To Eat or Not To Eat?

I guess some people take offense if one doesn't eat something they've fixed for some kind of party or social gathering simply because of the belief that well, gee, I went through all this trouble to fix this you should eat it...I just can't help wondering if they've been in the same situation and they were the guests and they didn't want to eat something cause they didn't like it. I think people just have a tendency to think that if THEY like the type of food everyone does or should...Too bad your husband didn't say that he was allergic to some of the foods ...they might have understood that then

People do that to me all the time. They try like eighty times and I still say no so then they say things like no wonder you are so skinny. You dont eat and when you do you eat like a bird. Uh...sorry? I just dont want it. Excuse me. Who cares. It saves food. Better to save it then waste it. I dont think its rude at all. I think people should be understanding about it.

Hi BayleighGray!I know some people are just like that. Everything revolves around food! With my family they like to cook too and are always forcing food on you.LOL Geez I dont know what their problem is!LOL I really wouldnt worry about. You explained to them. What else can you do? My husband is a picky eater so my family knows that and they dont bother him.LOL

I'm sensitive too when it comes to food since I have food allergies. when I go to parties and I'm offered food that I can't eat, I respectfully says I can't eat it because I have bad allergies. and thank God no one had ever felt bad about it. but there are really people who feels bad when people refuse the food they offer. I think because they feel that they prepare and cook very good food that no one can refuse it just by the looks of it and anyone who taste it will be amazed and find it delicious. they have too much confidence on their food in short, and refusing to eat it is unthinkable! ^__^;; and maybe your husband is the only one who didn't eat the cake.

i have a story.three years ago,i went to my friend's family to attend a party,in the dinner,my friend make a cookie called potato salad,i didn't like it really,but i eat it and applauad it.and then,when i go to my friend's home,i have to eat potato salad every time,that is too bad. so,i think,if you don't like something food,don't eat it.only to make the host or hostess happy,that is a bad idea.

Yeah this is really something crazy.I am the same like your husband if I don't like something I am not gonna eat it, but why it should some one touch.Oh my god, you know people are sometimes worried about such a silly things.I cannot believe it.But I see you are not gonna explain it to your friend.When she didn't understand it once, she wouldn't never.The best what I can recommend you, nect time you will go the party, just starve your husband for 2 days and than he will eat like crazy.(just kidding)

I would not take offense but I would have asked him there and then if he is sure he did not want anything different if it was just a case that he did not like the Food I would have asked him what he likes and I would have made him something different if he wanted me to and that would have been it and if he still declined that then I would have accepted that to But some People do take offense at things like that I will say "Please do not be offended but I am not Hungry so I rather not" and if they can not accept that then there is not a lot more I can do xxx

I haven't experienced that kind of treatment here, as we are used to be a more undertstanding and hospitable host. We wouldn't take offense if someone didn't ate what we offer, as we understand the visitor might be feeling a little bit shy or uneasy. As long as the person is enjoying and have eaten atleast something, we wouldn't mind at all. You friend should not misinterpret such things, they should be more understandable and thankful that both of you have attented the celebration!;)

Mmmm, free food, you'd be beating me off with a stick all the best urban

Maybe some people feel like they are the best cooks in the world and are just knocked down a peg or two when someone refuses to go "whole hog". My family is that way. They take great offense when you don't try one of their homemade dishes. If I don't want it, I don't eat it. They'll get over it.

I understand both sides. Your hubby had the right to decline eating. I know there have been times when I have been on a diet it seems like everyone wants to feed you. Some people are really offeneded if you don't eat the food but I would rather decline in certain situations. My sister in law is a gourmet cook and I have had times when I have left their house and been sick all night from all the vinager she uses. She is sometimes offended but an good explaination should be accepted.

Well its like rejecting the person if you don't eat a lot or if you keep refusing food they cook. Some are so up there they'll take offense if you refuse food they didn't cook but got catered ("how dare you reject this homecooked food I ordered made!" =P). So basically its an ego thing. Other times people feel discouraged if they've spent hours, days, even weeks preparing some food and people refuse it. Sometimes people are not in the mood for certain things. I'll give foods a try though but there are times people really don't want to eat or maybe you are a bit under the weather and you don't want to eat for that reason. Its quite a situation though, because there are several variables involved.

Hey there! This is what I think. My family is real big on food as well. Huge in fact. We take pictures of the food before people lol. If someone doesn't want to eat the food that isn't a problem, what would bother me is that I had no idea they didn't like the food. I know you said that he wouldn't want them to bother making something especially for him, but honestly I would really like to know. Its my job as a host to ask what you can and can not eat and if I forget please tell me because I want you to eat and be merry. :) So maybe she wasn't offended in the least, maybe she just wished she had known so she could accommodate her guests. When I am eating mostly vegan food I always always say I will bring a salad and special dessert for everyone so that the host doesn't have to bother preparing anything special for me. And I tell them that I am not eating certain things right now. Normally if I say something in advance then it is ok. OH and I have to remind people, we are not here because of the food, we are here because of YOU! We want to spend time with YOU it doesn't matter if I eat or not. It is kinda funny how we relate to food when spending time with another person. I don't need food as a buffer. All I need is you!

In my country, it's offensive if our guests would not take the food that was prepared for them. But, personally, I would understand my guest if he said that he had aleady eaten and he's full or that he is sick and can't take anything at that time. Probably, it just depends on how he would explain the situation to me. If he would just simply wave the food away, I would feel that he sees the food I'm offering disgusting and then I would never ever invite him to any of my parties again.^^

good discussion bay!:-) i have a similar problem in parties. people dish out stuff at me and expect me to finish them all. it seems that they feel insulted when their food isn't finished. my problem is, i eat a lot and i love to eat, yet i also gain a lot of weight in the process. many times i attempted to get on a diet, but when these parties come and my well-meaning hosts sort of "demand" that i eat their food, i can't resist. they just can't seem to take the reason that i am on a diet, telling me that a party should not be the time to be on a diet. now i have a problem with my weight--it just keeps increasing!!! ugh ! and i couldn't seem to stop eating!

Some people dont eat because they are shy. So that become a generalised statement that ppl wont eat much if they are shy & so they try to force..

Not only are some people shy, nervous or particular, but some people have dietary restrictions due to health, religion or wanting to lose weight. They may have been afraid that he wasn't having fun or something. I personally see no problem with someone not eating. In smaller get togethers you can call the guests to get any dietary restrictions, its more difficult in a larger scale affair so I think they could have been more understanding.