parenting rights

Both parents should have as much decision over it. I've seen plenty of cases where the mother has too much monopoly over the child and the father is actually a good person and really tries to spend time with the family (on top of all the other things he has to do). One thing I really disagree with is visitation during divorce. Plenty of mothers get custody and deny visitation to the father (but of course the monetary contributions only are okay -_-). And those fathers are pretty fed up with it, but the courts rarely enforce visitation fairly (and divorce for that matter). Heh, you should see Spiderman Dad if any of you haven't seen the site already.

I would think that a father who is living in the same home with the child should have equal rights AND responsibilities for the child. Whenever my children were small, I always encouraged their father to take them places without me, even if it were just for a walk around the block. It gave me some time to myself, to just relax and take a breather.

I think the father has as much right to the child as the mother does, as long as they are equally involved with the child. I can't imagine telling my husband that he couldn't take our child somewhere. My husband is very involved with our child, and I think he's an excellent father. I wouldn't try to override him just because I'm the mother. The only case in which one parent should have more control over the child than the other is of course if abuse of some type were suspected. However, in that case, the other parent should be trying to get the child completely away, not just keep the parent and child from being alone together. If the mother is just saying "I'm the mother so I get to decide" then frankly I think she's just being unreasonable.

Both are parents equally or should be. Children need BOTH parents! I am a single mom and just recently signed papers to withdraw a childsupport order in exchange for my ex being more involved with our 13 year old. I do not always agree with his rules and ideas on raising our daughter but I will and never have questioned him in front of our daughter nor would I ever question something so innocent as a trip to the park. In fact, it is our very differences and the fact that we both are dedicated to coming to an agreement about anything concerning her that offers her a great balance of both parents. When she wanted her nose pierced for example, I really am not against that...he was. He felt very strongly about it. I respected him enough to put my foot down to her. She knows that any and all decisions regarding her are going to be hashed out between us and we work together. So NO, this mother should not be dictating and controlling the dad's role in the child's life. She should be embracing it.

In such a case, it would be more likely that the mother is the one home looking after the child and so who knows the child's routine. If the father says he wants to take the child for a ride and the mother says no, it's probably because the child is about to have dinner, about to have a bath, is not well, etc. I do agree, though, that father's should have a say. I my experience (of myself and what I've seen of others) fathers often don't want to do things like take the child to the park, especially after a long day at work. And from what I've witnessed, those fathers who do take the time to do such things with their child are not met with negativity from the mother. Usually the mother is all for the father taking the child to give her a break. I know there are mothers out there who rule the roost and what they say goes, no matter what. But I think they are in the minority. As I said, most mothers are all for hubby taking the child/ren out.

Well i feel parenting is a art and it involve patience and preseverance, the best input can yield best outcome from the kids.

There are two ways you can interpret this. One way is asking permission from the mother.. and the other is telling the mother that he is taking the child out. The mother has a right to know at all times where her child is. Its not like the mother would take the child out of the house and not tell the father if the father was at home. But i do think that fathers have the same rights as mothers and I would like my husband to take equal responsibility for our child (when i have children).

Well, if the parents have a good relationship and the mother has a reason (child might be coming down with a fever or something), she should be able to explain that to the father. From what I understand, the mother needs an upper hand. Both the parents have an equal right over the child's interests (especially if both of them are involved in all aspects). I feel the parents need to sit and have a talk about how the father feels about all this. The father needs to put his feelings across to the mother and how it is affecting his relationship with the child. The child needs to bond with both the parents.

I think both parents should have equal rights with their child. One should not stop the other from takin the child out of the house. Unless of course it's too late a night or something like that but parents need to be involved in their childs lives 100%

Hey,hey,hey,guys,don't forget the child,before the parents have the decision,you'd better ask the child's opinion.Afterall,it's up to the child.Don't you think so?

the way i look at it wow i needed a break anyway i would love for her father to come and say tha!