To All Men Out There: What Do You Wish Women Know About You?
By ailema4ever
@ailema4ever (2668)
Finland
October 7, 2007 5:36am CST
I've heard so many times that men and women have a hard time understanding each other, so let's hear what men have to say about women.
Based on men's experiences with women, what are the things you wish women know about you? You know, the moments when you say in your heart, "Oh dear, I just wish she knew!"
Do you sometimes wish women understand a specific need? The need to be respected? The need to be given some space when you are processing some trouble before you can share it with them? The need to have guys night out?
You can also share some specific experiences. I'm just curious about this.
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6 responses
@lpipe0240 (1161)
• United States
7 Oct 07
I wish women would listen to waht I'm saying and not thing there is an motive behind what I am saying. For example I will tell my wife and out fit does not look good on her then she turns and says Oh so now I am fat. NO! I just do not think the outfit look good on her. I did not say she is fat or the outfit makes her look fat.
Other than that, when I was single I wish women understood how shy I am. I'm not one of those guys who can walk up to any women and start talking. Anytime I would get up the nerve to, I get shut down anyhow so that hurt myself esteem. If a guy talks to you, is it really that hard to hold a small converstaion with him....
Just my thoughts
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@ailema4ever (2668)
• Finland
7 Oct 07
Hi, lpipe, THANKS for sharing your personal experiences.
Yes, I understand TOTALLY what you mean about your wife. Women can be insecure in that department sometimes, but I also agree that they shouldn't take things too personally and start finding other meanings behind words.
So you're a shy person, eh? I'm sorry to hear that girls in the past shut you down because of that. I'm glad that you've found a wife, though. ;-D
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@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
7 Oct 07
Quoted for truth Lpipe. You're spot on. Everything you said, completely correct. It should be in bold and bright font in plenty of areas.
@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
7 Oct 07
About me personally?
That I'm really a walking treasure.(just look at my interests here on mylot).
That even though a woman's scorn is worse than Hell's fury, MY scorn is far worse than that... (make sure not to incur it).
That I'm not to be toyed with.
About men in general.
That men are not a partygirl retirement plan.
That men expect a similar kind of behavior when married that matches when they were dating (plenty of women change after the 'i do').
That men do not like Russian Roulette questions ('does this make me look fat', 'why do you go out with the guys', etc).
That if men are supposed to be old-fashioned (paying for dates, buying all the gifts, etc) then why are women exempt from the old-fashioned standard.
That men are sick of being scolded constantly for lying even though women constantly do it themselves and find it excusable.
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@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
8 Oct 07
- Know that I'm not the gift machine.
- Know that I have my own life
- Know that a lot of us aren't worthless (its in plain sight, if you can't see it that's terrible)
- Know that men work pretty hard to provide for their wives and families
- Know that I can see your wandering eye
- Know that I can see your "harmless" flirting
@ailema4ever (2668)
• Finland
8 Oct 07
WOW, programer, more insights! THANKS!!!
Speaking of working hard...I know what you mean. I respect and appreciate my hubby for working hard for us. Now that I'm unemployed since I still have to learn Finnish before I can get a job here, it's really important for me to express my appreciation about my hubby's job in words every now and then. ;-D
@ailema4ever (2668)
• Finland
7 Oct 07
Hey, programer, THANKS for adding your views.
YOUR scorn is far worse than that? Gee...now I shudder. *just kidding* HE he HE...
Being scolded constantly for lying? I never heard of this before. And when it comes to "a similar behaviour when they're married", I guess it applies to guys, as well he he he...
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
7 Oct 07
Lol, I guess there is the 'nothing' answer that I try to get my wife to understand is one thing. You know what I mean, when a guy is irritable or upset and the woman asks 'what's wrong?', he answers with 'Nothing!' What that really means is that yes, something is bothering him, and no, he doesn't want to talk about it right then and there! Once he has had a chance to chew on it for a while, then he may tell the woman what it was that was bothering him!
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@muscare (3068)
• Australia
7 Oct 07
I think there is always going to be this little problem, I think it is a part of a males nature. Were not like women in the way we want to get something off our chest straight away, we don't open up quite so easily, lol! I do know it is because my wife hates to see me struggling with something, and I love it that all she wants to do is help, but I still find it so hard to tell her what's on my mind. After 7 years of marriage, it still hasn't improved a lot, so it probably never will, lol! I'll keep working on it though!
@ailema4ever (2668)
• Finland
7 Oct 07
Well, it's good that you understand this difference, muscare. KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK! I'm sure your wife really appreciates your effort. I think it should go both ways...both men and women should try to understand one another to make it work. ;-D
I think, though, concerning this specific matter, the women have to learn to trust their men and just have to be patient to wait 'coz after all, after they finish chewing on the problems that bother them, they'll tell their women. :-)))
@ailema4ever (2668)
• Finland
7 Oct 07
Yes, I heard about this a lot, too. Hope many women get to read this, then. I think it's a classic example he he he...
I understand that men need time to process it for a while before sharing it with women. But I'm telling you that from a woman's point of view, it is HARD to just sit still without being involved when she sees that her loved one is in trouble. She wants to help out and wants to understand he he he...but THANKS for your response. I hope I'll remember this always so that my hubby doesn't get mad whenever he's doing this he he he...
@ailema4ever (2668)
• Finland
7 Oct 07
THANKS for your response, Shak. Yes, health is number one, so it's good that both parties take care of their physical conditions after marriage. ;-D
I understand about the smiling face and not trying to think about nonsense stuff. ;-D
@dreamstone (129)
• China
8 Oct 07
It discusson is difficult to reply .As a man,what do i wish women know me?i think,i hope she know:1 when i was doing my taste,she shoul not interrupt me,2 don't let me to do something when i stay with my friend.3 when i went to home late,don't ask me where i were go to many times.4.for my wife,blieve in that i do love her.
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@dreamstone (129)
• China
9 Oct 07
yes,you are right,my wife think so as you.i will accept your advice.thanks.
@ailema4ever (2668)
• Finland
8 Oct 07
Noted, dreamstone. Yes, it's true that women and men need their own space so that they're not choked he he he...
Well, I think if you're going to come home late, if you let her know that you're coming home late and you state the reason, she won't ask that question over and over again. I think women are often worried when their spouse come home late if the guys don't tell them early on. I mean, whenever my hubby has gaming nights, he'll tell me about it and he'll tell me that he's coming home late. And when he has to work overtime, he'll also send me SMS so that I won't get worried and I don't have to ask questions from him.
