you think cheaters should ever be forgiven???

hey that happened to me! dyah know what i did? i forgave him... i loved him so much back then that i couldn't imagine my life without him.. so i gave him a second chance..i thought if God can forgive the most sinful sinners why can't i forgive?.. but then again he did it.. stupid love.. but i didn't regret what i did.. anyway i managed to tolerate the pain until the second time around.. there's not gonna be a third chance and that's it.. we were over. then i got into another relationship again and that time i was the one who cheated.. i made a mistake and i was so sorry.. after few months my 2nd boyfriend forgave me for cheating on him it turns out that he still loves me.. what goes around comes around..i got a second chance!! now we're still together and happy even though we're far from each other..

This doesn't answer your question but it may be food for thought. If one is able to forgive a partner for being unfaithful, could you ever trust this person again...could you trust that this person would be faithful in the future?

For me it would depend on a bunch of things. My partner & I are not quite in an open relationship but we're open to the idea that at some point we may want to explore that idea. So if he were to say to me before it happened it was something he was thinking about, we could decide what to do with it from there. But I guess that's not quite the same as cheating. If he had a 'fling', a one time incident- I'd probably get over that pretty quickly. We've been together a long time, we have a life together that I very much enjoy & I'm not throwing everything away because humans are weak by nature. If he had an affair- something that went on for a period of time, where emotions were involved, etc- I'd see it as time to end the relationship. I'm not going to compete or think that I was somehow lacking & that lead to it.

why not for the 2nd chance.. but if he do it again then it's time for u to let him go.. listen to your heart, if u love him still then give him another chance..

i believe everybody deserves a second chance but if they ever do it again, i'll punish them in the name of the moon lol

Oh yes, they may be forgiven. But a second chance... well, for me, nope. No more chances. I can forgive, but I cannot live a miserable life not trusting my partner each and every day of my life. Once the trust has been broken, for me, I can't bring it back all over again.

yes i do Forgiveness is not a feeling. It is a decision to quit holding something against someone. When we forgive we must release them and forget it.

I don't think cheaters should be forgiven. If he/she is really sorry for that misdoing and really promises to do no harm, then it can be thought. Otherwise I can't forgive a cheater.

To be honest, No! :-) I don't know about others but I strongly feel that cheaters shouldn't be forgiven. What is the guarantee that he/she won't cheat on you again? Well if I was married and I found out that my partner was sleeping around with someone else I would not have pardoned him since he breached my trust. In addition to that, even if I did forgive him somewhere; deep down in my heart there will be slight doubt over his loyalty towards me. I just can't entertain cheats. :-)

why do you want to forgive your partner who had been sleeping with someone else? does your partner love you? if he or she does, why sleep with other people? also, you should know that will you still love he or she after that cheating? image that you forgive he or she, are you afraid of been cheated again? maybe you will figure out whether to forgive or not when you answer those questions.