Is it really tough to stay single?

If your are comfortable in being a 'single', others should not have any problem regarding your status. I think many in this world wish to remain single and they do not face any problems in their status. Being 'single' you are allowed many liberties and freedom, which you do not get, if you are married.

Hi, shameh, I understand your problem. I also felt the pressure when I still lived in Indonesia. Asians tend to be more "critical" about this particular problem. Just HANG TOUGH and try to ignore your friends' words! It's NO guarantee that even though your friends have partners already that they're gonna end up with those guys/girls. Just stay yourself, stay happy, and enjoy being single. In time you'll meet the one for you. You've got the right attitude already. ;-D GOOD for you, Girl! ;-D

shameh, by the time you choose to be single, you will have made up your mind that that indeed, is the best life for you-sure enough you will find it the best-you are your own boss arent you!

Me. I don't choose to stay single its more of I don't have a choice. I don't know how people are able to get partners. I mean what are the chances that the person they like, likes them back?

Is it really difficult to stay Single?? That really all depend on the person in question. I think that if your rather physically attractive, and your have a good heart, yeah eventually you will get a boyfriend, prehaps many and end up gettign married. However, if you more like me, Unattractive & not very pretty, and Obese, unless you decide to "settle" down with another Singl person who's also Obese, and physically Unattractive, you may Never get married. This is only my opinion here, so I hope that No one does get too efended here, because maybe I am one of those Unattractive, Obese individuals. What say you? And Why??

there are times when we feel that it really is tough being single, but its all in our minds gurl.. shame on those people who expects us to be hooked up. i was watching tyra banks show the other day and one of her guest said that you may be single but you are not alone, we have family and friends... we don't have to be with somebody to feel complete. i cant wait for some of my committed friends to approach me and say how jealous they are of me being single. as long as we are not insecure then all is well. i dont want to be hunting for my mate, if he arrives then good if not and what the hey life moves on... i was born single i can die single... fingers crossed! i am not saying that we should be alone, or that it is better to be one (although sometimes it is!) all im saying is that whats the hurry man?!?

So nice to find discussions like this coz i can relate to this! lolz. Im single myself and i know that we experience the sme pressures, same comments from society, especially also that we are in the sme country. These are sometimes the hurdles of being single in a world where most are married couples. However, this is our choice and we choose to be single and happy! We may choose otherwise in the future, we may later choose to settle down and start a family but the important thing is.. that in whatever status we have in life, we always choose to be happy, to be great in everything we do, to be who we really wanna be.. Being single may be tough, but with great faith in GOD, i believe we can truly be happy despite of the occasional "loneliness" we would feel. And isn't it true that singles may be alone but it doesn't mean that they are lonely? :-)

If you haven't found a lover then there is nothing wrong with that. If you are single then there isn't a lover holding you back. What I mean is It is ok for single people to flirt. If you are happy or at least content with being single then that is fine with you. Its not like you want to be in a bad realtionship anyways.

Nope. I dont think so. How can it be tough if youve been single since you were a child. What's tough is to stay married. I'm 26 and I dont mind being single. It doesnt bother me at all. I like being single and I can do anything I want. That doesnt I dont want to have my own family soon. I do. But it wont push myself into entering that status just yet.

Being single might be tough especially at times when you really need to be with someone. It is also lonely considering that you have no one to share your life with. But I am happy being single because it's my choice!

It actually depends on the person involved.. there are both advantages and disadvantages of being a single person. There are really times in life that we want to be alone, that is what we call our "moments of solitude". But since we are social beings and that no man is an island, there are also those times that we really need to belong to share life and thoughts with. So, again.. it still depends on the person involved because after all, LIFE is a CHOICE!

when i was your age i often thought of a romantic relationship with someone special. to my dismay, i never found that someone maybe because i have set a high standard for that kind of person i am looking for. well, i let time pass be by and instead focus on my job...i did a lot of reading to while away the hours and at that time also, photography as a hobby, helped me go through my loneliness and desperations. it was then that i realized i was over 30 years old and still single...and i took this blame on me for being too self-centered and unsociable... but somehow, fate has played its role on me when this beautiful lady approached me while i was alone in the park reading my favorite novel. i felt awkward talking to her, she a total stranger but very pretty...our conversation went on about the book i am reading and i remember replying timidly to her many questions. before leaving she asked if i'm going to return the next day on that bench, and i answered yes. that was the beginning of a beautiful and lasting friendship...i called it serendipity and that was many years ago. now, she is my wife and a mother of our three children. you're still young and i know that sooner you will meet that someone else for you...i find you a woman with great inner strength...and for staying single as a choice is also your freedom to go where your heart dictates you. may i ask before i close this message...which will you take or listen to, your brain or your heart?

I think staying single may be tough at times. Soul mate or spouse is quite different from family. You live together,support each other, share with each other tears and laugh more than anyone else. It feels so great when you wake up in the morning and find the one you love just sleeping by your side. Anyway, be what you wanna be and happy everyday.

It's not bad to stay single. We have freedom. I dont have to worry about someone if i have a partner. To worry about his called true love he gives you, that's should be boring. The lovers around me quarrelled with each other every day. Will not be worse! But when we are old enough, we should set up a family =)If you dont want to be the hostess of a house, then just enjoy your youth! It's very precious =P So,let's think over such a question few years later^&^

I guess it is not tough!!! Sometimes you find a special person in the weirdest places. I guess the "clue" or best advice is not to SEARCH for anyone... just live your life and you´ll see you´ll meet someone special!! Now, if it´s a choice, and for the rest of your life, as you say... I think that you´re too young to tell, maybe in a couple of years more you will meet someone special!! Greetings and good luck

i don't believe its really tough to be single. But much depends on one's personal choice and also the society has something to do in this respect. In my country, people will keep asking you when are you getting married after you are of marriageble age.

As I come from India, it has been a little tough if not very to stay single, because people expect you to have a secure job by 30 and also get married. That's how they think life should be. And it's so stupid. There's nothing wrong in staying single. You can still have open relationships and choose to live an independent life. I am in an open relationship which is totally against my society. But yes, sometimes, I fought against my identity of staying single for a long time. But, that's the best thing to happen to a human being. You have so much of space and independence for yourself. You can use this period for your personal growth as a human being and concentrate on perfecting yourself. I have really enjoyed my years of bachelorhood even though at times I did miss the love of a woman, but on the other hand I learned a lot and I also grew as an individual. But, there will be a time, when all of us would feel the need of a partner and finally find somebody to settle down with. But, even that needs a stage of maturity for the mind to accept that you are ready to settle down with someone whom you think would be suitable for you. But as long as your mind feels comfortable with something, automatically your body and environment would also follow the path of your mind.

There a lot of people who are in a relationship but aren't quite happy. I believe that of all the people who know you, you should know yourself best. You don't have to follow what others tell you if your inner self don't agree with it. There's really nothing wrong with taking your time in choosing to be engaged or to be in a relationship. Because once you're in it, and you decide to get married, it's a lifetime decision which you'll be bound to enjoy or suffer for eternity. Just take your time and enjoy singleblessedness. God bless and take a lot of care.

No its really easy to stay single. Well, easier, to clarify. No laundry lists to meet. No double standards. No overcritical personas to deal with. No BS testing. Far less chance of being garroted or eviscerated. If people are mocking you over it, then whatever. Its really not that hard to be single. For me cooking, cleaning, taking care of myself isn't hard at all. It's very hard (tiring and frustrating) jumping through every hoop ever invented, plus whatever a significant other can invent on the spot.

Please don't go and get married just because it's whats expected. You'll never be happy. I have 3 sons and only one is married the other two are happy single.They work hard and buy what they want to with their money when they want to. If they want to take a vacation they do!! One is 27 the other is 31.