Does it makes you mad when friends don't respond to your discussions?

@laurika (4532)
United States
October 4, 2007 9:16pm CST
I am trying to respond as many discussion every day as I can.Specialy to those friends, who are responding my discussions.But sometimes I just looking thorugh all those discussion(I mean,of one person) and would not find anything what would interest me.So sometimes I would not respond to their discussion and just hope they will understand this.I also trying to understand when somebody don't respond to mine a long time, becuase there might be no interesting discussion for them. So are you mad if I would not respond sometime to your discussions even if you respond to each of mine?Does it bother you??
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@goodsign (2287)
• Malaysia
5 Oct 07
I don't know to give the right answer, because I consider as I'm a newbie here. Anyway I think it does not affect me if my friends do not respond to my discussion. Maybe they don't have any good answer to make response. Or even if they hate me, what can I do?.
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@laurika (4532)
• United States
5 Oct 07
Welll you don't have any started discusson yet, so I guess you cannot be really mad.
@drannhh (15219)
• United States
5 Oct 07
Laurika, I don't get mad, but yesterday I did something new and went to my friend list and delete a few of them. If they want to be friends again, they will have to ask again. Sometimes I know that the Notify gets accidentally turned off, or they might not have familiarity with some discussion, or maybe they were banned, lol, but no matter, if they do not reciprocate after a long time, out they go. I was glad to see that one of your friends gave you a "second chance" though--as you are so good at replying, I thought your notify must have been off for that person.
@drannhh (15219)
• United States
5 Oct 07
There, you see? I knew there must have been some good reason why you put that "friend" on ignore. Yes, I am going to have to start thinning out the ranks a little more, too, not because someone does not make frequent replies, since I really don't start that many discussions anyway, but I think some people on my friend list have gone inactive or been gotten rid of. Of course, now there is probably someone saying the same thing about me. Oh, well.
@laurika (4532)
• United States
5 Oct 07
I deleted that friend already.I just don't feel to being here for somebody who would criticize me all the time.I think we have enough of that in our life and I am here for something other.
@laurika (4532)
• United States
5 Oct 07
I think more people should just get relax here.
@AmbiePam (93883)
• United States
5 Oct 07
I have all of my notifications on for my friends. And every discussion they have that I know I can contribute to, I answer. Including yours. If a friend posts it, I'll look for anyway to give a quality answer. I'm never mad if someone doesn't respond to my discussions, but I have people on my friends list, who requested ME as a friend, but have responded to maybe one of my discussions in the past 7 months. That does irritate me a bit. But just a bit. It really doesn't bother me in the long run. I'll keep on answering theirs. But if they don't answer mine, and they have quit posting their own, I'll delete them because then what would be the point?
@AmbiePam (93883)
• United States
5 Oct 07
That was rather rude of them. I'm surprised someone would be that bold.
@laurika (4532)
• United States
5 Oct 07
I think you have reason to be mad a little bit, since you have been here for 8 months and they answer only to your one discussion or so.Yeah, if they would quit posting on their own, where is the point.You are right my friend.I was just writing about somebody who was dissaponted about me, becuase I didn't answer all to the person discussion, since the person answer to all of mine.But I guess I am not so smart to write something about all the topics, what the person made.It made me a little angry when the person was reproach this to me.
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@cefaz_21 (2596)
• Philippines
5 Oct 07
No,It doesn't bother me at all,sometimes just like you I feel I cannot contribute anything on a friends discussion so I choose not to respond, and it's understandable that some of my friends don't rrespond to my discussions too,being friends doesn't mean you have to obliged them to respond to your discussions..:) happy posting!
@laurika (4532)
• United States
5 Oct 07
Thank you.I am glad you feel the same.
@ciades (1623)
• Philippines
5 Oct 07
No, it does not bother me. If you want to response its better if your not then i will understand. You can't please everybody here to response on your discussions. Even me, i choose topics or discussions to be respond with. We have choices dear..:)
@laurika (4532)
• United States
5 Oct 07
Yeah you are right we cannot please everybody.
• United States
6 Oct 07
Hi Laurika, Having friends is a good thing! Friends will help each other if and when they can, and if they decide they want to. They should not feel that they have to respond to all of their friends' discussions unless they are interested in the discussion, or if, they have something to contribute to the overall discussion. Just because you have a lot of friends, does not mean that you share exactly the same interests. You may share a lot of similar interests. But you may be interested in something that your friend may not be interested in, or they would prefer not to respond to, and that should be their choice. I feel that this a place where you respond to topics or discussions by choice. If you have the knowledge or experience to contribute to a discussion, then by all means respond to it. If it happens to be your friends' discussion, then so much the better, for both of you. So, if I come across a discussion that interests me, and I feel that I can contribute to it, then I will respond to it. If it so happens that this discussion belongs to one of my friends, so much the better, because now we have something in common. I truely hope this is not offensive to anyone. But, if we only respond to our friends' discussion, are we not limiting ourselves to little groups of discussion instead of the whole site? There is a lot of discussion in so many catergories that should be looked at to expand our interests and keep mylot interesting.. Happy posting..
@laurika (4532)
• United States
6 Oct 07
Thank you very much for your response.I agree with all you write.I am glad you feel it the same way as me.
• India
6 Oct 07
Not exactly mad but little bit sad. It is true being a human always expects response particularly from friends.
@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
5 Oct 07
I do not respond to all discussions and certainly I do not respond to all my friend's discussions because it might be that neither of us can give a good response to what the other one says. It does not make me angry, unless I only got one answer, and then I go searching for some more friends. And often the question on other end might be difficult to respond to without people thinking the worse of you, or you showing your ignorance. So if I cannot answer a post because I know nothing or little about the subject, I do not expect the other one to answer my post because she or he knows nothing or little about the subject.
5 Oct 07
Sometimes there are not enough hours in the day to respond to each and every discussion. I don't worry very much now if my friends don't all respond to my discussions, I know they are all buys people and will respond when they have the time
• Malaysia
16 Oct 07
I think it is okay for me. We cannot force our firends to respons on our discussion. They have differ interest. We have to respect their choices. If I want them to respons to my discussion, then I have to find a very good topic to start a discussion. Do you agree? But is is ashame for me, cause I never have any topic that atract more members to respons.... lol...
@youless (112586)
• Guangzhou, China
17 Oct 07
No, I won't be mad to it. As you know there are many reasons that people can't login Mylot. And if they have lots of friends, perhaps they are hard to find yours to reply to. I appreciate anyone who responds to my discussions. If not, it's OK and I don't mind it at all. Perhaps they are just too busy or my discussion are less attractive to them.
• China
5 Oct 07
No,i will not mad.though i am a new biee,but now i have many friends,they all superiors.now,i must learn for them,and i pespond as many discussion that they post too.and now i have few my own topic post.So,if i psst new topic,and they don't respond,i will not mad,mybe they don't like or have not interesting. I had better post more.
• China
7 Oct 07
when i in mylot ,first i will look through all my frends 's discussion ,if i feel the discussion what inerest me ,i will reopond to him or her .so like this,if my frend does not respond to me ,i think must be my discussion not very interestingto them .so if my frend does not respond my discussion , i do not fell mad.
• India
5 Oct 07
Laurika I agree with you.If we have no idea or words to respond to your discussion it is better not to respond to your discussion than responding to your discussion by writing silly responses.
@deebomb (15304)
• United States
5 Oct 07
No it doesn't bother me if those on my friends list don't respond to my discussions because they probably don't find some of my discussions to be to of interest to them. I don't always repond to all af their discussions for that reason. Some times it's the day and I don't feel like I can do some discusssions justus. Some days my brain seems to be in kindergarden mode.
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
5 Oct 07
I dont even think about it actually...but I dont always respond to all of my friends threads by any means...I only respond to threads that I find interesting etc etc so I'd be a fool to NOT respond to every thread of each friend on my list BUT expect them to respond to all of mine...
@sherrir101 (3670)
• Malinta, Ohio
5 Oct 07
Mad, no. Disappointed, yes. I leaf through the discussions of my friends. If I find one that I can respond to, great. But there are many that I don't even have a clue about, so I skip those discussions. I am sure many people do the same thing with theirs.
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
5 Oct 07
No, it is not the case, I feel all of my friends may not like all of my discussions or they may not be in a position to notice all of my discussions. So I do not mind if all or most of my friends do not post their replies to my discussions. Sometimes they may be busy also. I enjoy reading everyone's response irrespective of the fact, whether he/she is in my friends' list or not. If I feel that I have started an interesting discussion and replies are not forthcoming from my dear friends, I try sending them link to my discussion.
@buwald (271)
• Netherlands
5 Oct 07
i think that being friends does not neccecaraly mean you have to respond to their discussions, but its a way of sharing intrests, and making it more likely that you see each other's discussions. this is in no way, i think a reason to be forced to respond to every one of them.
@shadowing (308)
• Malaysia
5 Oct 07
Hi Laurika. Well, basically it's ok for me. Haha. I don't really mind about the response. The purpose for me to post is just to hear some feedbacks from people that have the same point of view. So, it's ok if I didn't get any feedback, maybe I have to improve myself to create a more interesting discussion. haha.