Should both parent be tough on their children

I agree with Terri_R, I believe that instead of being overly strict, it mis much more important to be consistent with dealing with the child. As early as that age, let him understand the concept of right and wrong. Be firm with your judgement when he is doing wrong and be affectionate and show your love to him all the time, make him feel good or reward him when he does good. I believe that the trick is in being consistent, when the child sees the pattern, he will understand. Instead of thinking whether or not mom should be the strict one and dad the mellow one, both should share that equal responsibility of nurturing the child and at the same time disciplining the child. So that noone will look bad in the child's eyes because if mom becomes the disciplinarian and dad the spoiler then the child would grow up thinking that his mom love him less the his dad.

I think instead of both of you being strict, it's okay for one to be more strict than the other as long as both of you are consistent. If one says "no" firmly, then the other should stand by the decision. What my husband & I do is that when I say "no" and get angry, the kids run to my husband. He'll cuddle them or hug them, but he still gently reaffirms my decision.

Adesambest, I don't know about strict, but definitely united and consistent. The two of you should sit down and discuss what's really important and then agree on a plan of action. Kids are kids and will push their boundaries as far as they are allowed. It is up to the two of you, as parents, to define those boundaries and enforce them. Many peoople complimented me on how well behaved and polite my children were when they were children. If they spent much time with us it wasn't long before they were telling me we were too strict on them. My response....They are well behaved and polite because that is what we teach them consistently.

yes of course but limit your strictness because if it takes over then i am sure your son will rebel to the both you guys... it is always good to be strict but dont take it too much so that he won't think of anything bad for himself... i am sure that it is hard to reprimand kids especially with boys but you can control it... that depends upon the brought up of a kid from his parents... you know... he'll become a good son if the parents are good too..

I think it doesnot necessary.My parents are not strict on me.I know what is right and what is wrong.Too strict may have negative effect.Since we child at that age have counterreactional tendency.do you think so?