good nature is a product of a single parent. Am happy that have grown well and good mannered. Mothers are really angels. I cant leave my kids under the care of their father even if we divorce. most fathers are careless indeed. Thanks Sheen. Am proud of your mom and please take good care of her now coz there is no better way to pay her for what she went through raising you.
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@p3halliwel2005 (3156)
• Philippines
3 Oct 07
I believe if this happens to me..I'll go wild and hurt both of them so badly. And after doing that I'll leave this guy but not letting him get away with it I'll sue both of them for Adultery. People like this doesn't deserve a second chance. I might hurt the girl so bad and pull her hair and rip her clothes off and throw her out of the house. She deserves to be shamed. I hate two timers..they destroy relationships and families. It's as if they can't find anybody else for themselves. I hate it.
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@kwenge (2487)
• Kenya
4 Oct 07
Dear friend, you sound sooo disgusted about the whole issue, dont break your computer screen plz.....lol, what if the girl is innocent? what if your husband cheated her that this was his sister's home and she is out of town? considering that, can you call her a two-timer? if she knew that the guy is married then i support the hair pulling and cloth ripping. I will just munch her with my own teeth. she deserves to suffer.
@sherrir101 (3670)
• Malinta, Ohio
3 Oct 07
I walked out of an over 10 year marraige because of a cheating spouse. I told him to marry her. I felt devestated, but this wasn't the first time that he cheated in our marraige. It was the first time that I caught him doing it. Anybody who is that good at goodbyes, like the scene in the airport, is bound to do it again. This is strictly my opinion.
@kwenge (2487)
• Kenya
4 Oct 07
Sherrir, it is good to hear that you walked out of that marriage. You need to be hugged coz most ladies spend misserable lives in a marriage thinking that the cheating monster will change but it gets worse. Hope you have recovered and have strength to bring up your kids.I pray for you.
@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
3 Oct 07
I'd probably drop the gifts and go get something sharp or some firepower. Then we'll see how it goes from there. Of course I'd give them a 10 second head start if I tried that game. More realistically I'd throw them out and change the locks. I'd burn up all the gifts, scrapbooks and most of the crap she and her boytoy have been around. If I paid for her car, I'd be using it as kindling. All while watching, on a lawn chair, with some rum in a glass and having a stereo jam, "Die, dirty w****, die."
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@mariam74 (555)
• Egypt
4 Oct 07
What a bad situation, The first thing I'll shout and say to her get out of my clothes and go out both of you.
After that I don't think that I can continue my life with this person again so we must seperate because I can't bear to live with him again by anyway, I can't imagine that I even can talk with him again, he is kicked out of my life forever.
@anniepa (27955)
• United States
3 Oct 07
What my initial reaction would be, I'm not really sure but I do know it wouldn't be pretty! The worse part of it would be that it was in my home and in my bed, and she's wearing and using my things...that would clinch the deal, there could be no forgiveness or second chances in that scenario. And this comes from a woman who will be married 38 years in November!
Annie
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@lucky_witch (2707)
• Philippines
18 Oct 07
Wow that is too much... Bringing a mistress in my own house and using all my things and stuffs... Hmmm... well, I would knock and give them a smile. I will go to my husband and acts as if there is a dirt all over his body, then I will say..."Darling... how many times will I tell you not to play with garbage" Then I'll talk to the girl and say, "Excuse me miss... I believe youre in the wrong trash place... my house is not a trash can."
once the woman is out, its time to talk with my husband...
@dorisday1971 (5657)
• Philippines
4 Oct 07
I will kill them both! That's the most brutal I can think of right now. Anyway, under our law, the killing won't bring me to jail. It's one of the exceptions of committing a crime without going to jail. I will fight for my right, not for my love!
@MarieJ23 (1040)
• United States
3 Oct 07
If in case, I am bringing a cake as a present with some sweet notes in their, I am going to throw it right to my husband's face. Then take photos as evidence. Grab the my clothes from the woman/s body and guess what, maybe because of the adrenaline rush in me I may be able to wreck the clothes. With her naked I am going to let her out of the house. Once she is out, time to face my husband. I am going to let him give me his keys of our house and his car. Well if his the one paying for his car then I'll let him bring it, if not he should leave it. I will let him out of the house and throw his things out. After that I am going to call my lawyer and talk about annulment/divorce process.
For me, I won't really give second chances on someone especially my husband who is cheating on me. NEVER EVER! Fool me once but never twice. It wil be very painful I know but I also know time will just heal the wounds. Well, God forbid this heart-breaking situation to happen to my marriage (crossing my finger here).
I don't know if by law I can make him out of the house if it's a conjugal property but I hope I can. Or else if he has some pride left, I am sure he will leave voluntarily.
@nnezeky (3)
• Malaysia
4 Oct 07
I will walk away. There is no point to discuss and go hiding for couple of days and think about it. there will be 2 reason why our spouse having a fair with other guys. No. 1 is becouse of Ourself. we are not romentic, we are not fully taking care of her need either physical need or emotional needs. 2nd our spouse will having a fair becouse of she dindnt love you anymore, they have found a new love. The next action is depend on the result of those 2 reason above. If accident happened is becouse of your fault, we need to fight back to get your spouse, try to do anything, but pls not the stupid action. And if the accident happened becouse of their fault, leave them. there is no point for you to stay together with the person who is not love you anymore and dare to stab your back. Go and find other love.
@qiaodiyuzhimen (15)
• China
4 Oct 07
no,i will never hurt him,even if he betrayed me.Another argument would break our feelings more thorough,i would choose peace breaking up,i will not stay with a person who are not specificily
@Darkpunisher (10)
• United States
3 Oct 07
Well obviously the amount of years and love together with the other person meant nothing for the spouse, so why continue? i would kick the strangers butt and if i owned the house/apartment I would tell her to follow the way out.
