Are you afraid of losing your parents/lovers one day?
By Andy Liu Zn
@andyliuzn (1029)
Guangzhou, China
October 6, 2007 10:04am CST
I would be sad whenever I think that some days, my beloved parents will pass away. What's worse, I had quite little time with them after my high school since I had high school and colleague and then work in other cities.
I do love my parents and I don't really like to think that they will go one day. But it has to be like that one day. What I am thinking now is I should work hard and earn enought money so that my parents don't have to work any more and they could enjoy themselves in my hometown. Or I will buy a big house in the place I am working and ask them to live with us. I do hope I could go home often though it is hundreds of KMs away.
I really hope my parents could keep in good condition and live happily every day. And I would pray every day that they live to nineties or a hundred so that I could have enough time to accompany with them when I myself become old enough.
What about you? Have you got some feeling of being afraid of losing your lovers?
With kind regards
Andy
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23 responses
@ssh123 (31073)
• India
6 Oct 07
It is inevitable for every human being to lose his dearest and nearest one day or the other. By Preparing one's mind about this inevitability, one should not become too much emotional and I have found that more I love them, the quicker they disappear from me, so I do not show my love and affection and I know and they know that I love them. Thereby I have carved a new theory of having them for longer period. I know it is not true, but for my own satisfaction I believe in this theory.
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@andyliuzn (1029)
• Guangzhou, China
6 Oct 07
Hi Sadaananda,
That's a good point of view. But I couldn't help feeling sad whenever I think that I couldn't live forever with them:(
Anyway, thank you for your kind words and I hope every one could live happily with their family and friends, healthily and longly.
Andy
@cutieweii (374)
• Malaysia
6 Oct 07
I believe nobody would wish to lost their beloved parents. Just imagine how many hardship they went through in the journey of bringing us up. Most of the time they are our role model. They made us who we are now as well as what we have now.
I have the same feeling as you, ie. afraid of losing them very much! The fact is cruel, no matter how we love them, they might still leave us one day! So, appreciate and take good care of them when they are still here.
Even though I'm working and staying outstation, I would pay them a visit at least twice a month. I'd also ring them often to provide updates to them. I can see the happiness in their eyes and smile everytime I visit them.
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@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
6 Oct 07
At first, I was like you. But later on realized that I learned and understood much about reality in life, it's better to be ready than lose everything in the end. I am not afraid nor fear losing them in the near future, because that's the way life goes. Everything has an ending, though I might get sad when that time comes. But as of now, I am hoping and praying that we still be with each other for longer time.
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@smints8985 (1594)
• United States
6 Oct 07
Yes I must say that that is the one thing that I fear the most.
I know that it s a fact that each one of us would depart from this world one day, but the thought of it happening to me first-handedly, I have a hard time trying to imagine. I fear it really, waking up the next day without my parents, though life goes on it will never ever be the same without them around.
I just lost my Grandmother 2 weeks ago, and recalling on that event still makes my heart ache, it could not sink in the fact that she is gone. Sometimes I do feel like she's just at their house but when we do things together that reminds me of her I cry.
I am very afraid of this thing to happen.
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@Mirita (2668)
• United States
6 Oct 07
Well, is nice that you are thinking about the future ,but try to do spent some time with them now even if you don't have too much to offer them. I lost my mom when I was only 22 years old ,so it was very painful but I still can feel her energy. I lost my dad 12 years ago ,but at least he was able to enjoy more in life. My advice is not to think too much of the future and just spent time with them now.
@Amberina (1541)
• United States
6 Oct 07
I never want anyone I love to die, it's a very hard thing to go through. I do know that I will see them again if they did die before me. I'm sure there is something out there that made us and there is life after this one I'm just not sure what it is. LOL. I guess I'll find out if my feelings are right or not when I die....
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@kgwat70 (13387)
• United States
7 Oct 07
I am afraid of losing my parents eventually as they mean so much to me and love them greatly. I know I will have a very difficult time for a while after they have passed but will realize that they would want me to move on with my life and do well. I try and spend time with them each week since they are getting older and do not know how much time I will have left to spend with them. They have done so much for me over the years.
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@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
7 Oct 07
I think we all are. Most people love their parents and of course it will sadden them even just thinking that they will not always be with us.
I have lost my birth mother - although I never really lived with her - and my adoptive father. But I still have my birth father and my adoptive mom. I wish I can still have them for many years, and yes the thought O loosing them saddens me too.
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
6 Oct 07
Oh, my dear andy. I do have the same feeling as you do. I didn't know that I am not the only one who is worried about that. I am sorry that I am working so far away from my old parents and cannot go back to see them very often. I have always been worrying about that and I don't hope that it will ever happen. To my great happiness, my parents are enjoying themselves very much and they don't have any big health problems and I could say that they are living happily as well as healthily, which makes feel relieved quite a lot. I miss my parents and wish to enjoy their longevity. May my and your parents and all the parents live long and healthily. Thanks very much for your nice topic, which is what I want to say as well. Thanks again, andy.
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@andyliuzn (1029)
• Guangzhou, China
6 Oct 07
Hi Bro. William,
Thanks for your kind reply, and I do find you and I have so many things in common. Let's wish our parents could live long and healthy and also the other elders could be well taken care of and respected.
Thanks. Andy
@galoforce (263)
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7 Oct 07
though i will be sad, im not afraid as everyone goes at some time though i hope it doesnt happen too soon.
@MarieJ23 (1040)
• United States
7 Oct 07
Losing my parents is one of the greatest fears I have in my life. I just really love them so much and I have a close-knitted relationship with them. I am very far away from them right now but I make it sure that I know their condition there and they know how my husband and I are doing here in the US. I am hoping and praying for a healthy and a longer life for them because I still wanna have more years with them. I still want them to see my kids (hopefully God will give us one). However, rest assured that I am also aware of that fact that we don't hold our life and one day it will be gone.
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@kiobug (2250)
• United States
7 Oct 07
This is a sad topic for me in the sense that I cant really imagine life without all the people I have in it. If I lost my boyfriend I think I would die. As for everyone else well it sounds harsh but I think I would just be desperately upset and take along time to get over it.
@luckycharm15 (70)
• Philippines
7 Oct 07
hi andyliuzn! you know, i feel the same way. when i was still a kid, i remember those times, in the middle of the night, when i will find myself crying, because i'm afraid of losing my parents one day. during those days, i kept on telling my mom and dad that i don't want them to grow old and leave me alone. i am an only child, and is so attached to my parents and i don't think i can afford to lose them. like you, i also would like to earn a lot so that my parents would no longer have to work. hope one day we'll be able to conquer this fear, because it's only normal. and let us remember that our loved ones will be watching over us wherever they may be, especially when the time comes when we no longer have a choice but to say farewell to them.
@rogue13xmen13 (14402)
• United States
6 Oct 07
Losing my lover, yes, losing my parents, I know that they will have to go eventually.
@pagli84 (1850)
• Netherlands
7 Oct 07
i think about it a lot actually. im so afraid to lose anyone i love, but especially my mom. i dont know what i would do without her. sometimes when i cant sleep late at night, i start to think about life and all kinds of different things. well, this topic sometimes comes up, and i always end up crying myself to sleep. i cant imagine what it must've been like for others who have already lost one or both of their parents. im also afraid to lose my bf, but i think i would cope a bit more about losing him than someone in my family because i might be able to fall in love again but i can never replace anyone in my family. that's not to say i wouldn't be upset if i lost my boyfriend. of course i would be. i'd be devastated because i really love him a lot.
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@wisedragon (2325)
• Philippines
6 Oct 07
I feel exactly the same way. I hate the thought that some day my parents will pass. I love them very much and I will do my best to take care of them in their old age.
@laurika (4532)
• United States
4 Nov 07
I am sure each of us would be sad when our parents will pass away, but how you said life is like that.I can't imagine it either, but we will have to get used to it one day.but it is really nice you think about how to spend more time with your parents.There is so much people out there who never has times for their parents or for their kids and when they pass away or like kids grown up, it is little bit too late to think about it.Hope you will have many nice moments and memories with your parents.
