Another Update
By CaitBaby
@CaitBaby (446)
United States
October 6, 2007 2:11pm CST
For those of you who have been keeping up with the saga, my father has lost his mind, I believe. He has given me two options. I could alternate weeks, staying with my mother one week, and then staying with him the next and having no contact with my mother's side of the family. If I don't do this he's going to drop all parental rights. That means I won't get any money from him - no insurance, no inheritance, no child support...nothing. He wouldn't have anything to do with me whatsoever. So pretty much it's all or nothing for him. I can't believe a father would be that willing to give up on his daughter. He's just angry because he knows I won't let him get away with the things has done to me and the rest of the family. Some of you know about the fake myspace profile he made of me, and how he abused me when I was little. So do I give up the needed money or continue to fight??
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@kiobug (2250)
• United States
7 Oct 07
Technically, at your age, he is still legally responsible to pay child support. I would give him a talk about what he needs to do as an adult but he also shouldnt be allowed to see you for awhile I think. He should learn to appreciate you as a daughter. You know the whole you dont know what you have until its gone thing. He needs to grow up. Hope you work it out.
@CaitBaby (446)
• United States
14 Oct 07
You are exactly right! Thank you! I wish that somehow I could get it through his thick head that he is acting like a child and that since I am his daughter, he should not be so willing to just give me up. I haven't done anything to make him do this. I just don't understand. Hopefully everything will work out for the better.
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
7 Oct 07
Well, just because your father might pay for some things does not mean that he loves you any more or less. That's just the way he is and if you want to be a part of his life then it looks like it's going to be on those terms. I have read some of your other posts, and don't feel that he is going to show you the love and respect that you deserve - money or no money. If it was me, I would distance myself from him until he is mature enough to be a father to you. I don't know that emancipating you is the answer - my first husband threated my kids with that at one point too (he was also abusive) but they stuck it out and they have an OK-ish relationship with him now. You gotta follow your heart though...
Best of luck to you!
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@CaitBaby (446)
• United States
14 Oct 07
You are right, although I don't know if will ever mature. I have hopes for him though. What I am worried about is my mother. I don't want her to have to struggle to support me. Oh well, things will work out eventually. Thanks for your support!
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@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
7 Oct 07
I wouldn't spend any time with someone that abused me and set up a fake Myspace profile. I think he needs some mental help. I don't know how old you are or if the support is court ordered but if you are a minor and it is court ordered he has no choice but to pay it. A judge won't let someone drop their parental rights just to get out of paying support.
**AT PEACE WITHIN**
~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
@CaitBaby (446)
• United States
14 Oct 07
Yes you are right. I talked to my lawyer the other day and it turns out he can't give up his parental rights without my consent. I am a minor, and I was worried that my mother would have to support me on her own. I don't want her to have to struggle. Now I'm torn between whether or not the money is worth having him as a part of my life.
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@Flight84 (3048)
• United States
7 Oct 07
I'm really torn about this actually. In a way, I think you and Mama should continue the fight, but on the other hand, it would be over if you just had him give up his rights. Of course, knowing him, it will never be over. I'm sure he will still be running his mouth no matter what. I want you to keep fighting because he needs to be taken down and shown that he doesn't always win, but I want us all to have some peace of mind as well. I dunno. I guess the meeting with Lucy will really clear up a lot.
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@CaitBaby (446)
• United States
14 Oct 07
Hey Jess. I do want to continue with this fight. I'm just worried about how Mama is handling all of this. I am so angry about all this though. The family should not have to put up with this. Well, it will all work out eventually, even with our crazy father.
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@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
6 Oct 07
I don't know what you should do Cait. I'd escape because I wouldn't tolerate the abuse. Even if everything monetarily is lost, you still have the support of your mother and her family. Your dad is pretty sick and the less time spent with him the better. I don't know what else I can recommend besides legal action (especially for the fakespace thing). It's gonna be a tough choice and some long fights. But you have more and more people supporting you Cait.
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@CaitBaby (446)
• United States
6 Oct 07
Thank you so much for all your support, progamer. The only reason I am having doubts about taking legal actions is because we don't really have the money to do so right now, and it will probably take years before anything gets done. I just don't know what to do! I'm glad you've been keeping up with my discussons. Thanks again!
